Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Fade » Thu Apr 26, 2018 8:45 am

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Fade wrote:I need some advice, my girlfriend was in an abusive relationship before being with me which has just really messed with her head.

We've been together a year but she will constantly ask me if I think she is annoying or hate her, I'm being as supportive as I can but she doesn't really seem to be getting any better and I don't know what to do. There's no real public services that deal with the kind of mental health problems she suffers from.

Every so often she we just freak out and tell me to leave (over literally nothing, or me changing plans because I feel ill)

Like last Sunday I spent 5 hours just sitting next to her while she cried and talked about wanting to die, I said all of the things you're meant to say to a depressed person but at the end of the five hours she tried to go in the kitchen and I assume take an overdose of paracetamol (she had taken 8 tablets at once that morning) but I stopped her and hugged her for like 10 minutes while she cried and she calmed down a while after that.

Sorry if that seems like a bit too much information I just really needed to get it down and ask for some help

She needs to get some therapy ASAP. Unfortunately this will cost a lot of money.

Like I said, she already goes and it does cost a lot.

But it bums her out every time she goes and I don't think she wants to go anymore.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Fri May 11, 2018 9:02 pm

In a strawberry floating foul mood today. Woke up to the Frightened Rabbit news which was just heartbreaking, then at work our boss said for the first time in 20 years she's not sure about the future of our site (I'm sure most of you know where I work but I won't say in case it bites me on the ass).

I've been strict with diet and exercise this year but bollocks to it this weekend.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Jazzem » Wed May 16, 2018 2:57 pm

Johnny Ryall wrote:In a strawberry floating foul mood today. Woke up to the Frightened Rabbit news which was just heartbreaking, then at work our boss said for the first time in 20 years she's not sure about the future of our site (I'm sure most of you know where I work but I won't say in case it bites me on the ass).

I've been strict with diet and exercise this year but bollocks to it this weekend.


Hope this week's going better for you fella :)

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Wed May 16, 2018 3:21 pm

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Johnny Ryall wrote:In a strawberry floating foul mood today. Woke up to the Frightened Rabbit news which was just heartbreaking, then at work our boss said for the first time in 20 years she's not sure about the future of our site (I'm sure most of you know where I work but I won't say in case it bites me on the ass).

I've been strict with diet and exercise this year but bollocks to it this weekend.


Hope this week's going better for you fella :)



Ish, thanks man.

I had a big pizza loads of cake and beer and came out at a net zero on the scales so not too much damage done. :)

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Jazzem » Wed May 16, 2018 3:38 pm

Johnny Ryall wrote:
Jazzem wrote:
Johnny Ryall wrote:In a strawberry floating foul mood today. Woke up to the Frightened Rabbit news which was just heartbreaking, then at work our boss said for the first time in 20 years she's not sure about the future of our site (I'm sure most of you know where I work but I won't say in case it bites me on the ass).

I've been strict with diet and exercise this year but bollocks to it this weekend.


Hope this week's going better for you fella :)



Ish, thanks man.

I had a big pizza loads of cake and beer and came out at a net zero on the scales so not too much damage done. :)


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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by The Alchemist Penguin » Thu May 17, 2018 5:41 pm

Hey all,

Bit of a double whammy story for you this evening, but also just a private place to share my story and vent a bit.

So I've had bouts of anxiety for years, but after getting help with coping strategies when I was a teen (and spending a lot of time on here to get away from it all! ) they have generally been pretty rare occurrences that I've always been able to deal with.

When I was a teen, and was first discovering what this was, one of the suggestions was to confide in friends who might help. Sadly, that wasn't a good experience for me and the end result was that I lost some of my friends due to it. It's regrettable, but I don't hold it against them. We were young, my anxiety wasn't that well understood, and their intentions were good... if impatient and insensitive.

Anyway, the result from that was that I've largely flew solo ever since and none of my current friends knew anything about it. So when I had bouts of anxiety I would just deal with it by myself. I didn't want to risk confiding and losing my friends again.

