Re: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2018 12:00 pm
Seven, I'm glad you've popped in to let us know how you're doing and hope to support you a bit. I did the same commute (6hrs total 3hrs each way), you can do it for a short time but it will eventually hit you, even part time. Please consider a reflection after say 3-6 months on how it is affecting not only your mental health but your physical health too, which are interrelated.
It sounds like if you have felt isolated and spent a lot of time in MMOs etc and feeling misunderstood or quick to act with online text and speech etc, there is lack of subtlety there and I think that, even if on the autistic spectrum (I am), it take a lot of practice and day to day human interactions to do that. Speaking really fast or too slowly and being quick to react is a symptom of anxiety though, so it may be normal for you. I feel that over time, if you make small steps to be out and about or visit people in or out of your home you may get more comfortable in yourself, but don't I want to make assumptions.
Trelliz, you sound like a normal introvert to me and I have the same struggles. I'm on the spectrum and you could seek a diagnosis but it can take a very long time (years), you might be able to get more help from specialist charities etc, and it would help you understand yourself better and feel less blame and shame/guilt etc in not being "normal" (because nobody is, there are all sorts of neurotypes and different personalities, societal norms can frankly strawberry float off especially if they make individuals' lives difficult). This also goes for Seven. But I also don't feel that a diagnosis is essential, and it isn't something you should feel is the ultimate answer to things, as that can become pathological. I.e., I have this problem, let's get a diagnosis for that, but it being a neurological difference, it is, I'm afraid, probably always going to be there.
If anyone wants to discuss that kind of thing, getting stuck in situations or feeling like they struggle coping, you can post in here too, because mental health isn't just about our mind feeling "sick", it's about our social wellbeing and higher functioning as well. It's not a club only for people with massive issues, it can help a lot just with very small issues (and help prevent them becoming bigger ones) just to talk about it and gain perspective. Well done for sharing those thinks buds
It sounds like if you have felt isolated and spent a lot of time in MMOs etc and feeling misunderstood or quick to act with online text and speech etc, there is lack of subtlety there and I think that, even if on the autistic spectrum (I am), it take a lot of practice and day to day human interactions to do that. Speaking really fast or too slowly and being quick to react is a symptom of anxiety though, so it may be normal for you. I feel that over time, if you make small steps to be out and about or visit people in or out of your home you may get more comfortable in yourself, but don't I want to make assumptions.
Trelliz, you sound like a normal introvert to me and I have the same struggles. I'm on the spectrum and you could seek a diagnosis but it can take a very long time (years), you might be able to get more help from specialist charities etc, and it would help you understand yourself better and feel less blame and shame/guilt etc in not being "normal" (because nobody is, there are all sorts of neurotypes and different personalities, societal norms can frankly strawberry float off especially if they make individuals' lives difficult). This also goes for Seven. But I also don't feel that a diagnosis is essential, and it isn't something you should feel is the ultimate answer to things, as that can become pathological. I.e., I have this problem, let's get a diagnosis for that, but it being a neurological difference, it is, I'm afraid, probably always going to be there.
If anyone wants to discuss that kind of thing, getting stuck in situations or feeling like they struggle coping, you can post in here too, because mental health isn't just about our mind feeling "sick", it's about our social wellbeing and higher functioning as well. It's not a club only for people with massive issues, it can help a lot just with very small issues (and help prevent them becoming bigger ones) just to talk about it and gain perspective. Well done for sharing those thinks buds