Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

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by Snowballday » Wed Mar 14, 2018 7:52 am

Some people just don't try to understand or want to help with mental illnesses. When I told someone I knew that I'd been diagnosed with anxiety (took me a while to work up the courage to talk to my doctor), their response was "well you seem fine around people" then just didn't let me bring it up again.

I have had my ups and downs with anxiety for a while, I have a physical condition that causes me concern (primary lymphedema of the left leg, constant swelling due to missing lymph nodes), I've been hospitalised 3 times with it, and I think it's what's at least started my anxiety off. My leg is much MUCH better at the moment to what it was due to some different treatment I had so at the moment this isn't causing me to be anxious.

Lately my anxiety been worse, me and my daughter moved into a council flat last June. Every time I think everything is fine, something goes wrong. After we first moved in, we find a form saying that they recommended to remove some tiles but hadn't. I mean that's nothing. Then a month in the hot water tank went. No hot water for 3 weeks, as the shower also broke. This winter I've had mould and damp. The council say I need new heaters (I have storage ones, they're terrible) and it's only condensation (the mould days otherwise and so do the wet walls) but I haven't heard back since. I decide to strip the wallpaper in my room to clean the walls down from the mould, and I find a square hole full of wires and loo roll, and the curtain rail comes down on me, which was attached to some wood that had been nailed above the window (not by me) the wood came down with it. I'm scared to go in there again, I don't know what else could go wrong. I'm sleeping in the living room.

My partner, as helpful as he is, doesn't seem to get why I get so anxious. Mind I don't get it myself sometimes, sometimes I'm absolutely fine, other times I'm as anxious as hell over little stuff that can be sorted out quickly.

I feel like everything is going to go wrong, I had a course of CBT and l'm waiting for some 1 on 1 councilling. CBT didn't help me much but I did think it does help others quite a bit. I was in a group session, I'd rather have had 1 on 1, I think it would have been easier for me to digest that way.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Wed Mar 14, 2018 2:35 pm

Man that's awful.. mouldy and poorly upkept dwellings do little to help things. We recently moved out of somewhere that had mould and a freezing bathroom with a leaking ceiling but it wasn't that bad. Finally found somewhere decent again and can just barely cover the rent with benefits and about 10% help from both our families and what we earn together.

But sure if you're poor it's your fault and if you have a mental illness it's not really a problem because you seem fine. All that psychology hubbub is just made up problems for weak people. It's sad that anyone has to deal with this attitude at all, but there is help available although it's not exactly easy to access.

I've definitely made a difference focusing on quality of life improvements above everything else and I no longer care how or at what expense to myself or others I achieve that, except those close to me. I don't care what friends I never see anymore think, or abusive family members, or the council clerk or that jerk acquaintance I'll never see again or someone on Facebook or the rude postman etc etc. Being selfless and conscientious achieves nothing if you are clinically depressed or anxious. There really are a lot of values established in society that seem driven to make people ill by essentially judging and comparing to others forever instead of being happy with who we are.

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by No:1 Final Fantasy Fan » Fri Mar 16, 2018 12:50 pm

This thread really does put a new perspective to what I think of life.

I have read some posts above regarding people reaching 30 and reflecting on their achievements. I turned 30 last year and will be 31 next month. My current goal is to get on the property ladder but for some reason I've been putting it off even though I have had a stable full time job for the past 4/5 years...literally have hardly any savings lol

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by NickSCFC » Tue Mar 20, 2018 2:49 pm

One thing I noticed that when I was depressed I'd always try to escape into something like a boxset or videogames, they're great at taking you out of yourself, the problem is that in the long run they solve nothing and you can look back at a week or a month lost where you feel that, because of this, you've achieved nothing at all and the cycle repeats.

One great solution I've found is listening to self-help books on Audible, so when I'm bingeing on PES, I'm also learning at the same time :)

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Tue Mar 20, 2018 5:47 pm

Yeah I've totally seen myself getting pissed off with work, booking a week off, losing it to something like the Witcher and then being even more depressed on the day before going back. I try and give myself a project for any staycations now even if it's just clearing out the shed.

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by Preezy » Wed Mar 21, 2018 11:56 am

Tidying up the garage, mowing the lawn and generally tending my property (I love to weed) is super relaxing for me. It's almost like a form of meditation. It's probably because I'm outside and being active and I can have my headphones in and block out the world. Love it.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by No:1 Final Fantasy Fan » Thu Mar 29, 2018 6:49 pm

Got the shingles at the moment. Not sure if this was due to stress but its not that bad. Feels a lot less worse than chicken pox was when I was a kid.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Yulehide » Thu Mar 29, 2018 7:01 pm

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:Got the shingles at the moment. Not sure if this was due to stress but its not that bad. Feels a lot less worse than chicken pox was when I was a kid.


Just wait for the eye pain to start before making any comparisons with chicken pox.

I had it last month and still have minor symptoms.

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by No:1 Final Fantasy Fan » Thu Mar 29, 2018 7:23 pm

Ironhide wrote:
No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:Got the shingles at the moment. Not sure if this was due to stress but its not that bad. Feels a lot less worse than chicken pox was when I was a kid.


