Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Fri Jan 13, 2017 6:25 pm

God, my strawberry floating depression has hit me hard this last week.

I feel like I'm back where I was before therapy.

Every time I try and talk to someone I feel like a burden to them, even when it's just a casual conversation.

I feel like punching my head when I'm out and about.

I don't start work until 3pm most days but all I've been able to do is sit at home and flick between the same 4 websites for like 5 hours while feeling like crying. Despite wanting to do other things.

I don't know what to do =/

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PostRe: Depress
by still » Fri Jan 13, 2017 11:31 pm

Fade wrote:God, my strawberry floating depression has hit me hard this last week.

I feel like I'm back where I was before therapy.

Every time I try and talk to someone I feel like a burden to them, even when it's just a casual conversation.

I feel like punching my head when I'm out and about.

I don't start work until 3pm most days but all I've been able to do is sit at home and flick between the same 4 websites for like 5 hours while feeling like crying. Despite wanting to do other things.

I don't know what to do =/


I've suffered from anxiety and depression most of my life. But I tend to find that not acting like a self-absorbed twat is helpful. Why on earth do you think anyone would give a gooseberry fool when you act like an arsehole?

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PostRe: Depression
by <]:^D » Sat Jan 14, 2017 2:22 am

wut?

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PostRe: Depression
by more heat than light » Sat Jan 14, 2017 7:09 am

still, I suggest you delete that post and consider your conduct for a while. That kind of abuse, especially in this thread is really quite dangerous.

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Sat Jan 14, 2017 8:59 am

*<]:^D wrote:wut?

He doesn't like my opinion on the Nintendo switch. Wasn't being abusive or rude, just debating about the switch...

Yes really.

Don't worry I'm not taking him seriously, he's acting very over the top for whatever reason.

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PostRe: RE: Re: Depression
by shadow202 » Sat Jan 14, 2017 9:17 am

Fade wrote:
*&lt;]:^D wrote:wut?

He doesn't like my opinion on the Nintendo switch. Wasn't being abusive or rude, just debating about the switch...

Yes really.

Don't worry I'm not taking him seriously, he's acting very over the top for whatever reason.

There's acting over the top and then there's being a complete bellend in a very serious thread where people share details of their mental health issues that can have serious effects and consequences, wouldn't exactly say it's a thread for spilling over petty arguments

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PostRe: Depression
by 1>3>4>2 » Sat Jan 14, 2017 3:43 pm

Jeez Nintendo fanboys get heated.

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PostRe: Depression
by Gently-Parted Ringpiece » Sat Jan 14, 2017 3:57 pm

video games are very serious business

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Sat Jan 14, 2017 4:00 pm

Falsey's Sack wrote:video games are very serious business

Especially Nintendo games. They tackle very serious subjects.

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PostRe: Depression
by jawafour » Sat Jan 14, 2017 4:08 pm

I don't condone still's post... but I think it was a "heat of the moment" thing. still has been a terrific sounding block and point of advice for many people in this thread and I don't recall seeing him post like that before.

Fade, I feel you were acting in a rather annoying manner in the Games threads last evening; provoking people unnecessarily. You admitted as much whilst posting. It was the kind of thing that could (and, sadly, did) get peoples backs up. But, yes, still shouldn't have taken the argument into this thread.

1>3>4>2 wrote:Jeez Nintendo fanboys get heated.

Oh dear.

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PostRe: Depression
by still » Sat Jan 14, 2017 8:09 pm

Thank you Jawa. I agree that I was massively out of order posting what I posted in this thread. I'm not going to delete it - that would just be stupid, I said what I said. But the guy was being a huge prick in the Switch thread for no justifiable reason. Why deliberately set out to spoil other people's fun? What is clever about that? I've said it before, I'll say it again, I do not suffer fools gladly, I know I shouldn't rise and bite but I do. (I did the same with Hugo not long ago. Then you end up in a position, like yesterday/today where you fundamentally agree with someone but can no longer talk to them... Sorry Hugo, agree with you on Switch reveal though not as pessimistic for the medium/long term.) Something to work on I know.... The sad thing is, I try and help people on here going through what I have been through. Fade strikes me as someone who could do with support but if you just set out to wind people up then you're not going to win many friends. I remember once Fade correcting me, wisely, over some aspect of Buddhism. What has become of that wiser person? The funny thing is I'm now being accused of being some sort of rabid Nintendo fan but I'm not! For what it is worth I think the Switch looks like a really excellent system but, there is absolutely no reason to buy it until Mario comes out - I'll be playing Zelda on the WiiU thank you. I agree with much of the negativity swirling around yesterday's reveal. But, trying to be a smartarse about it and just having a go because it's easy and cheap is not the way, not for me anyway. So, in summary I ballsed up, massively, yet again, too much passion, not enough restraint.....

