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Re: Depression

Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2017 8:11 pm
by Karl
Electroshock therapy can be helpful - transformative, even - in cases of depression that are incurable by other means. It is usually prescribed as a last resort though, so I would be worried about accessing the treatment through a path that doesn't directly involve your GP.

Re: Depression

Posted: Tue Feb 28, 2017 12:02 pm
by Lotus
I've been on a bit of a downer for a few days now…I know exactly what started it though (something quite pathetic really, which perhaps compounds any negative feelings), and I know through past experience that it will pass in a few days and things will be 'okay' again. It's good being at the point where I can recognise that, but it doesn't lessen the impact it has. I can easily see how feelings of negativity (or worse) can - for some people - overtake and dominate their lives. All of the things like work and relationships just feel so unimportant, at least for me, and having to carry on with it all as though everything's fine is pretty difficult. I feel fortunate that I've found a way to manage/push-through phases like this, and that they do just seem to be phases (and they happen less frequently and for shorter periods of time than in the past). It's crushing though when life feels like something you just need to 'get through', and when you're in the middle of something like that and just can't see a way out.

Re: Depression

Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2017 3:45 pm
by Green Gecko
Hello. I'm just checking in.

Re anxiety I had a go at my girlfriend because of a cable I imagined tripping down an breaking my neck at the bottom of the stairs and her finding me dead and crying. So yes, it amplifies stupid gooseberry fool.

I really recommend mindfulness /meditation eg headspace app.

Re: Depression

Posted: Tue Mar 14, 2017 8:05 pm
by Saigon Slick
I've been trying mindfulness at night and in the morning and it hasn't strawberry floating worked. I'm still constantly anxious just now and I still can't prioritise my thoughts properly.

Re: Depression

Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2017 6:55 pm
by DrDoom
How long have you been trying? It took me a few weeks before it kind of "took root" as it were.

Re: Depression

Posted: Wed Mar 15, 2017 8:38 pm
by Saigon Slick
Since the turn of the year.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 8:54 am
by Advent7
Feel like utter gooseberry fool at the moment.

At the weekend my mrs took exception to something that I didn't even do (misread something I did and took it completely the wrong way) and proceeded to shout at me for nearly a solid hour. She also threw in some really hurtful gooseberry fool which was totally uncalled for and it just broke me. I had what I assume an emotional breakdown feels like because I was strawberry floating hysterical. I've never cried like that before, absolutely howling, I had no way of stopping it, just curled up screaming. I had some really dark thoughts that night where I was thinking of walking in to the field and slitting my throat. I dont know whats going on, maybe it's stuff about my parents bottled up (that's still relatively recent, especially with my dad) combined with the job stuff.

I dont know.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 9:01 am
by False
Probably just the work situation combined with the bird being a crazy bitch. No solution for it other than riding it out until the other side innit.

If thats taking too long then maybe speak to a doc.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 9:05 am
by Advent7
Hopefully it's just the current situation.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 1:59 pm
by Seven Posers Posing
Ad7 wrote:Feel like utter gooseberry fool at the moment.

At the weekend my mrs took exception to something that I didn't even do (misread something I did and took it completely the wrong way) and proceeded to shout at me for nearly a solid hour. She also threw in some really hurtful gooseberry fool which was totally uncalled for and it just broke me. I had what I assume an emotional breakdown feels like because I was strawberry floating hysterical. I've never cried like that before, absolutely howling, I had no way of stopping it, just curled up screaming. I had some really dark thoughts that night where I was thinking of walking in to the field and slitting my throat. I dont know whats going on, maybe it's stuff about my parents bottled up (that's still relatively recent, especially with my dad) combined with the job stuff.

I dont know.


Bloody hell mate. I'd imagine that, as you've hinted, it's just a cumulative effect of everything you've had going, everything happening at the moment, and what you've got coming up.

The wedding will also be stressful, especially with your work situation. It put quite a big strain on us, and the OH went on to have PND, too, which along with my depression made 2016 pretty shitty all round (aside from the birth of our child and the wedding, which was still great and worth it).

We're getting there now, and stuff is much better. I'm sure that your gf's actions, and your response, is just down to circumstances.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 3:04 pm
by Green Gecko
I hope you pull through mate, but if you feel that way often feel free to share here and you may want to consider something like low-cost counselling (students etc). We all lead stressful lives in different ways and there's no reason at all to suffer alone if you're feeling shitty.

If you have problems with the wife and can't face talking to her about them, then just for yourself it might be helpful to write down the stuff you felt was hurtful to get it out of your system, and internally, it's likely she regrets what she said if she loves you. When I have a fight with my partner, which is rare, humility goes a long way, and it's not hard to spur an apology from one another and make up, often within 24hrs. It's that resilience in a relationship and forgiveness, that goes a long way to a marriage holding out. Sometimes things just get too much and people lash out, and unfortunately you can be the subject of that frustration, just because you're the closest person and the person most likely to listen.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 3:42 pm
by Seven Posers Posing
Green Gecko wrote:If you have problems with the wife and can't face talking to her about them, then just for yourself it might be helpful to write down the stuff you felt was hurtful to get it out of your system, and internally, it's likely she regrets what she said if she loves you.


My wife has been doing this (or something similar) as part of her treatment. I was sorting out my car paperwork last night before I sell it and some of her personal stuff was jumbled up in it. I'd read it before I knew what I was looking at (I basically speed read, or pretty close).