Just wait for the eye pain to start before making any comparisons with chicken pox.

I had it last month and still have minor symptoms.

How old are you? Did you get any medication for it? I was surprised to get it after hearing it was an old people thing. Anyway just unlucky I guess. My doctor said I managed to catch it early so he has put me on Aciclovir 800mg which I have to take 5 times a day for 7 days.

Mines currently localised to my back and left side of my chest. The spots do hurt a bit. Feels like a sharp stinging pain every now and again. But I am taking painkillers throughout the day. I really hope it doesn't spread anywhere further, especially not my face because the eye pain sounds terrible.

Apparently it takes 3-5 weeks to go away so if you had it last month, I hope all your symptoms going away asap.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Yulehide » Thu Mar 29, 2018 10:47 pm

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:
Ironhide wrote:
No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:Got the shingles at the moment. Not sure if this was due to stress but its not that bad. Feels a lot less worse than chicken pox was when I was a kid.


Just wait for the eye pain to start before making any comparisons with chicken pox.

I had it last month and still have minor symptoms.

How old are you? Did you get any medication for it? I was surprised to get it after hearing it was an old people thing. Anyway just unlucky I guess. My doctor said I managed to catch it early so he has put me on Aciclovir 800mg which I have to take 5 times a day for 7 days.

Mines currently localised to my back and left side of my chest. The spots do hurt a bit. Feels like a sharp stinging pain every now and again. But I am taking painkillers throughout the day. I really hope it doesn't spread anywhere further, especially not my face because the eye pain sounds terrible.

Apparently it takes 3-5 weeks to go away so if you had it last month, I hope all your symptoms going away asap.


I'm 36 so it's definitely not just old people who have crap immune systems who get it.

I got a some aciclovir for it too as I had it around my eye and my GP was concerned it would damage my eyesight.

Most symptoms have gone now apart from two spots.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by No:1 Final Fantasy Fan » Fri Mar 30, 2018 11:05 am

Ironhide wrote:
No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:
Ironhide wrote:
No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:Got the shingles at the moment. Not sure if this was due to stress but its not that bad. Feels a lot less worse than chicken pox was when I was a kid.


Just wait for the eye pain to start before making any comparisons with chicken pox.

I had it last month and still have minor symptoms.

How old are you? Did you get any medication for it? I was surprised to get it after hearing it was an old people thing. Anyway just unlucky I guess. My doctor said I managed to catch it early so he has put me on Aciclovir 800mg which I have to take 5 times a day for 7 days.

Mines currently localised to my back and left side of my chest. The spots do hurt a bit. Feels like a sharp stinging pain every now and again. But I am taking painkillers throughout the day. I really hope it doesn't spread anywhere further, especially not my face because the eye pain sounds terrible.

Apparently it takes 3-5 weeks to go away so if you had it last month, I hope all your symptoms going away asap.


I'm 36 so it's definitely not just old people who have crap immune systems who get it.

I got a some aciclovir for it too as I had it around my eye and my GP was concerned it would damage my eyesight.

Most symptoms have gone now apart from two spots.

Good to hear that you're alright now. I have also been taking effervescent tablets vitamin C 1000mg and vitamin B12 1200%. Heard that these vitamins help fight of the virus well especially B12.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by False » Sat Apr 07, 2018 3:15 pm

Feel like Im having a really tough day today. I cant think of any particular trigger for it. Just supremely down and tired for the first time in a while. You get used to the odd feeling overtaking you but its been a full ride today so far. Got lots to be happy about.

I have just been listening to some of my favourite tunes v loud on my headphones whilst the gf catches up on some sleep and its making me feel a bit funny. One of the sets has this mix that I really like and I nearly strawberry floating cried, proper fragile.

Supposed to be meeting some friends tonight at a party in a sex club and they are usually funny but trying to summon the will to even go to the toilet is pretty energy intensive right now.

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by Karl » Sat Apr 07, 2018 4:03 pm

False wrote:Feel like Im having a really tough day today. I cant think of any particular trigger for it. Just supremely down and tired for the first time in a while. You get used to the odd feeling overtaking you but its been a full ride today so far. Got lots to be happy about.

I have just been listening to some of my favourite tunes v loud on my headphones whilst the gf catches up on some sleep and its making me feel a bit funny. One of the sets has this mix that I really like and I nearly strawberry floating cried, proper fragile.

Supposed to be meeting some friends tonight at a party in a sex club and they are usually funny but trying to summon the will to even go to the toilet is pretty energy intensive right now.

Take care of yourself mate. If you think you'll feel better at the party then have a go, but if you think you're forcing it then get some rest instead.

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by False » Sun Apr 08, 2018 5:11 pm

Aye went out and it was crap.

Walked over a mountain today though and had a mind blowing veggie burger so its not all bad.

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by Advent7 » Sun Apr 08, 2018 5:37 pm

Apologies if this doesn't belong in here due to how serious a lot of your problems are, but I feel this needs more than the moaning thread.

Ive just discovered, via Facebook, that one of my best friends got married this weekend. I had no idea he was even engaged.

