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by Denster » Sun Dec 02, 2018 3:02 am

Anxiety is vile. It's an underlying factor for so many of my patients in terms of their day to day functioning.

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by Meep » Fri Dec 14, 2018 4:29 pm

Seems like anxiety is a pretty common problem. It's good to know I don't suffer alone as sometimes it feels like that.

I am having a really bad time with work at the minute after moving to a new office. Essentially, I am a creature of habit and get extremely anxious whenever I am in a new situation or meet new people. On top of that I am a not a people person. I'm gooseberry fool at reading other people's feelings and end up getting really anxious about what they are thinking. Personally I prefer to keep my head down and concentrate solely on my work and avoid people, but that's not really possible now because I don't know much of anything and constantly need to seek advice or chase additional work (because I work at such a rapid pace compared with well, that's just all them "non-wierdos"). I don't have any actual disorder or anything or have panic attacks like some folk I know, I just get stressed out very easily the moment I step outside my comfort zone.

At first I thought it was because I just didn't like the job but now I am recalling how stressed and anxious I was in my old office originally and it seems fairly obvious that even if I get a job somewhere else I will be just as unsettled and uncomfortable (that's ignoring the fact that it's almost impossible for me to pass an interveiw due to aforementioned nervousness). I am contemplating explaining this to my GP and trying to persuade them to perscribe me something in the short term until I get over the adjustment. I did have CB therapy when I was younger to try to cure myself of this rubbish but it seems to be a lifelong sort of thing that I need to just manage.

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by Rapidly-Greying » Fri Dec 14, 2018 10:09 pm

Stay strong brothers and sisters through this potentially challenging and overwhelming time of year. Let's all get through it.

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by Tragic Magic » Fri Dec 14, 2018 10:22 pm

Feeling pretty gooseberry fool tonight. I started a new job 7 weeks ago and it's been going great but I just didn't fit in anywhere at tonight's Christmas party and I sat in silence for pretty much the whole evening, stuck between two groups chatting amongst themselves, with both people beside me leaning in with their backs turned in my direction. Everyone started doing a quiz in teams and "fight or flight" came over me and I put my coat on and slipped out without anyone noticing.

I hope no one brings it up on Monday and asks why I just left because I feel like gooseberry fool. I'm socially retarded around new people, that's for sure.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Meep » Fri Dec 14, 2018 11:05 pm

Tragic Magic wrote:Feeling pretty gooseberry fool tonight. I started a new job 7 weeks ago and it's been going great but I just didn't fit in anywhere at tonight's Christmas party and I sat in silence for pretty much the whole evening, stuck between two groups chatting amongst themselves, with both people beside me leaning in with their backs turned in my direction. Everyone started doing a quiz in teams and "fight or flight" came over me and I put my coat on and slipped out without anyone noticing.

I hope no one brings it up on Monday and asks why I just left because I feel like gooseberry fool. I'm socially retarded around new people, that's for sure.

Yeah, I have had that issue. In my mind, crowds and loud music are a hellish situation so I do not find parties and partying a way of 'unwinding' as apparently they are supposed to be. They just make me pensive. So on the occasions I have gone to them I usually make an excuse and slip out at the first opportunity.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Squinty » Sat Dec 15, 2018 7:34 am

Tragic Magic wrote:Feeling pretty gooseberry fool tonight. I started a new job 7 weeks ago and it's been going great but I just didn't fit in anywhere at tonight's Christmas party and I sat in silence for pretty much the whole evening, stuck between two groups chatting amongst themselves, with both people beside me leaning in with their backs turned in my direction. Everyone started doing a quiz in teams and "fight or flight" came over me and I put my coat on and slipped out without anyone noticing.

I hope no one brings it up on Monday and asks why I just left because I feel like gooseberry fool. I'm socially retarded around new people, that's for sure.


I did this at last years Christmas Dinner. Same situation.

I regret nothing. It was shite.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Sandy » Sat Dec 15, 2018 9:28 am

Yeah, sometimes it's just a gooseberry fool party and leaving is the best option. This would be the same for people that don't suffer with any mental health issues as well. Additionally if someone is new and just sitting there people should make an effort to be inclusive...it's not secondary school.

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by Victor Mildew » Sat Dec 15, 2018 9:48 am

Tragic Magic wrote:Feeling pretty gooseberry fool tonight. I started a new job 7 weeks ago and it's been going great but I just didn't fit in anywhere at tonight's Christmas party and I sat in silence for pretty much the whole evening, stuck between two groups chatting amongst themselves, with both people beside me leaning in with their backs turned in my direction. Everyone started doing a quiz in teams and "fight or flight" came over me and I put my coat on and slipped out without anyone noticing.