It was fairly devastating - it was describing a recent incident in which I had reacted badly to something she had said (which she had intended as a joke) and it described her spiral of painful thoughts that came from that. :cry:

I'm going to keep it in mind and make sure I'm less of a dick in future.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 3:45 pm
by NickSCFC
Ad7 wrote:Feel like utter gooseberry fool at the moment.

At the weekend my mrs took exception to something that I didn't even do (misread something I did and took it completely the wrong way) and proceeded to shout at me for nearly a solid hour. She also threw in some really hurtful gooseberry fool which was totally uncalled for and it just broke me. I had what I assume an emotional breakdown feels like because I was strawberry floating hysterical. I've never cried like that before, absolutely howling, I had no way of stopping it, just curled up screaming. I had some really dark thoughts that night where I was thinking of walking in to the field and slitting my throat. I dont know whats going on, maybe it's stuff about my parents bottled up (that's still relatively recent, especially with my dad) combined with the job stuff.

I dont know.


Are kids involved? If not, at that point, it's probably best to just walk away.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 3:49 pm
by NickSCFC
No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:Living up north!
Why does it feel depressing every time I'm leaving London after a short break there? Getting on the train at Euston just sucks...I always feel like staying in the great smoke. But after a week or two I adjust back to the quiet life.

My New Years resolution for 2017 is to move down to London. Just need to get a job there first!

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Liverpool doesn't look that bad though but it just feels too small for me
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Take a look at the waterfront developments going on over at skyscrapercity.com, it's a real up and coming city centre, I just wouldn't recommend the surrounding areas.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 4:00 pm
by False
Poser wrote:
Green Gecko wrote:If you have problems with the wife and can't face talking to her about them, then just for yourself it might be helpful to write down the stuff you felt was hurtful to get it out of your system, and internally, it's likely she regrets what she said if she loves you.


My wife has been doing this (or something similar) as part of her treatment. I was sorting out my car paperwork last night before I sell it and some of her personal stuff was jumbled up in it. I'd read it before I knew what I was looking at (I basically speed read, or pretty close).

It was fairly devastating - it was describing a recent incident in which I had reacted badly to something she had said (which she had intended as a joke) and it described her spiral of painful thoughts that came from that. :cry:

I'm going to keep it in mind and make sure I'm less of a dick in future.


My girlfriend has anger issues and I have a predisposition to depression so any time either of us strawberry floats the other about we get it all out at least in a few texts the next day so we can think about it and talk about it at home. As a result anything that has popped up as an issue has been squashed and resolved happily - so far. Definitely helps to write it out as words are blunt and emotionless and therefore easy to decode and discuss.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 4:04 pm
by Seven Posers Posing
Gently-Parted Ringpiece wrote:
Poser wrote:
Green Gecko wrote:If you have problems with the wife and can't face talking to her about them, then just for yourself it might be helpful to write down the stuff you felt was hurtful to get it out of your system, and internally, it's likely she regrets what she said if she loves you.


My wife has been doing this (or something similar) as part of her treatment. I was sorting out my car paperwork last night before I sell it and some of her personal stuff was jumbled up in it. I'd read it before I knew what I was looking at (I basically speed read, or pretty close).

It was fairly devastating - it was describing a recent incident in which I had reacted badly to something she had said (which she had intended as a joke) and it described her spiral of painful thoughts that came from that. :cry:

I'm going to keep it in mind and make sure I'm less of a dick in future.


My girlfriend has anger issues and I have a predisposition to depression so any time either of us strawberry floats the other about we get it all out at least in a few texts the next day so we can think about it and talk about it at home. As a result anything that has popped up as an issue has been squashed and resolved happily - so far. Definitely helps to write it out as words are blunt and emotionless and therefore easy to decode and discuss.


Sounds like a sensible approach. I think we're starting to get better; even before yesterday I'd been considerably less of an arse, but clearly hadn't managed to eradicate it entirely.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 4:07 pm
by Green Gecko
Communication is massively important, even if you do it in weird ways it's all good and better than nothing.

I once found my mother's letters to my dad when he left, it was horrible. I could actually see the tears on the page as her writing became unintelligible and just trailed off. :dread: I think it's when I found those over a decade later that I knew my mother really loved him even though he was a banana split and nobody deserves to suffer that kind of emotional pain (on top of that, my mother constantly suffers from physical pain because she was hit by a drunk driver in her 20s and now needs a new hip and knee. It takes a special kind of arsehole to leave somebody in that state).

I've done this many times over the years, sometimes I send them, sometimes I don't. But in the end I think they lead to better things; it is far, far worse to say nothing and destroy your inner self.

Re: Depression

Posted: Thu Apr 20, 2017 11:33 pm
by No:1 Final Fantasy Fan
NickSCFC wrote:Take a look at the waterfront developments going on over at skyscrapercity.com, it's a real up and coming city centre, I just wouldn't recommend the surrounding areas.

Interesting! Thanks! Didn't realise there was going to be so many new developments.

Re: Depression

Posted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 11:42 am
by Seven Posers Posing
FFS. Just found out the man involved here was extended family. (My sister-in-law's sister's partner).

There were pics of him on Facebook posing happily at a Christening on Sunday. :( :(

http://www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/nor ... h-11210994

Re: Depression

Posted: Fri Apr 21, 2017 11:48 am
by Rocsteady
Poser wrote:FFS. Just found out the man involved here was extended family. (My sister-in-law's sister's partner).

There were pics of him on Facebook posing happily at a Christening on Sunday. :( :(

http://www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/nor ... h-11210994

I don't want to seem like I'm poking holes in this story but was it maybe just a very similar incident to this one? That article's been up since last April.