Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tragic Magic » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:32 am

I suppose downing half a bottle of gin at 11am probably means I've hit rock bottom, right?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tragic Magic » Sun Oct 29, 2017 11:34 am

No but genuinley, please don't feel sorry for me. I'm looking for sympathy and thoughtless messages on some stupid ass forum but that isn't going to help me out of this.

Don't worrry, I'd never take an overdose or do anything stupid. I'm just trapped.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Banjo » Sun Oct 29, 2017 12:37 pm

Ah I known the feeling man. I justified it to myself last year that drinking at 9am was fine as I was in work at 4pm. Plenty of time to sober up there.

Take care of yourself. Regardless of time of day, drinking like that is not going to do your mind or body any good. How would you describe the feeling? Do you think you can invest some energy into something less self-destructive?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tragic Magic » Sun Oct 29, 2017 12:45 pm

No I don't. I''ve got my Steam Link powered up and all that gooseberry fool but I can't convince myself to actually sit down and play a game or just do anything to switch off. I told my wife that I need to go to the shop (it's a one minute walk away) so that I can get some more alcohol to make it through the day but she said that I don't need it and that made me feel really guilty. I don't want to disappoint her, she's the only thing that keeps me going, so I will have to try and finish the little bit of chambord without her noticing.

Sorry, life is just life and that's a strain I've endured for quite a while. What a pleb though, I'm not alone. We're all enduring life and it's poop troop for everyone.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Fade » Sun Oct 29, 2017 1:20 pm

Tragic Magic wrote:No I don't. I''ve got my Steam Link powered up and all that gooseberry fool but I can't convince myself to actually sit down and play a game or just do anything to switch off. I told my wife that I need to go to the shop (it's a one minute walk away) so that I can get some more alcohol to make it through the day but she said that I don't need it and that made me feel really guilty. I don't want to disappoint her, she's the only thing that keeps me going, so I will have to try and finish the little bit of chambord without her noticing.

Sorry, life is just life and that's a strain I've endured for quite a while. What a pleb though, I'm not alone. We're all enduring life and it's poop troop for everyone.

I hope you don't mind me asking but is there anything specific that brings you down?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tragic Magic » Sun Oct 29, 2017 1:56 pm

Of course I don't mind. It sounds ridiculous but I consider you and most of GRCade's forumites to be true friends. I think that you don't actually know anything about me but I've been here for so long that I can't even.

My wife and I are having fertility treatmeant right now. My wife has a 6 month prescription of a drug called clomid before we have one round of IVF on the NHS. We were really hopeful with the first month as the hospital said my wife ovulated and everything was looking good but she just got her period so obviously nothing happened. I also handed my notice in at my job because I wasn't happy there but now I'm scared to death that I won't find anything else before the new year. Not only that but I've the overwhelming feeling that no matter what job I get, I'm going to hate it regardless. I work in accounting and it's just a shitty grind that anyone would hate. We've had a pretty awesome month and have been to Amsterdam, a Metallica gig, had a pretty decent wedding anniversary meal, etc but it's really emptied my savings account as well, so now I feel like I have very little. I'm also pretty fat and it makes me feel gooseberry fool. I'll regret this in the morning. Also my wife has (spondilo?) arthritis which is just a strawberry floating injustice and the hardest thing is not being able to help her with it. Mental support is all well and good but she's still in pain almost every day of her life and I feel like such a failure when I can't do anything to help her.

Dream job, for the sake of it, would probably be a film director. But that's an impossiblity so strawberry float dreams and strawberry float everything else.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Rocsteady » Sun Oct 29, 2017 2:37 pm

Get into the fitness thread and we'll turn you into an adonis TM, no lie.

I think it's an employee's market just now too so hopefully you'll find something pretty soon - you did the right thing leaving your dull ass job, nothing worse than boring people who indefinitely stick in at one role when the world's waiting.

Can you afford to take a pay cut? If so you could start near the bottom in another profession, or get back into accountancy but do an OU course on top

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by smurphy » Sun Oct 29, 2017 2:50 pm

Fitness wise, that can be an easy win. You'll probably struggle to get into it at first, but you've just got to find a sport/activity that you enjoy and stick with it. Most things like that are near enough free (maybe with a bit of an upfront cost) and once you start seeing results I guarantee you'll feel amazing.

Tragic Magic wrote:Dream job, for the sake of it, would probably be a film director. But that's an impossiblity so strawberry float dreams and strawberry float everything else.


And for the love of god don't think like this. I'm not going to say you can become the next Señor Spielbergo if you put you're mind to it, but having something to work toward in your life no matter how small (making a super low budget short film) or large (making a career out of it) gives you a drive, which is something that has kept me happy and positive for a very long time now. I remember you made those short horror films ages ago. The one where you scared your mum and the one where you cut yourself some cheese were hilarious. You should do more of that stuff.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by I Believe In Stool Bloke » Sun Oct 29, 2017 3:12 pm

That sketch where you scared your mum was strawberry floating brilliant :lol: I'd watch more of your stuff, no doubt.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Aha » Thu Nov 02, 2017 6:27 pm

https://www.theguardian.com/society/201 ... r-benefits

I have first hand experience of this. I thought it was very worth sharing.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Rocsteady » Thu Nov 02, 2017 8:39 pm

Lovely policy in action. Obviously they don't give a strawberry float as it won't effect those who have money to fall back on - a pretty reprehensible thing to save a little of the taxpayers' money on, all in all.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by still » Fri Nov 03, 2017 12:44 pm

The 'Trust Me I'm a Doctor' special the other night on mental health is worth a watch.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Hime » Fri Nov 17, 2017 9:21 pm

*thought this might be more appropriate here*

For some reason over the past few years I've developed a bit of anxiety when driving and I'm a bit shaken up as tonight is the closest I've come to having a crash in a long time. I'm would just like some opinions to know if I did anything wrong as these sorts of things play on mind for a long time.