Btw, Chalky's comment did make me laugh, at myself I hasten to add.

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Sat Jan 14, 2017 8:16 pm

still wrote:Thank you Jawa. I agree that I was massively out of order posting what I posted in this thread. I'm not going to delete it - that would just be stupid, I said what I said. But the guy was being a huge prick in the Switch thread for no justifiable reason. Why deliberately set out to spoil other people's fun? What is clever about that? I've said it before, I'll say it again, I do not suffer fools gladly, I know I shouldn't rise and bite but I do. Something to work on I know.... The sad thing is, I try and help people on here going through what I have been through. Fade strikes me as someone who could do with support but if you just set out to wind people up then you're not going to win many friends. I remember once Fade correcting me, wisely, over some aspect of Buddhism. What has become of that wiser person? The funny thing is I'm now being accused of being some sort of rabid Nintendo fan but I'm not! For what it is worth I think the Switch looks like a really excellent system but, there is absolutely no reason to buy it until Mario comes out - I'll be playing Zelda on the WiiU thank you. I agree with much of the negativity swirling around yesterday's reveal. But, trying to be a smartarse about it and just having a go because it's easy and cheap is not the way, not for me anyway. So, in summary I ballsed up, yet again, too much passion, not enough restraint.....

Btw, Chalky's comment did make me laugh, at myself I hasten to add.

I want to try and understand you.

What exactly did I say that made you so angry?

Because from my point of view I was disappointed with the console reveal and the decisions they made and as such was tearing the console a new one.
I wasn't trying to spoil anyone's fun, that was just my opinion on the console. If someone defends it I'm going to tell them why I think they are wrong. If you don't like my opinion just set my posts to ignore.

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PostRe: Depression
by still » Sat Jan 14, 2017 8:26 pm

Fade wrote:
still wrote:Thank you Jawa. I agree that I was massively out of order posting what I posted in this thread. I'm not going to delete it - that would just be stupid, I said what I said. But the guy was being a huge prick in the Switch thread for no justifiable reason. Why deliberately set out to spoil other people's fun? What is clever about that? I've said it before, I'll say it again, I do not suffer fools gladly, I know I shouldn't rise and bite but I do. Something to work on I know.... The sad thing is, I try and help people on here going through what I have been through. Fade strikes me as someone who could do with support but if you just set out to wind people up then you're not going to win many friends. I remember once Fade correcting me, wisely, over some aspect of Buddhism. What has become of that wiser person? The funny thing is I'm now being accused of being some sort of rabid Nintendo fan but I'm not! For what it is worth I think the Switch looks like a really excellent system but, there is absolutely no reason to buy it until Mario comes out - I'll be playing Zelda on the WiiU thank you. I agree with much of the negativity swirling around yesterday's reveal. But, trying to be a smartarse about it and just having a go because it's easy and cheap is not the way, not for me anyway. So, in summary I ballsed up, yet again, too much passion, not enough restraint.....

Btw, Chalky's comment did make me laugh, at myself I hasten to add.

I want to try and understand you.

What exactly did I say that made you so angry?

Because from my point of view I was disappointed with the console reveal and the decisions they made and as such was tearing the console a new one.
I wasn't trying to spoil anyone's fun, that was just my opinion on the console. If someone defends it I'm going to tell them why I think they are wrong. If you don't like my opinion just set my posts to ignore.


Hello Fade. Thank you for your post. I am sorry, deeply, for how I treated you last night. It was completely, utterly, out of order. I will come back to you, perhaps by PM, if you don't mind, as to why I just found what you were posting to be offensive. To be honest it wasn't me that was bothered but I was more bothered that other people were getting upset, if that makes sense? I kind of weighed in to support them. I've had a drink or two right now so I think it would be best if I came back to you tomorrow..... Pretty sure we can resolve this amicably thanks to your post above. Take care.

