Fade wrote:Corazon de Leon wrote:Why do you hate yourself?
I have nothing to be proud of, I don't fit in anywhere, I feel like I annoy everyone. I have no confidence.
I feel like the measure of your worth as a man is through your charisma or your job, and I'm lacking in both of those areas.
I don't really want to change, but I feel like I have to.
In the past I would have always argued you should make yourself charismatic and confident, and you could if you worked long and hard at it, but actually I agree with Photek. And Karl, but he forgot I made the Hitler comment so I'm going to ignore him
Once you learn to start liking yourself - which will take time too - you'll stumble across someone and make it work. I'm pretty full of myself and would've been open to finding a girlfriend at some point in the past year but haven't found anyone suitable so not all of it's down to being confident or outgoing or whatever.
You're about the same age as me right? Early to mid 20s? Most people have no, or gooseberry fool, jobs at our age nowadays. I piled through a fucktonne of pish and only now am I thankfully getting better offers.
I'd recommend getting a hair cut too, buying some nice clothes that fit you well, having a shave, etc. Won't make you mr confident but it's always nice to be feeling like you're looking your best, even if in your eyes your best isn't much.