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PostRe: Depression
by Rocsteady » Fri Feb 17, 2017 7:25 pm

If he's depressed it can be difficult to make those adjustments though. When I was really down I used to sail through 21 units most nights, even though I knew it would mentally strawberry float me up the following day.
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PostRe: Depression
by Hime » Mon Feb 27, 2017 12:55 pm

To the people that suffer with anxiety; do you find when something is coming up that makes you anxious it acts as am amplifier to other things in your life?

I'm coming to the end of a holiday and have had very poor sleep the past 3 nights which I put down to getting closer to the flight (bit of a nervous flyer). Yesterday I almost lost my mind as I read a news article that reminded me of something that could have ended terribly...about 10 bloody years ago. Also, I almost clattered a young girl while snowboarding yesterday and I can't stop thinking about what the consequences would have been. Anxiety generally makes me overly cautious and I'm kicking myself for even getting in that position.

Just wondered if this kind of thing is normal? I don't talk to anyone other than my doctor and sometimes my girlfriend about this stuff. A bit gutted really as I thought I'd gotten a handle on this. I can force myself to get through situations that I'm anxious about but the lack of sleep really runs me down.
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PostRe: Depression
by Banjo » Mon Feb 27, 2017 1:09 pm

Oh absolutely. I find that a lot of my life feels like a precarious house of cards, where one thing going wrong can cause the whole thing to come tumbling down. Problems in work? It will bleed into personal life, relationships, hobbies and more.

One of the things to try and work in is your coping mechanisms, having strong enough foundations so that when you get shook it doesn't reverberate through other areas of your life. For some people this takes the form of hobbies, others dig meditation etc. It's a rough ride unfortunately, and the answer isn't actually as straightforward as what I just wrote. Talking about it is a good start though.
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PostRe: Depression
by jawafour » Mon Feb 27, 2017 1:16 pm

Yeah, I can relate to that feeling. I'd love to be the kind of person that can compartmentalise areas of life into different boxes, but - like you guys - I'm someone who often tends to have a lot of over-hang between those differing areas.
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PostRe: Depression
by Hime » Mon Feb 27, 2017 3:20 pm

Thanks guys, I'm trying hard not to just deal with this by chucking tablets down my neck but I am finding that when it gets bad my decision making can become poor and I can make a situation dangerous. Driving and work are where this happens most. Alternatively, I end up fixating on something that happened hours, days, year ago and I guess it must be like a panic attack as I beat myself up over what could have happened.

Do you guys still get affected by things that happened years ago if something reminds you of it? Drives me mad getting wound up about situations that nothing bad actually happened.
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by Banjo » Mon Feb 27, 2017 3:56 pm

Yuuuuuuuup. Some things will linger for a long time, and if they do flare up I think you should take that as a sign that it needs addressing. Everybody thinks about some things long after the fact, but if it still has an effect on you then it's likely a sign that you haven't properly moved on. It's not easy though, and the fact is some people will never get past some issues if they're that deeply rooted. But you can at least manage it, not let it have complete control over you.

When you find yourself getting wound up, don't try and ignore it and push it away. Really take the time to acknowledge it and work out why it still gets to you. It's not a guarantee that you will ever truly be rid of it, but at least you'll have a better understanding, and from there can work on how to minimise and combat it. Me personally, I'll always negatively compare myself to others. I honestly don't believe that I will be truly able to stop myself from doing it, but by being aware of that I can at least rationalise the thought process and minimise the damage. For example, seeing dudes that are either musical, artistic (in the sense of drawing/painting), peformative, just plain handsome or combinations of the above: What I tell myself is that those are all things I could pursue myself, but deep down I don't actually want to. I got into the gym a couple years ago and could have properly dedicated my time there to getting bigger, but instead my interest went towards yoga and dance. Perspective, taking the time to analyse why I feel that way and calm myself down in the process.

You'll likely never stop beating yourself up over things, but you don't have to be dominated by it.
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PostRe: Depression
by more heat than light » Mon Feb 27, 2017 4:28 pm

Got a letter in the post today offering to electrocute my brain. :lol: :dread:

I mean, having checked out the website (if you're curious it's here) it seems like it's legit but strawberry floating hell, the idea of that just fills me with dread. Anyone tried anything like that at all?
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PostRe: Depression
by Banjo » Mon Feb 27, 2017 4:37 pm

Man I am totally down for mad gooseberry fool like that. My bad spells get increasingly more vicious and in those states I would be more than willing to have some crazy stuff done.
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PostRe: Depression
by more heat than light » Mon Feb 27, 2017 4:47 pm

Yeah, I think it's just the hypochondria kicking in. I know it's safe but I'd be shit-scared of something going wrong, and if something goes wrong with your brain, well, you get the idea.
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PostRe: Depression
by Trelliz » Mon Feb 27, 2017 6:09 pm

more heat than light wrote:Got a letter in the post today offering to electrocute my brain. :lol: :dread:

I mean, having checked out the website (if you're curious it's here) it seems like it's legit but strawberry floating hell, the idea of that just fills me with dread. Anyone tried anything like that at all?


