GRcade

Posted: **Wed Aug 09, 2017 10:19 am**

Nothing wrong with being down over your work situation - it's an important and hugely time consuming part of your life and it can be incredibly distressing when it's not going well.

I mean, I don't have any advice for you whatsoever but thought I'd say that much at least.

Posted: **Wed Aug 09, 2017 10:23 am**

Yeah work has me in a similar mood at the moment. Select people I used to get banter with say feck all and I end up like you bored.

Posted: **Wed Aug 09, 2017 10:23 am**

gaminglegend wrote:
I broke down the other day and just didn't go to work, my job is the biggest point of my maybe not depression but hatred of life at the moment. I left a company I'd loved for 5 years due to poor management, into a completely new role and a role way below my last position. Now I hate it, the team don't talk, it's 9 hours a day at a laptop screen, and I feel like I have no value or career progression where I am, and it's stupid because it's very easy as a role. I've lost enjoyment in hanging out with friends, I don't really do anything with my life apart from go to the gym after work, and I want to be alone all the time, and just think what is the point anymore. (Note I'm not suicidal in anyway that's just a figure of speech). I told my girlfriend and just let it all out the other day wrote a huge text message just letting her know I feel constantly down and defeated and it's something I've never felt before and I don't know what to do. She was very supportive, told me to quit my job and she'd support us but I can't do that, she can't afford that and working gives me a purpose however gooseberry fool it is. I thought about seeing a doctor, but it's always a 2 week waiting list and it's like damn it what's the point in waiting 2 whole weeks when I probably won't feel comfortable discussing this again. Sigh.

Note I must apologize if the above annoys anybody or is offensive. I realize a lot of people deal with much more serious issues, grief and my situation is nothing like that.

I'm going through a very similar thing. The "nobody talks" aspect is especially familiar, and an aspect of work I think gets overlooked. If you're in a terrible role then good colleagues and genuine friends at work can make it bareable. Going it along in that situation can be terrible.

RE: the doctor. Ask for an emergency appointment. Most practices will have a set number of appointments a day put aside for urgent cases. I did this and got seen within 2 hours. If not, is there a walk-in centre nearby?

Quitting your job is a huge step. Not necessarily wrong or right, but huge. Have you tried discussing your position with your manager or HR team? If you do go to the doctor, you can inquire as to a sick note signing you off too. I took a mental health day a few weeks ago after waking up and being physically unable to get out of bed. Even that one day helped a ton.

Posted: **Wed Aug 09, 2017 7:34 pm**

Chat is massive. I'm only in a temp role but the best girl in the office just landed another job, was (selfishly, inwardly) gutted.

Posted: **Thu Aug 10, 2017 9:38 am**

Posted: **Thu Aug 10, 2017 10:14 am**

I think having good co-workers goes a long way in making a crap job seem a bit better.

My previous team was great craic. This current one is not really the same, although it isn't anywhere near as bad as places I've been in before. One of my first jobs was working in place were everyone just stayed silent. I found it frustrating as hell.

Posted: **Thu Aug 10, 2017 10:20 am**

Yeah it's really boring. My job goes like that in phases mainly if we're busy. Ignoring customers and work related chat I could go whole days without interesting conversation.

Posted: **Thu Aug 10, 2017 12:59 pm**

Johnny Ryall wrote:Yeah it's really boring. My job goes like that in phases mainly if we're busy. Ignoring customers and work related chat I could go whole days without interesting conversation.

Try working on your own all day!!

Posted: **Tue Sep 19, 2017 1:54 am**

Christ nearly a year since I last posted!

I got a puppy, probably the best thing I've done in the last 5 years.

Posted: **Tue Sep 19, 2017 8:04 am**

kommissarboris wrote:Christ nearly a year since I last posted!

I got a puppy, probably the best thing I've done in the last 5 years.

What kind of dog? Post a detailed picture album of the puppy please.