I hope no one brings it up on Monday and asks why I just left because I feel like gooseberry fool. I'm socially retarded around new people, that's for sure.


I can sympathise, I had much the same experience last night at our party. I've been there nearly a year now and while I wouldn't say I've made proper friends there, I'd like to think I get on with most people, but most of the time I was on my own or wandering around trying to get in on conversations. I don't suffer with any anxiety or anything like that, and I'm normally a motormouth in social situations, but last night I felt properly left out. Mostly because I wasn't drinking and most people were, so they were having drunk chats, but despite my efforts i just didn't feel part of the fun.

It really got to me when I came to leave though, as I got my coat and tried to say bye to a few people but they pretty much blanked me (I don't think it was on purpose though, as I say most were well oiled by then), but I walked out and when I got to the car I just felt like I didn't exist and most people wouldn't notice I'd even gone. Years ago I would have been right in the mix of the fun and staying out with all of them, but now I don't even feel included and I don't know what's happend. It doesn't help half of them are really young and it's a howdoyoudofellowkids situation.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Sat Dec 15, 2018 3:42 pm

Yeah Christmas parties are tricky. Had mine last night and while I enjoyed myself I did notice a few people who I thought I was cool with barely acknowledging me. On the other hand though there was other folk I've not seen in ages that was good.

Problem really is the hangover, drink ruins my mental health now. Depressed about all aspects of life and not looking forward to anything etc. Going to have to cut back on the alcohol for my own good.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Outrunner » Mon Dec 17, 2018 5:55 pm

Christmas depression has been coming on in waves. Some days I'm fine at other times I'm close to tears. Fortunately my family are great and there's no pressure there but some people at work always seem a bit insensitive to it. The scrooge and grinch jokes have started and fixing a smile to my face while I inwardly cringe is getting tiresome. I don't know how to get round it either. If I lie and say I'm looking forward to it they want details (what are you doing, what have you bought everyone), if I'm honest and say I'm largely opting out the scrooge jokes start, if I try to remain non-committal then people are determined to talk to me about christmas. I'm dieting at the moment so not eating any of the chocolates that customers bring in. Apparently that's being miserable. The thing I don't get is at any other time of the year my work friends and most of management are really supportive when it comes to my mental health and can't do enough for me, so why doesn't christmas, when I'm 100% guaranteed to feel low, count?

Maybe I'm being to sensitive to their jokes but it genuinely bothers me. I don't like being the guy that doesn't enjoy Christmas, I don't enjoy feeling broken and alone. But at the same time I genuinely hope everyone I work with has a great Christmas, whatever it is they decide to do with it. I'm just not sure how that makes me a scrooge.

I went out with a close friend from work for pre-party drinks and that was great but I couldn't face the party itself. My friend was completely OK with that and didn't push the issue. It was only for a couple of hours but I enjoyed it.

Anyway, I'm actually quite looking forward to Christmas day itself. I'm going dog walking in the morning and having chill day at my parents who also aren't too fussed about Christmas. My brothers family are in their new house this year so I won't be seeing the kids until after the day. On the one hand it kinda sucks but at least the pressure is off for me on Xmas day.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Mon Dec 17, 2018 8:19 pm

I can relate man, some people need to be mindful that Christmas can end up with you having to put up with family you can't stand or just have nothing in common with. Or just being plain alone.

Bless my Mum her birthday is Xmas but I have nothing in common with her and it ends up being a day of stilted conversation, always the same every year "Isn't Eastenders depressing" "Oh turn that over I can't stand the Queen". If it wasn't her birthday I'd think about making other plans, though even then I don't know what they would be.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Lotus » Tue Dec 18, 2018 8:54 am

There’s something bizarre about Christmas which seems to bring out this idea of ‘forced fun’ where everybody has to take part in everything and they’re damn well going to enjoy it otherwise there’s something wrong with them and they obviously hate Christmas.

I don’t know why people get so worked up if others don’t share their enthusiasm or want to partake in the activities that they deem to be fun, or the done thing.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Poser » Tue Dec 18, 2018 9:30 am

I actually managed to enjoy my Christmas party on Friday, but wasn't expecting to. However, I'm still dealing with the crushing anxiety that any heavy night of drinking now leaves me with. Totally not worth it.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Sandy » Tue Dec 18, 2018 10:24 am

I personally find Christmas a terrible time of year, I tell people this and maybe I get the odd comment but most people don't care or even agree with me. If I had to guess at the reason it's because I'm confident and definitely confident enough to highlight to the scrooge callers as to why it's a terrible thing. That said, it doesn't even remotely bother me if they say I'm scrooge or don't have the Christmas spirit.