That looks and sounds like snake oil - any medical "cure" which has to advertise through the post is looking to take your money first and foremost.
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PostRe: Depression
by more heat than light » Mon Feb 27, 2017 7:37 pm

Trelliz wrote:
more heat than light wrote:Got a letter in the post today offering to electrocute my brain. :lol: :dread:

I mean, having checked out the website (if you're curious it's here) it seems like it's legit but strawberry floating hell, the idea of that just fills me with dread. Anyone tried anything like that at all?


That looks and sounds like snake oil - any medical "cure" which has to advertise through the post is looking to take your money first and foremost.


Sorry, I should have mentioned this was sent to me through my counselling group and would be funded by the NHS.
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PostRe: Depression
by Gently-Parted Ringpiece » Mon Feb 27, 2017 8:04 pm

Trelliz wrote:
more heat than light wrote:Got a letter in the post today offering to electrocute my brain. :lol: :dread:

I mean, having checked out the website (if you're curious it's here) it seems like it's legit but strawberry floating hell, the idea of that just fills me with dread. Anyone tried anything like that at all?


That looks and sounds like snake oil - any medical "cure" which has to advertise through the post is looking to take your money first and foremost.


Electro therapy is a path well trodden.
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PostRe: Depression
by Karl » Mon Feb 27, 2017 8:11 pm

Electroshock therapy can be helpful - transformative, even - in cases of depression that are incurable by other means. It is usually prescribed as a last resort though, so I would be worried about accessing the treatment through a path that doesn't directly involve your GP.
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PostRe: Depression
by Lotus » Tue Feb 28, 2017 12:02 pm

I've been on a bit of a downer for a few days now…I know exactly what started it though (something quite pathetic really, which perhaps compounds any negative feelings), and I know through past experience that it will pass in a few days and things will be 'okay' again. It's good being at the point where I can recognise that, but it doesn't lessen the impact it has. I can easily see how feelings of negativity (or worse) can - for some people - overtake and dominate their lives. All of the things like work and relationships just feel so unimportant, at least for me, and having to carry on with it all as though everything's fine is pretty difficult. I feel fortunate that I've found a way to manage/push-through phases like this, and that they do just seem to be phases (and they happen less frequently and for shorter periods of time than in the past). It's crushing though when life feels like something you just need to 'get through', and when you're in the middle of something like that and just can't see a way out.
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PostRe: Depression
by Green Gecko » Tue Mar 14, 2017 3:45 pm

Hello. I'm just checking in.

Re anxiety I had a go at my girlfriend because of a cable I imagined tripping down an breaking my neck at the bottom of the stairs and her finding me dead and crying. So yes, it amplifies stupid gooseberry fool.

I really recommend mindfulness /meditation eg headspace app.
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PostRe: Depression
by Corazon de Leon » Tue Mar 14, 2017 8:05 pm

I've been trying mindfulness at night and in the morning and it hasn't strawberry floating worked. I'm still constantly anxious just now and I still can't prioritise my thoughts properly.
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PostRe: Depression
by DrDoom » Wed Mar 15, 2017 6:55 pm

How long have you been trying? It took me a few weeks before it kind of "took root" as it were.
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PostRe: Depression
by Corazon de Leon » Wed Mar 15, 2017 8:38 pm

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PostRe: Depression
by Ad7 » Thu Apr 20, 2017 8:54 am

Feel like utter gooseberry fool at the moment.

At the weekend my mrs took exception to something that I didn't even do (misread something I did and took it completely the wrong way) and proceeded to shout at me for nearly a solid hour. She also threw in some really hurtful gooseberry fool which was totally uncalled for and it just broke me. I had what I assume an emotional breakdown feels like because I was strawberry floating hysterical. I've never cried like that before, absolutely howling, I had no way of stopping it, just curled up screaming. I had some really dark thoughts that night where I was thinking of walking in to the field and slitting my throat. I dont know whats going on, maybe it's stuff about my parents bottled up (that's still relatively recent, especially with my dad) combined with the job stuff.

I dont know.
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PostRe: Depression
by Gently-Parted Ringpiece » Thu Apr 20, 2017 9:01 am

Probably just the work situation combined with the bird being a crazy bitch. No solution for it other than riding it out until the other side innit.

If thats taking too long then maybe speak to a doc.

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