Not sure where this should go - after two years(!) of fighting for a referral to a psychologist, I've finally been told that I do, in fact, have ADHD and have had it all my life. The Alanis Morissette-esque irony is that the whole point of being referred in the first place - to get help with uni matters as I was falling behind - is now moot, because I'm at the point of submissions(albeit almost two years late). :slol:

Hopefully it will be treatable going forward.

Posted: **Tue Sep 19, 2017 9:09 am**

Squinty wrote:I think having good co-workers goes a long way in making a crap job seem a bit better.

My previous team was great craic. This current one is not really the same, although it isn't anywhere near as bad as places I've been in before. One of my first jobs was working in place were everyone just stayed silent. I found it frustrating as hell.

I wish I felt the same. I work with some awesome colleagues but the oppressive work environment just makes me want to go in, not talk to anyone and leave. It just poisons my feelings towards everyone. It happened at my last place of work too when things started going down hill there.

Posted: **Tue Sep 19, 2017 5:50 pm**

Corazon de Leon wrote:
kommissarboris wrote:Christ nearly a year since I last posted!

I got a puppy, probably the best thing I've done in the last 5 years.

What kind of dog? Post a detailed picture album of the puppy please.

Not sure where this should go - after two years(!) of fighting for a referral to a psychologist, I've finally been told that I do, in fact, have ADHD and have had it all my life. The Alanis Morissette-esque irony is that the whole point of being referred in the first place - to get help with uni matters as I was falling behind - is now moot, because I'm at the point of submissions(albeit almost two years late).

Hopefully it will be treatable going forward.

Same thing happened to me, basically if you have a neurological diagnosis for anything other than dyslexia you're strawberry floated waiting years, I had to go down both the private and NHS route and so didn't have support until 2 years into my degree and took an extra year, I kind of want that year of life back as I probably would have been fine if anyone gave a strawberry float about the impact of depression and learning difficulties rolled into one giant clusterfuck living away from familiar circumstances. And a better class as well, as my first 2 years were basically awful with most of my grades capped at 40% or 0.

On the other hand, if I had not hung back a year I would never have met my partner and I would certainly be worse off in that respect (or never competed with good grades to begin with as I was so unhappy), so sometimes life has a funny way of figuring things out for you.

Posted: **Tue Sep 19, 2017 5:53 pm**

I gave up waiting for my diagnosis for ADHD. Im still on the waiting list I think, its been a couple of years now I believe, maybe 18 months.

Posted: **Tue Sep 19, 2017 6:00 pm**

I managed to get a diagnosis from a consultant psychiatrist but I was meant to be referred to a neurobehavioural clinic. After something like 18 months I eventually was, but they wrote to me with the appointment while I was in France visiting my dying grandfather. :fp:

I still have never had another appointment despite other doctors requesting it numerous times. That was something like 6 years ago now. It does make it easier to access various kinds of support but in that respect I'm OK at the moment mostly entirely down to a few charities. Basically as great as the NHS is this country, its insane how long it takes to get help with these sorts of problems, it is however worth hammering away because it is there in the end. What concerns me is how many people end up injured or dead or endangering others because the system largely ignores anything that isn't pretty much bleeding from the anus. The "third sector" does almost all the work to do with mental health and learning support, it's almost like a second, private healthcare system funded entirely by charitable funds and donations and only some government grants.

Posted: **Tue Sep 19, 2017 9:37 pm**

Corazon de Leon wrote:
kommissarboris wrote:Christ nearly a year since I last posted!

I got a puppy, probably the best thing I've done in the last 5 years.

What kind of dog? Post a detailed picture album of the puppy please.

Jack Russell.

He's called Pork Chop.

He's amazing.

Posted: **Wed Sep 20, 2017 8:27 am**

Posted: **Wed Sep 20, 2017 8:33 am**

Good dog

Posted: **Wed Sep 20, 2017 3:18 pm**

awwww

i love Jack Russells

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