A few weeks ago I was talking to a mate and he was having a bad time. He seemed quite upset about work and stuff, and I could tell he wasn't feeling the best. We were chatting about it, and he confides in me that he believes he has been suffering from depression and that it has been really bad recently. So I told him about my anxiety, and ever since we've been talking about it pretty openly and I've been sharing some of my experiences with him to see if they help his situation.

However ever since then my anxiety has came back really really strongly. It feels like telling him has opened some sort of Pandora's box, and I've been all over the place with regards to my mood. It's the worst it's been in years. It feels like I'm waiting for the axe to fall and to now lose this group of friends the same way I lost the last one. I know it's irrational, but it still really strawberry floating sucks and it's left me in such an exhausted state.

Mental Health Week has also had lots of friends and colleagues at work sharing their anxiety and depression stories, and some of them suffer far far more than I do. Yet I'm seemingly in a foul mood because I'm worried the person I've told will gossip about it, despite all the evidence that suggests my friends and work would be incredibly supportive. It's such an exhausting contradiction, and makes me think that I would feel a lot better if I could just own my anxiety and not be so terrified of people having a bad reaction to finding out. Apparently easier said than done though.

My main worry however is my friend's depression. I can tell he's not in a good place, but he's not yet got any help for it. I know he needs to take the first step himself, but I was wondering if people might have some suggestions around the process for seeking help? He seems to think that any help would be behind a long waiting list, but I'd love to provide him with some resources or just be more knowledgeable so I could point him in the right direction when we talk about it.

Thanks for listening.

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by Karl » Thu May 17, 2018 8:40 pm

Hi TAP. Sorry to hear about your anxiety, and about your friend's depression. It sounds like you are both going through a tough time at the moment.

I wanted to share some of my experiences & advice with both you & your friend in case it helps at all.

Re: your friend: My experience being treated for anxiety and depression - and having friends & family who have gone through the same thing - is that one can often access medication immediately upon visiting a GP, particularly if you tell them up front that you'd like to access that kind of treatment. Could your friend be convinced to try medication and see whether it helps? Many people (like me!) are resistant at first, try it reluctantly, and then one day they find they're functioning again and they realise they made a smart move.

Exactly which prescription he ends up with will depend on the details of his symptoms and on his GP, but since there are antidepressants with good safety profiles which also have antianxiety action - sertraline comes to mind - I would think it likely that he will leave with one script for a single pill to take once a day before bed. He'd have a follow-up appointment a little while later (mine was about a fortnight) to see whether the medication is having the desired effect. If it isn't, they'll try something different until it does work. (It was third time lucky for me.)

He is also likely to be referred to go have therapy. There will be a waiting list for that. This can take more or less time depending on the nature of the therapy and which resources are available in your local area. If there's a counselling charity set up in your area and your friend is a candidate for that, then the wait can be as short as a few weeks; if he's referred to an NHS psychiatrist the wait can be several months. (If your friend is suicidal he will be higher-priority and may be able to see someone much sooner.)

Re: you: It's genuinely commendable that you opened up to your friend to support him, even though it opened a can of worms for you. I am sure he appreciates it, and will appreciate it even more in retrospect once he seeks help and starts to feel better. You should feel good about showing him that kindness.

I can completely understand why you feel anxious about having been open with a colleague about your illness. Mental health issues are still commonly stigmatised in wider society, and you've lost friends to people misunderstanding your anxiety before. It sounds to me like you feel you've 'lost control' of something you'd prefer was totally under wraps - the knowledge that you have anxiety - and that that is therefore causing you to feel more anxiety.

All I can say is that, in circles where nerds work together (like at your office!), mental health problems are both surprisingly common and very well supported in my experience. I think your friend is unlikely to gossip, but for your own peace of mind you could 'come out' and therefore control that narrative. In the same way that you respect and sympathise with your colleagues' problems, I'm sure they would be supportive of you. I work in a similar environment to you, and have been 'out' as a sufferer of mental health problems at work since day one. No-one has ever shown me any malice or disrespect. (Sometimes people might be a little ignorant and might say the wrong thing, but there's no ill-will behind it, so I've found it works best to just gently set the record straight & move on.)