Now we're getting on a bit so it's not like the Inbetweeners where we live in each other's pockets, but we keep in semi regular touch and I'm really hurt that I wasn't told. I only live an hour and a half away and would love to have gone along.

It's really hurtful and I feel like gooseberry fool because of it. Starting to wonder how many of the people I consider close friends even consider me a friend these days, I hardly see anyone unless we make the effort.

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by Curls » Tue Apr 10, 2018 3:00 am

Ad7 wrote:Apologies if this doesn't belong in here due to how serious a lot of your problems are, but I feel this needs more than the moaning thread.

Ive just discovered, via Facebook, that one of my best friends got married this weekend. I had no idea he was even engaged.

Now we're getting on a bit so it's not like the Inbetweeners where we live in each other's pockets, but we keep in semi regular touch and I'm really hurt that I wasn't told. I only live an hour and a half away and would love to have gone along.

It's really hurtful and I feel like gooseberry fool because of it. Starting to wonder how many of the people I consider close friends even consider me a friend these days, I hardly see anyone unless we make the effort.



That's gooseberry fool. Always feel free to post you're problems, no matter how trivial they seem compared to others. If its griping you and it makes you feel better to post it here, then just strawberry floating do it.

That sounds pretty harsh, I know how I'd feel if some of my closer friends left me out of something like that.
I was actually thinking recently about my old best friend, and how distant we've become, I've moved away for a career and new life, new friends the rest. And now he has started to too, when we meet up our conversation is about the past rather than the present or the future, its reminiscing, it's playing timesplitters 2 together as that's what we did as teens.

And I was thinking...still to this day, he'd very much expect me to make him best man if i were to get married....and maybe I'd expect him too to? But im not sure anymore if I would, I think I've made closer friends as an adult who understand me more, have helped me through harder situations, and who I generally like more. But I know deep down, that this childhood friend of mine, if he didnt play a very important part in a big event of my life. It'd absolutely crush him.

Time moves and people change and grow apart, and its only the real people you care about you'll make the effort for. So if you care about this friend, try not to be angry or bitter and just try to reach out to him. Make that effort and that time, he may have just got married, but that often isolates you from friends a bit. He'll probably still appreciate the friendship, even if he has hurt you, its probably not malicious and he'll enjoy seeing an old friend.

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by kerr9000 » Tue Apr 10, 2018 5:43 am

The childhood friends getting married and not inviting you thing is tricky, it's happened to me a lot of times... There were about 7 of us who did almost everything together, a year ago one of these lads got married and I didn't even know till after, I thought oh well till I found out of the 7 well 5 of the group were there so basically just me and one other lad got left out and that rammed it home and made it hurt more, only difference I know of between those invited and those not is that the 5 there all messed up there A levels by constantly smoking pot, I didn't as I went to college and tried hard and the other lad became an electricians apprentice, now days though we're all in similar situations etc.Things like this can make you very low as not only does it feel like your being excluded but it makes you wonder if your remembering things right, why your botherd about them if there not about you etc

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by Harry Ellis » Tue Apr 10, 2018 2:37 pm

I was in the opposite situation. Two of my childhood friends simply didn't turn up on my wedding day as they forgot. We only see each other about once a year and aren't as close as we used to be, but I still class them as good friends.

It isn't something I hold against them though. They have apologised and made it clear that they feel suitably bad enough about it, so I've forgiven them.

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by Lotus » Tue Apr 10, 2018 3:02 pm

Drumstick wrote:I was in the opposite situation. Two of my childhood friends simply didn't turn up on my wedding day as they forgot. We only see each other about once a year and aren't as close as we used to be, but I still class them as good friends.

It isn't something I hold against them though. They have apologised and made it clear that they feel suitably bad enough about it, so I've forgiven them.

Wat. Did you send them proper invites and such? How do you 'forget' a wedding you've been invited to?

Anyway, a friend of mine got married last year (he was about 30 then I think). I've been friends with him since we were about 13, and I've known his wife since they got together (when they were about 14 or 15). Because of some 'issues' at the time of them getting together, I was the only one in our friendship group who supported them being together and defended them. And while I moved away to go to university and such we kept in touch (but always through me making the effort) and I made some pretty big efforts on occasion to go and see him/support him when he was suffering with various personal problems. The engagement and the wedding I only found out about on Facebook, after they'd happened. Granted I hadn't seen them for a good while, but still...you'd think one of your oldest friends and someone who's supported you over the years would at least get told about these things...right?

I mean, I actually hate weddings, and not being invited got me out of going, but still. It's the principle. :slol:

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by Harry Ellis » Tue Apr 10, 2018 3:13 pm

Lotus wrote:
Drumstick wrote:I was in the opposite situation. Two of my childhood friends simply didn't turn up on my wedding day as they forgot. We only see each other about once a year and aren't as close as we used to be, but I still class them as good friends.

It isn't something I hold against them though. They have apologised and made it clear that they feel suitably bad enough about it, so I've forgiven them.

Wat. Did you send them proper invites and such? How do you 'forget' a wedding you've been invited to?

Yes, proper invites. They've been the same disorganised messes since we were 12.

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