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Dowbocop wrote:

shy guy 64 wrote:well that's it. we've lost my aunt

Sorry to hear that man. Grief is never a straight line so it's okay to feel shitty one day and it's okay to start to feel better on another, even if it doesn't seem to make sense.

I know you said you were going to take a break from posting when the time came but we're all here if and when you need us.

thanks. it certainly feels different from when we lost my grandad last year. but it was quite different circumstances

shy guy 64 wrote:well that's it. we've lost my aunt

Sorry man

Fade wrote:

shy guy 64 wrote:well that's it. we've lost my aunt

Sorry man

thanks

gooseberry fool sorry shy guy 64.

The price we pay for love is grief unfortunately. It's horrible, things must feel surreal.

You're a good fella shy guy. Love to you and the family.

Barnsy! wrote:gooseberry fool sorry shy guy 64.

The price we pay for love is grief unfortunately. It's horrible, things must feel surreal.

You're a good fella shy guy. Love to you and the family.

thanks barnsy

Sorry for your loss shyguy. We're all here if you ever want to vent!

Qikz wrote:Sorry for your loss shyguy. We're all here if you ever want to vent!

Thanks

shy guy 64 wrote:well that's it. we've lost my aunt

shy guy, oh, I'm so sorry to hear this, man.

jawa_ wrote:

shy guy 64 wrote:well that's it. we've lost my aunt

shy guy, oh, I'm so sorry to hear this, man.

Thanks jawa

Really sorry to hear that, shy guy. As others have said, we're always here when and if you feel you want to reach out and vent. My condolences to you and your family xx

Zilnad wrote:Really sorry to hear that, shy guy. As others have said, we're always here when and if you feel you want to reach out and vent. My condolences to you and your family xx

Thanks. Although if I vent it may get weird

shy guy 64 wrote:

Zilnad wrote:Really sorry to hear that, shy guy. As others have said, we're always here when and if you feel you want to reach out and vent. My condolences to you and your family xx

Thanks. Although if I vent it may get weird

I just want to give my condolences Shyguy, sorry to hear about it chap.... Venting can be weird because there is a million and one ways anyone can feel about what is happening around them and unless someone has lived through your exact circumstances they wont understand it exactly.

kerr9000 wrote:

shy guy 64 wrote:

Zilnad wrote:Really sorry to hear that, shy guy. As others have said, we're always here when and if you feel you want to reach out and vent. My condolences to you and your family xx

Thanks. Although if I vent it may get weird

I just want to give my condolences Shyguy, sorry to hear about it chap.... Venting can be weird because there is a million and one ways anyone can feel about what is happening around them and unless someone has lived through your exact circumstances they wont understand it exactly.

Thanks kerr

part of me wants to start posting again, talking about video games and the like is something i really like doing, it's an autistic thing, and i could do with things i like.

my aunt was a really kind women, most people in my mum's family was/are. i don't think i ever saw her get angry, annoyed sure but never properly angry. then again her husband probably drove her mad quite a few times. we lost him two years ago. anyway i hurst when such a nice person gets cancer, it's was quite a rare form to. a friend of mine had cancer a few years ago as well but he survived and we do the radio together now. but do you ever get mad when these things happen to nice people and then all the psychos in government keep getting off scot free for all the horrible stuff they do? i dunno i really have trouble processing my emotions. maybe i'm just getting mad at the wrong things. at times like this i keep thinking of the start of that hunchback song "the world is cruel, the world is wicked."

and then usual i sing the whole thing

shy guy 64 wrote:part of me wants to start posting again, talking about video games and the like is something i really like doing, it's an autistic thing, and i could do with things i like.

my aunt was a really kind women, most people in my mum's family was/are. i don't think i ever saw her get angry, annoyed sure but never properly angry. then again her husband probably drove her mad quite a few times. we lost him two years ago. anyway i hurst when such a nice person gets cancer, it's was quite a rare form to. a friend of mine had cancer a few years ago as well but he survived and we do the radio together now. but do you ever get mad when these things happen to nice people and then all the psychos in government keep getting off scot free for all the horrible stuff they do? i dunno i really have trouble processing my emotions. maybe i'm just getting mad at the wrong things. at times like this i keep thinking of the start of that hunchback song "the world is cruel, the world is wicked."

and then usual i sing the whole thing

I get exactly how you feel... I used to work in a bar and I'd see all these dreadful people either in work or on the way to and from, garbage people kicking there dogs down the road, screaming at there kids, hitting there partners, then I'd see all the corruption in politics on the TV and dictators and stuff and then my amazing kind wonderful mum passed away from an infection caused from surgery on a hernia and I just wanted to scream why her, why not one of these horrid people who constantly make the world worse not better..