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by The Alchemist Penguin » Fri May 18, 2018 9:27 am

Thanks for the detailed response, Karl. It means a lot! :wub:

It's interesting that you likened my current spike in anxiety to a lack of narrative control. I've had similar thoughts myself, especially with watching people (even colleagues at work) discuss it as part of mental health walk. It's something I'm going to work on, as I believe you're right in it being the right course of action.

I actually told a second friend last night, and much like the first they were endlessly supportive. It left me feeling a lot better, for sure. As the opportunity arises, I plan to share it with my other friends too, until it stops being something I'm worried about.

That is all good knowledge with regards to seeking help for depression too. I was discussing the possibility with my friend in question and while he has a strong negative reaction to the idea of medication, he does seem to be coming around to at least discussing the severity of his symptoms with a GP.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Sat May 26, 2018 8:38 pm

Finished my final dental appointment yesterday after 2 years of repeated visits due to an adolescence of not giving a gooseberry fool about my health and a general phobia. This last crown was the last piece of the puzzle and as far as I'm concerned I have my smile back after 10+ years of rot. The immediate difference this has made to my confidence and mood in general is crazy. For a long time I'd literally suppress smiles around strangers lest anyone see the mess inside my gob.

So this strawberry floating rules. Just thought this thread should note the ups with the downs and that self care is so important.

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by Karl » Sat May 26, 2018 10:38 pm

That's awesome, congrats! :D

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by shadow202 » Thu May 31, 2018 11:58 pm

I should probably speak to a professional about this but strawberry float it I like the amaninity (think thats spelt wrong) of this place.

Anyway I tried to kill myself approx. two years ago by overdosing and it was obviously unsuccessful but I've never gotten over the feeling that I'll be punished for trying to commit such a sin (I'm not religious but both my parents are and I've been brought up in a religious home)

So the issue was both depression and anxiety. Now I keep having this dream / thought that my all my immediate family has died in a motorway pile up car crash and its seriously bumming me out, I've no idea how to feel less stressed about it or how to stop letting the dreams get to me and how to stop thinking this is somehow my fault because I tried to overdose and it did no long term damage to me.

Right now I'm at strawberry float this gooseberry fool but nowhere near the thought of killing myself again because I don't think I'll ever sink that low again

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by Jazzem » Fri Jun 01, 2018 12:50 pm

shadow202 wrote:I should probably speak to a professional about this but strawberry float it I like the amaninity (think thats spelt wrong) of this place.

Anyway I tried to kill myself approx. two years ago by overdosing and it was obviously unsuccessful but I've never gotten over the feeling that I'll be punished for trying to commit such a sin (I'm not religious but both my parents are and I've been brought up in a religious home)

So the issue was both depression and anxiety. Now I keep having this dream / thought that my all my immediate family has died in a motorway pile up car crash and its seriously bumming me out, I've no idea how to feel less stressed about it or how to stop letting the dreams get to me and how to stop thinking this is somehow my fault because I tried to overdose and it did no long term damage to me.

Right now I'm at strawberry float this gooseberry fool but nowhere near the thought of killing myself again because I don't think I'll ever sink that low again


Hang in there fella <3 You're stronger than you know.

I reckon cognitive based therapy would help there, though obviously it'd be best to hear from a professional. I do think CBT would help challenge those intrusive thoughts , put them in an internal court room where their lack of evidence will weaken their influence.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Fri Jun 01, 2018 7:13 pm

Yeah dude I never know what to say to other folk in the middle of it because I'm up and down myself but we are here and you are not alone!

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by No:1 Final Fantasy Fan » Thu Jun 07, 2018 10:12 am

Arrgghh been having depressed and anxiety like feelings for the past 3 weeks.
When I get these feelings I lose all my appetite. So having to force eat. Been waking up throughout the night. To be fair it’s not been like this every day. I tend to feel better on weekends when I go home and just chill in my home town.

