Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Sat Jun 30, 2018 2:06 am

Short version, I felt absolutely strawberry floating terrible, like the worst in months. So today I bought a compound mitre circular saw to chop stuff up with.

Family was sprung upon me today, told my mum to shut up "if I could at least say hello" and ran upstairs to go back to bed.

I'm gonna build a bench with the saw, put the saw on that, and build a dining table.

I almost fell down on the stairs AGAIN into the cellar this time dragging it into my cave.

That's my story, I hope you enjoyed it.

Depression is a

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by gamerforever » Sat Jun 30, 2018 7:33 am

So i started group cbt a few weeks ago. It is a bit weird seeing other mental health sufferers sit around you, but makes you realise that people have issues and many are worse than yours.

I’ve had enough of citalopram and medication in general. Without them i am quite agitated and hopeless, but i can focus on my work and get things done, which is most important to me, being self employed.

Need to get back into exercising, which will negate the need to even take medication, but feel no motivation at all.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by deathofcows » Sat Jul 07, 2018 5:15 pm

So how does one find a good therapist then? In Birmingham, say?

I feel like I might benefit.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tsunade » Sun Jul 08, 2018 11:38 am

deathofcows wrote:So how does one find a good therapist then? In Birmingham, say?

I feel like I might benefit.


First step is to go to your doctor's who will tell you to talk to Birmingham healthy minds. They'll give you an assessment to what kind of therapy you may need and will give you a choice of what you can do.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Sun Jul 08, 2018 7:03 pm

Trying out an app on my phone called offtime. It's basically parental controls for yourself. You set up profiles for allowed apps and it blocks the blacklisted ones from running during the time period you select.

You can install it at the device administrator level on Android which makes it a hassle to get rid of (on purpose) and if you quit mid session there's still a 1 minute cool down to make sure you're certain. So yeah of course anything you put on your phone you can take off but the point is to nag you into a single focus and keep you from pointless distraction.

Got a profile for social media, one for sleep that only allows music and podcasts and one that switches everything off and turns my phone into a dumbphone.

I used to think smart phones were amazing but I'm not important enough to need to check my email at every notification, I'm turning the social filter on now for two hours to go read and whatever messages I get in that time will still be there after.

Best decision I've made in a while I think, sometimes it's good not to be instantly reachable if you're feeling antsy.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by still » Sun Jul 08, 2018 7:36 pm

Johnny Ryall wrote:Trying out an app on my phone called offtime. It's basically parental controls for yourself. You set up profiles for allowed apps and it blocks the blacklisted ones from running during the time period you select.

You can install it at the device administrator level on Android which makes it a hassle to get rid of (on purpose) and if you quit mid session there's still a 1 minute cool down to make sure you're certain. So yeah of course anything you put on your phone you can take off but the point is to nag you into a single focus and keep you from pointless distraction.

Got a profile for social media, one for sleep that only allows music and podcasts and one that switches everything off and turns my phone into a dumbphone.

I used to think smart phones were amazing but I'm not important enough to need to check my email at every notification, I'm turning the social filter on now for two hours to go read and whatever messages I get in that time will still be there after.

Best decision I've made in a while I think, sometimes it's good not to be instantly reachable if you're feeling antsy.


An app to cure... apps. Still, good luck with it.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Sun Jul 08, 2018 7:43 pm

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Johnny Ryall wrote:Trying out an app on my phone called offtime. It's basically parental controls for yourself. You set up profiles for allowed apps and it blocks the blacklisted ones from running during the time period you select.

You can install it at the device administrator level on Android which makes it a hassle to get rid of (on purpose) and if you quit mid session there's still a 1 minute cool down to make sure you're certain. So yeah of course anything you put on your phone you can take off but the point is to nag you into a single focus and keep you from pointless distraction.

Got a profile for social media, one for sleep that only allows music and podcasts and one that switches everything off and turns my phone into a dumbphone.

I used to think smart phones were amazing but I'm not important enough to need to check my email at every notification, I'm turning the social filter on now for two hours to go read and whatever messages I get in that time will still be there after.

Best decision I've made in a while I think, sometimes it's good not to be instantly reachable if you're feeling antsy.


An app to cure... apps. Still, good luck with it.


I know sounds ridiculous? But it's habit forming in the hope that maybe I'll read a long form article that has something to say instead of scrolling through FB and insta. I guess the sane thing to do would be delete permanently but I'm not ready for that. :shifty:

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Hime » Sun Jul 08, 2018 7:48 pm

I think it's a good shout mate, I'm getting pissed off with myself for not being able to watch a film or programme without getting the compulsion to look at my phone.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Sun Jul 08, 2018 10:10 pm

I don't use my smartphone at all. It's only on at the moment because my brother is over from Japan and he only uses data and Facebook messenger. Which is honestly quite annoying as it leaves me with no choice if I want to see him.