I was on a two lane motorway that was merging into another two lane motorway to become a three lane motorway. I was travelling in what is usually the slow lane that becomes the middle lane. I'm just going along and suddenly I see a car in the merging lane right beside me just before they effectively run out of road so I put started to accelerate to make room like you normally would if someone is on a slip road and you can't go in the outside lane. The other car keeps going, getting right beside me before slamming on their brakes and beeping.

The thing is that I can't see that I did anything wrong? In my mind if you're in the lane that is merging, you have a better view of what is beside you so it's up to you to regulate your speed accordingly. I didn't see the car at the point when the roads start to merge so they were either tanking along or we were both unlucky that we ended up travelling at the same speed next to each other. Either way I still think it's their fault which actually gooseberry fools me up more because what can you do to stop someone driving into the side of you?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Harry Ellis » Sat Nov 18, 2017 7:30 am

Sounds like they were driving dangerously. They shouldn't have been rushing to get in front of you before they ran out of road.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Squinty » Sat Nov 18, 2017 8:37 am

They weren't paying attention. It's not your fault.

Stuff like this doesn't half make you more anxious. Someone flew out of a roundabout at me this morning as I was about to turn off. I had to slam the breaks to let him past, otherwise I would have been into the side of him.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Hime » Sat Nov 18, 2017 12:00 pm

Thanks guys. I'm embarrassed that I even wrote that but the driving stuff is really getting to me.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Lotus » Sat Nov 18, 2017 12:33 pm

I drive a fair bit (~120 miles a day) and see so many people who drive dangerously or carelessly. Some times it's obvious that they're in the wrong, but other times it has me second-guessing myself, mainly because they act in a way that implies I was in the wrong (horn blaring, lights flashing, gesturing, etc).

Not saying I'm a flawless driver, but often they just assume they're in the right, when really they're not. Good example is slip-roads; when you're joining you're supposed to adjust your speed to match the traffic and filter in when safe to do so. One guy a while ago just wasn't doing this and kept trying to get in front of me, despite there clearly not being enough of the slip-road left to do this (I was on the inside lane). So he sped up, swerved over at the last second to get ahead, then I could see him making some kind of gesture to me. He then proceeded to slam his brakes on for no reason to cause me to slam the brakes on and very nearly go right into the back of him. He then sped off.

Makes you wonder what goes through these people's heads. Anyway, just stick to what you know and remember the old adage of treating everyone else on the road like they're an idiot; you don't know what they'll do and you can't make assumptions about their behaviour. Are you a relatively new driver? Because the longer you drive the more you get used to this and can see some things coming, which makes them easier to avoid and easier to not be stressed about.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Harry Ellis » Sat Nov 18, 2017 2:52 pm

Driving is, for the most part, largely common sense. The people that generally get angry are very often the ones at fault but their egos won't allow them to admit it to themselves.

I'm yet to beep anybody or lose my rag with another driver, it seems totally counter productive. There is however one situation I've had where I almost decided to take action do to how absurd and unnecessary it was.

I had turned down a semi-busy road just on the outskirts of the town centre and realised that I'd turned off one turning too early. I checked my mirrors and being a fair way down this road, saw that there was nobody coming either way, so decided to do a three point turn and head back the way I came.

Just as I start, I see a car in the distance coming the way I came, but it's far enough away to the point where I should have plenty of time to complete the manoeuvre. Now, even though the driver could see what I was doing, she promptly decided to steam full speed up to my car before slamming on the brakes and beeping the gooseberry fool out of me.

If my wife hadn't been in the car I probably would have got out and wandered over to see what the strawberry float her problem was.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Squinty » Sat Nov 18, 2017 3:21 pm

You added seconds onto that woman's journey. I hope you can live with yourself, she might have done some amazing things in that very very short period of time.

Seriously though, I would have been raging.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Hime » Sat Nov 18, 2017 8:06 pm

Thanks so much for the replies, they really mean a lot to me.

My anxiety stuff started suddenly about 4 years ago and mainly affects sleep and driving. I know it's a proper first world problem but the driving stuff really bothers me, I love cars and driving, I still commute about 100 miles to work and back but previously I've travelled all over the country for work in a previous job. The sleep thing definitely adds to the driving anxiety as I work long shifts with early starts and at it's worst I might have only had 30 minutes sleep.

It's funny I had a really bad near miss about 12 years ago when I was 19 that I dealt with fine at the time but it haunts me now. I had picked up a new car somewhere in the Midlands and was following the sat nav home through country roads when all of sudden I found myself driving the wrong way down a dual carriageway. It's obviously completely my fault but we don't have any junctions on motorways where I live so I turned out like I would on any road. When I realised what was going on I saw a gap in the crash barrier and got back on the correct side. I just sort of got on with it at the time but it wakes me up in the night now.

I know that doesn't put my driving in the best light but I wad travelling to anywhere between London and Luton so was on the road all the time in the arse end of nowhere usually.

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