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PostRe: Depression
by Green Gecko » Tue Jan 17, 2017 2:04 pm

I think it's nice that despite all the difficulties that these problems present we still have a common interest to get passionate about, or even angry/upset about, and sometimes, a distraction from the more serious matters at hand. I do thank video games for that. I've has meltdowns on here too. Let's just treat each other well.

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:59 pm

I find it continually frustrating how people without depression don't understand it, even when you try and explain it to them multiple times.

"Oh well you go to work so why do you have a problem doing laundry?"

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PostRe: Depression
by jawafour » Tue Feb 07, 2017 9:14 pm

Fade wrote:..."Oh well you go to work so why do you have a problem doing laundry?"

The effects of depression can be pretty strange. For many years I went to work and I suspect that no-one would have thought a thing was wrong. I worked like a nutter with total dedication; I exuded positivity and I could keep hundreds of plates spinning (figuratively, of course :) ). Yet in the evenings and weekends I could barely get myself out of bed; I felt so dark and down for such a long time.

Like many things, it's hard to build a good understanding of something unless you've experienced it.

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PostRe: Depression
by Green Gecko » Wed Feb 08, 2017 12:34 am

Had to leave a co working space because a bastard there started yelling at me about feck all at the pub and it got a bit violent. Had an anxiety attack and was literally crying. Realised I couldn't go and feel anxious and vulnerable around people like that with no code of conduct in place. It's like if grcade had no rules against trolling or bullying except it was your place of work and somewhere you go to get away from the house, which in itself is hard enough if you suffer from anxiety.

And the irony is the space is supposed to be there for people to avoid isolation working from home, yet this prat lectured me about needing to "stay off forums and experience the real world more". What a giant banana split. That's why I strawberry floating went there, so thanks for shitting all over that you insensitive, belligerent prick. For 8 months, since last May, that is exactly what I was trying to do and spend some £600 in membership fees for the privilege.

I even told this guy in earnest that I had anxiety and to please refrain from berating me (which he was doing in public).

This was all building up for a few months as I'm the kind of person that just says, "ok sorry I upset you :simper:" but was at the end of my tether. It's not appropriate in a workplace/community hub to berate others repeatedly.

I complained to the facilitator people twice and ended up just cancelling the membership and saving myself money. Now there's rumblings of writing some actual rules for the place, hmm what a bright idea.

No surprising yet still disappointing that workplaces where nobody works for anyone else and it's just meant to be a nice space still contain dicks who want to gooseberry fool on everyone else's parade. Honestly I've rarely met other people with such shocking lack of respect, especially in a professional space, albeit one that is still supposed to be fun.

I guess some people confuse "having fun" with "being a jerk".

So I'll be pretty isolated for a while as I observe, a "voluntarily suspension of membership", which the other guy was encouraged to take (it would seem as at least some sort of consequence after I complained). But not currently planning on going back. Why subject myself to dickheads when I'm trying to move mountains and rearrange my life around my needs and get better from all these brain problems.. Answer: I shouldn't. strawberry float them.

The thing that sucks is all the hundred odd people I met I won't have access to anymore. I get really tired of negotiating around bad people sometimes, and I don't think anyone really understands how hard I try to get on with everyone (and usually do). Maybe the truth is actually I try way too hard, and need to think more often, "ok sir, I can see that you are banana split, talk to the hand" and just dissect those people from my mind and move on.

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PostRe: Depression
by Rocsteady » Wed Feb 08, 2017 9:44 am

Did you not add any of the nicer folk on Facebook and could just invite them out for a drink?

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PostRe: Depression
by Rapidly-Greying » Wed Feb 08, 2017 9:45 am

Giant banana split indeed

I've really no clue as to what kind of place you're talking about though.

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PostRe: Depression
by more heat than light » Wed Feb 08, 2017 10:59 am

Fade wrote:I find it continually frustrating how people without depression don't understand it, even when you try and explain it to them multiple times.

"Oh well you go to work so why do you have a problem doing laundry?"


Oh man, so much this. "How do you have social anxiety when you work in a shop and deal with people all day?" :fp:

Having a gooseberry fool day. Was in a car accident which totally wasn't my fault, but in my shook up state I forgot to get any details so it looks like I'll be paying for it then. Took all my energy and willpower to manage to phone the insurance company and then my missus is like 'that'll end up costing you more, why did you do that?'. Everything I do is always wrong.

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