Birth Trauma

This poor little cupcake went off the rails after seeing his missuses giblets while have a C-section.
Put him right off her so he sued them for a full bag.
And more.

https://uk.yahoo.com/news/man-blamed-se ... 30925.html

From experience, I know that a birth is both joyous and terrifying but I've never seen a C-section.

Stories please.

Sounds like he had C-sickness.

I was there for my wife's c section. I didn't see any of her insides though.

What was he married to, a turkey.

Moggy wrote:I was there for my wife's c section. I didn't see any of her insides though.

This. Can see some gore in the background of my pictures but you can't make anything out at all.

I almost died giving birth to Ella. That was trauma enough for me to never want to do it again.

Stick your hand in and root around like a lucky dip.

They asked did I want the curtain down to see the baby come out and I said “no thanks I just ate”

Trip your strawberry floating nuts off, makes it amazing.

Seriously though, one of our friends is having a time of it. She has just had a girl. Her first kid had some kind of heart issue after birth, so she spent most of the time in hospital for the first few months.

The most recent baby is perfectly fine, but because our friend missed out on the early stages of dealing with a baby first time, she's having a rough time with the new baby. She's not having much luck with breast feeding and I assume she feels like she is failing the kid. She has developed mental health issues as a result. Other women haven't really helped by making breast feeding out to be the simplest thing in the world.

Women go through some horrible gooseberry fool, childbirth and after.

I shall hold off showing this to my pregnant fiancee.

Whilst I will obviously be there for the birth, I have no intention of watching from the front row. I'll be beside her until the baby arrives!

I stayed very far away from that end throughout, especially when ended up in the operating theatre.

The whole "you NEED to breast feed" is incredibly old fashioned and causes far more problems. Especially to new mums as it has that connotation of being a "failure". Ours wouldn't latch at all, probably down to her lip tie (she's got a big old gap between her top teeth, but of course no one paid attention to this at the time), so it ended up really affecting the wife. Formula is there for a reason, and as long as baby is being fed one way or another it doesn't matter how.

Squinty wrote:Trip your strawberry floating nuts off, makes it amazing.

Seriously though, one of our friends is having a time of it. She has just had a girl. Her first kid had some kind of heart issue after birth, so she spent most of the time in hospital for the first few months.

The most recent baby is perfectly fine, but because our friend missed out on the early stages of dealing with a baby first time, she's having a rough time with the new baby. She's not having much luck with breast feeding and I assume she feels like she is failing the kid. She has developed mental health issues as a result. Other women haven't really helped by making breast feeding out to be the simplest thing in the world.

Women go through some horrible gooseberry fool, childbirth and after.

Has she thought of using formula or is she set on breast feeding? Formula in the end might be better for her if she feels like she's not breast feeding correctly/it's not working.

Qikz wrote:

Squinty wrote:Trip your strawberry floating nuts off, makes it amazing.

Seriously though, one of our friends is having a time of it. She has just had a girl. Her first kid had some kind of heart issue after birth, so she spent most of the time in hospital for the first few months.

The most recent baby is perfectly fine, but because our friend missed out on the early stages of dealing with a baby first time, she's having a rough time with the new baby. She's not having much luck with breast feeding and I assume she feels like she is failing the kid. She has developed mental health issues as a result. Other women haven't really helped by making breast feeding out to be the simplest thing in the world.

Women go through some horrible gooseberry fool, childbirth and after.

Has she thought of using formula or is she set on breast feeding? Formula in the end might be better for her if she feels like she's not breast feeding correctly/it's not working.

Some new mothers want to do it, but it just doesn't work out for whatever reason.

I think the baby is feeding via formula now, but our friend just feels like a failure as a result. There's been very little support also. Because it is a second child, she is just expected to know how to manage. Seeing as she never really experienced having the first child at home for the first lot of months, she's got a gap in experience and it is causing a lot of anxiety.

What Benzin says is right. There's a bit of a weird thing between women about the topic. It doesn't really help.

I remember when I told my boss at the time I was going to the birth and he told me that in his day he just got a phone call in his office that his wife had given birth, and he took out some cigars and handed them out, I guess that would have been the 1970’s or 80’s. The idea of the man being there was a just weird to him.
I thought being present for the birth of my son was pretty much the most important moment in my life, I’m glad I was there.

jimbojango wrote:I remember when I told my boss at the time I was going to the birth and he told me that in his day he just got a phone call in his office that his wife had given birth, and he took out some cigars and handed them out, I guess that would have been the 1970’s or 80’s. The idea of the man being there was a just weird to him.
I thought being present for the birth of my son was pretty much the most important moment in my life, I’m glad I was there.

Same here. My dad went to work after dropping mum off at the hospital and rang during the day to see how it was going. I remember mum telling me he got that pissed that he told their neighbour she'd had a baby girl.
1972.

I'm a man now though.

Squinty wrote:

Qikz wrote:

Squinty wrote:Trip your strawberry floating nuts off, makes it amazing.

Seriously though, one of our friends is having a time of it. She has just had a girl. Her first kid had some kind of heart issue after birth, so she spent most of the time in hospital for the first few months.

The most recent baby is perfectly fine, but because our friend missed out on the early stages of dealing with a baby first time, she's having a rough time with the new baby. She's not having much luck with breast feeding and I assume she feels like she is failing the kid. She has developed mental health issues as a result. Other women haven't really helped by making breast feeding out to be the simplest thing in the world.

Women go through some horrible gooseberry fool, childbirth and after.

Has she thought of using formula or is she set on breast feeding? Formula in the end might be better for her if she feels like she's not breast feeding correctly/it's not working.

Some new mothers want to do it, but it just doesn't work out for whatever reason.

I think the baby is feeding via formula now, but our friend just feels like a failure as a result. There's been very little support also. Because it is a second child, she is just expected to know how to manage. Seeing as she never really experienced having the first child at home for the first lot of months, she's got a gap in experience and it is causing a lot of anxiety.

What Benzin says is right. There's a bit of a weird thing between women about the topic. It doesn't really help.

The support is pretty much non-existent unless you end up going off the deep end. It's incredibly frustrating and sad that she only ended up getting the right support after we had to get onto the Crisis Team.

It might be worth getting her onto the local Peri-Natal Support unit if there's one nearby if things get worse for her. Plenty of women in there who've had multiple kids and still need the support, but like with most things getting that help and support is almost a dirty word and looked down upon.

I can't speak for the experiences of others but I've felt like the support since bringing my son home has been far better than I ever expected. I'm actually getting bored of having more midwives coming over as there has been that much support. And we've got contact numbers and info dumps for pretty much anything we might need. Honestly, the service has been incredible.

That's some hardcore denial from whatever the father strawberry floated up with to end up divorced, honestly.