Hopefully everyone will find a way to have a nice time over the next month. Try not to over analyse or overthink and just treat it like any other time of year.

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by NickSCFC » Tue Dec 18, 2018 11:16 am

Lotus wrote:There’s something bizarre about Christmas which seems to bring out this idea of ‘forced fun’ where everybody has to take part in everything and they’re damn well going to enjoy it otherwise there’s something wrong with them and they obviously hate Christmas.

I don’t know why people get so worked up if others don’t share their enthusiasm or want to partake in the activities that they deem to be fun, or the done thing.


I tend to get nostalgic around Christmas due to the warm feelings of nostalgia.

Other than that I really don't get the excitement outside people who are kids or have kids.

I get that it's nice to catch up with friends and relatives, but the over excitement by grownups is pathetic.

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by NickSCFC » Tue Dec 18, 2018 11:20 am

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Tragic Magic wrote:Feeling pretty gooseberry fool tonight. I started a new job 7 weeks ago and it's been going great but I just didn't fit in anywhere at tonight's Christmas party and I sat in silence for pretty much the whole evening, stuck between two groups chatting amongst themselves, with both people beside me leaning in with their backs turned in my direction. Everyone started doing a quiz in teams and "fight or flight" came over me and I put my coat on and slipped out without anyone noticing.

I hope no one brings it up on Monday and asks why I just left because I feel like gooseberry fool. I'm socially retarded around new people, that's for sure.


I can sympathise, I had much the same experience last night at our party. I've been there nearly a year now and while I wouldn't say I've made proper friends there, I'd like to think I get on with most people, but most of the time I was on my own or wandering around trying to get in on conversations. I don't suffer with any anxiety or anything like that, and I'm normally a motormouth in social situations, but last night I felt properly left out. Mostly because I wasn't drinking and most people were, so they were having drunk chats, but despite my efforts i just didn't feel part of the fun.

It really got to me when I came to leave though, as I got my coat and tried to say bye to a few people but they pretty much blanked me (I don't think it was on purpose though, as I say most were well oiled by then), but I walked out and when I got to the car I just felt like I didn't exist and most people wouldn't notice I'd even gone. Years ago I would have been right in the mix of the fun and staying out with all of them, but now I don't even feel included and I don't know what's happend. It doesn't help half of them are really young and it's a howdoyoudofellowkids situation.


Always hated large parties with all the inane chatter, always feel oddly anxious for some reason.

Have no problem with clubs or gigs where there's music and I've consumed copious amounts of alcohol, but the whole standing around chatting just bores me to tears.

Thankfully our Christmas party is little more than a mid-week sit-down meal event that I can get out of after an hour.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Outrunner » Fri Dec 21, 2018 6:06 pm

Thanks guys, it's nice to be able to vent without being judged for it. Here's hoping that for those of you that aren't feeling it this year manage to get through it without to much stress and anxiety.

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by more heat than light » Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:06 pm

Excuse the ramble....

I'm really really upset right now. I've been planning a Christmas present for my other half, tickets for a show. Spent all my energy trying to arrange babysitters, actually went to talk to the in-laws which is ridiculously tough for me. This afternoon I spent playing Xbox, and obviously I went to buy them this evening and they've sold out.

I'm just incredibly angry at myself for being utterly gooseberry fool. Been attacking myself at work and I'm really worried about driving home because I feel like if I have an outburst I'm just going to put the car in a ditch. I really thought the stress of Christmas was over, but now I have to find the time and energy to attempt to do it all over again.

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by Corazon de Leon » Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:09 pm

Chestnut Snowleaves wrote:Excuse the ramble....

I'm really really upset right now. I've been planning a Christmas present for my other half, tickets for a show. Spent all my energy trying to arrange babysitters, actually went to talk to the in-laws which is ridiculously tough for me. This afternoon I spent playing Xbox, and obviously I went to buy them this evening and they've sold out.

I'm just incredibly angry at myself for being utterly gooseberry fool. Been attacking myself at work and I'm really worried about driving home because I feel like if I have an outburst I'm just going to put the car in a ditch. I really thought the stress of Christmas was over, but now I have to find the time and energy to attempt to do it all over again.


Check resale outlets, contact the venue, check apps such as Twickets to see if anyone is getting rid of a couple of tickets. It's tough to take, but it might not be the end. :)

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by more heat than light » Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:19 pm

Thanks man, I haven't managed to find anything and the box office is closed for the weekend, so it's not looking promising. I'm just annoyed at myself for leaving everything till the last minute as per usual. She would have loved it too.

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