I recommend just going back to a normal, old phone. You simply do not need apps in your life. Check email once a day from a computer and on Mac I use SelfControl to block sites for 4 hours to an entire day.

Your moment to moment attention on other, present things is generally more valuable than your price to advertisers on deliberately addictive platforms. It's not very different to sugar.

I think it's important to ask when using any interactive media or social media sort of thing, what are you actually getting from this, how is this experience adding to your life?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Mon Jul 09, 2018 10:28 am

Nah I couldn't switch to a feature phone when there are genuine useful applications like Spotify, pocket casts, my fitness Pal, etc. It's just nice to switch a few of the attention grabbing ones off for a while. Especially with one of my friends who likes to just message out of boredom, I love ya buddy but you can wait.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Mon Jul 09, 2018 2:19 pm

If I want those things I just turn the smartphone on but each to their own.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Mon Jul 09, 2018 9:31 pm

Hey if it works for me it will work for someone else.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Karl » Mon Jul 09, 2018 9:49 pm

@Johnny: productivity apps definitely help a lot of people, & fwiw I think using one to disconnect for the sake of unplugging and reducing anxiety is a great idea.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Tue Jul 10, 2018 2:22 am

It's not a bad idea at all, a great one, I do the same thing on desktop. Going cold turkey with distracting stuff is a thing to try too, because I found after a month or so, I just didn't feel I needed it anymore. I sometimes curse the fact I ever got broadband to be honest, 18 years ago.

It's also quite easy to climb down from parental management apps. I've tried so many.

I physically close my laptop regularly, just to do something, anything else when I feel anxious about being unproductive or scrolling or clicking aimlessly. Doing that often makes me feel worse, so I physically stop it. Sometimes it's extremely difficult. But those feelings are destructive, and it's better to just do some cleaning or whatever.

Maybe I need to be more extreme because I have all day, every day available to do this, and I can tell myself I'm "researching" on Instagram. Yeah, sure mate.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Blue Eyes » Mon Jul 16, 2018 11:47 pm

I don’t think I’m properly suffering mental health issues but current events will probably lead me to depression. I’ve mentioned before on these boards that my mum has lung cancer and she’s going to die. She doesn’t smoke, lives a very healthy lifestyle and is generally just a lovely person. She was very nearly able to retire when she got the news. She was massively looking forward to living out the rest of her days travelling. It’s been robbed from her. She’s done a lot better than anticipated. The doctors gave her a year but she’s still doing fairly well 18 months on.

However, she told me the other day when I paid her a visit at home that made me feel sick, furious. My dad is a drunk strawberry floating wank and he’s a massive liability. My mum had asked him to monitor his phone in case she calls. He was getting pissed with one of if arsehole friends and didn’t answer her calls. When she got home and asked him why he didn’t answer his stupid toadying friend stepped in and said he was checking the phone all the time and there were no calls. My mum disputed this and said sh called 5 times but my dad noticed there were only 3.

He took this opportunity not to apologise but to accuse her of being a liar, calling her a banana split at the same time. He then postured in an aggressive manner and pushed her. My mum has a fractured spine (something missed for ages by the doctors) but anyway, she is strawberry floating cancer-ridden and my dad basically abused her. Even if she wasn’t suffering from cancer I’d be sick.

Anyway, I currently live away from home but in a couple of weeks I’ll be moving back there. I really didn’t want to do it but circumstances dictate that I have to. Now that this has happened the prospect is even worse.

Sorry for the long rant. I just needed to get this off my chest. I’ve not told any of my friends in the interests of keeping the peace, at my mum’s request.

Thanks.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Corazon de Leon » Tue Jul 17, 2018 12:01 am

Jesus Christ. Sorry to hear that mate.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Blue Eyes » Tue Jul 17, 2018 1:03 am

Corazon de Leon wrote:Jesus Christ. Sorry to hear that mate.

Thank you.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Tue Jul 17, 2018 2:47 am

Well, I pushed my mum on the shoulder once when I was 18 because she was drunk, cornering and hollering at me about some unfathomable attitude problem because my family attacked me for making toast next to my brother sleeping in an armchair. Yeah figure that out. Alcoholism is a really shitty thing, you're watching its effects and feel like there's nothing you can do. Thankfully, things have changed in the last 10 years but it took a long time.

But a grown man, a husband, it's never OK, not like that. My father was also abusive. I'm sorry you feel you have to support your mum by living in but maybe it's for the best. Just don't forget about yourself.

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