Problem is I think in general I can’t stop myself from comparing myself to others. Things like personal life and life experiences in general. I keep feeling inadequate compared to others and I know each to their own so I shouldn’t compare.

Also recently got friend zoned by someone who I didn’t even like to begin with. I don’t know why it’s even affecting me so much because it’s not like I was dating...that hadn’t even started.

It goes a lot deeper tbh other issues I have which I don’t normally think about. But don’t we all.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Thu Jun 07, 2018 2:09 pm

I'm looking forward to reading Matt Haig's Notes on a Nervous Planet

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by Tragic Magic » Thu Jun 07, 2018 9:24 pm

This probably isn't the right thread for a comment like this but it just occurred to me how much I hate people that are younger than me. I'm only 28 but I hate the 20 year old at work because I make up ideas about what he'll be doing 8 years from now and how he'll probably be doing lots better than I am.

I don't like feeling like it but I can't help it. I just feel really bitter. Another example I have is this 23 year old I worked with last year who I actually got on really well with. But now the sight of his smiling pictures on Facebook just piss me off.

I think it probably stems from the fact that I left school and stayed in the same job for 8 years. And just as I started to make leaps and bounds and progress to a position I was proud of, I was made redundant. Then my next job, although I loved the work and the money, I couldn't cope with the CEO's nasty behaviour to the point where I was having panic attacks and ended up quitting. And now, even though I just completed my three year long AAT studies, I'm just doing temp work in a shittily paid, accounts payable assistant role. Pretty much the same job I had when I left school, 12 strawberry floating years ago with no experience.

It's just really shitty. Like I feel gooseberry fool because I'm basically doing the job of a retard and can't see myself ever doing well. But then I think when I was doing well, I felt gooseberry fool because being in a better position just brings a whole new heap of stress. But I just feel like what I'm doing now is totally beneath me and I'm wasting my qualifications and time.

And then just now, looking for jobs, I see that the company I quit are advertising (yet again) for the role I left as well as a management accountant role. Like it's so infuriating. Maybe if the company owner and his pleb family weren't all strawberry floating banana splits, they wouldn't have to keep re-recruiting every other month. And I'd be a management accountant doing really well for myself.

EDIT - I was only going to post that I hate young people but I guess there's a deeper issue.

I am genuinely starting to think though that this is how I'll feel forever. Like it's my resting "happy" state, if you get what I mean.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by No:1 Final Fantasy Fan » Fri Jun 08, 2018 9:55 am

Don’t worry I believe we all change in how we think and feel overtime.
Stop comparing yourself to the younger people, there are always people much older than yourself who are in lower positions than you are. Everyone is different do not compare.
Having said all that I am having issues comparing my personal life with younger people that I have met recently and it is so depressing.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by False » Fri Jun 08, 2018 10:36 am

I have some scans at the hospital tomorrow for a mystery abdominal illness which has had me off work for nearly a month now. Its been bothering me for probably over a year but its recently much worse. Cant really walk or be stood for more than around 30 seconds without escalating pain. Started feeling a lump inside which is probably nothing but best to have it checked.

Im just a bit tired of it all really. Im pretty convinced this scan will just show its all in my head, but then what do I do? I cant work as I cant even walk out to the car without pain. My gf is pretty chill but I feel like its putting a lot of pressure on us. I mean, I cant really strawberry float or party or go for walks or anything. I cant eat out because the docs have me on this mega restrictive diet. I cant even walk around the supermarket with her.

Anyway shes angry at me now because halfway through writing this we were checking the lump and its quite big and hard and she wants me to go to the hospital.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by <]:^D » Fri Jun 08, 2018 2:49 pm

jesus christ False those symptoms dont sound great i hope it isnt anything serious :dread:

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Karl » Fri Jun 08, 2018 3:04 pm

Falsey mate, those symptoms aren't in your head. I don't want to cause an argument between you and your partner but she's right -- if you have a large hard lump in your abdomen and you're in chronic pain then you need to go get it scanned ASAP.


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