I think it's quiet a normal way to feel... I'm autistic to though so maybe it's more a. Autism thing.

kerr9000 wrote:

shy guy 64 wrote:part of me wants to start posting again, talking about video games and the like is something i really like doing, it's an autistic thing, and i could do with things i like.

my aunt was a really kind women, most people in my mum's family was/are. i don't think i ever saw her get angry, annoyed sure but never properly angry. then again her husband probably drove her mad quite a few times. we lost him two years ago. anyway i hurst when such a nice person gets cancer, it's was quite a rare form to. a friend of mine had cancer a few years ago as well but he survived and we do the radio together now. but do you ever get mad when these things happen to nice people and then all the psychos in government keep getting off scot free for all the horrible stuff they do? i dunno i really have trouble processing my emotions. maybe i'm just getting mad at the wrong things. at times like this i keep thinking of the start of that hunchback song "the world is cruel, the world is wicked."

and then usual i sing the whole thing

I get exactly how you feel... I used to work in a bar and I'd see all these dreadful people either in work or on the way to and from, garbage people kicking there dogs down the road, screaming at there kids, hitting there partners, then I'd see all the corruption in politics on the TV and dictators and stuff and then my amazing kind wonderful mum passed away from an infection caused from surgery on a hernia and I just wanted to scream why her, why not one of these horrid people who constantly make the world worse not better..

I think it's quiet a normal way to feel... I'm autistic to though so maybe it's more a. Autism thing.

i empathise with you

Sending love to anyone who's struggling today <3

I'm finding it really hard right, now. I just feel really strawberry floated.

I'll give some context: I live in kind of a small town (less than 50k people) work in childcare, am training to be a counsellor and am non-binary

I feel like all of these things combined just mean I'm absolutely strawberry floated. Nobody really understands me, there's nobody to help me with my gender identity, dating is just absolutely horrendous, made even worse by the fact I work (and am training) in two low paying sectors and am gender diverse.

All my friends and colleagues are cis-women so they don't really understand the pain I'm going through and as a result don't really take it seriously. My deputy manager is gay and when I bought up being non-binary she was just like "be yourself"

But who you find attractive (sexual orientation) and who you are as a person (gender identity) are two completely different things that affect your life in completely different ways.

I can just about manage when I'm not dating, but as soon as I try and put the effort in and get ignored or rejected it just gives me concrete evidence I'm an undesirable weirdo and then I spiral into a heavy depression. I'll get better but this will keep happening and I don't know how to stop it.

Fade wrote:Sending love to anyone who's struggling today <3

I'm finding it really hard right, now. I just feel really strawberry floated.

I'll give some context: I live in kind of a small town (less than 50k people) work in childcare, am training to be a counsellor and am non-binary

I feel like all of these things combined just mean I'm absolutely strawberry floated. Nobody really understands me, there's nobody to help me with my gender identity, dating is just absolutely horrendous, made even worse by the fact I work (and am training) in two low paying sectors and am gender diverse.

All my friends and colleagues are cis-women so they don't really understand the pain I'm going through and as a result don't really take it seriously. My deputy manager is gay and when I bought up being non-binary she was just like "be yourself"

But who you find attractive (sexual orientation) and who you are as a person (gender identity) are two completely different things that affect your life in completely different ways.

I can just about manage when I'm not dating, but as soon as I try and put the effort in and get ignored or rejected it just gives me concrete evidence I'm an undesirable weirdo and then I spiral into a heavy depression. I'll get better but this will keep happening and I don't know how to stop it.

i'm sorry to hear you're feeling like that fade. i may be cis but i know how it feels to think of yourself as an undesirable weirdo. and i also know the feeling of not being understood very well. so i can empathize with you a bit

Thanks. I think a lot of men can empathise with being undesirable

As a women it almost seems like a given, if you're an average woman you're desirable

But when people see you as a man it feels like there's so many more hoops to jump through. You have to be fit, charismatic, well paid etc not to mention present in a specific way. And if you're not at least a couple of those things you're basically dirt.

Fade wrote:Thanks. I think a lot of men can empathise with being undesirable

As a women it almost seems like a given, if you're an average woman you're desirable

But when people see you as a man it feels like there's so many more hoops to jump through. You have to be fit, charismatic, well paid etc not to mention present in a specific way. And if you're not at least a couple of those things you're basically dirt.

That does all apply to women too. It's kind of mad if you think otherwise. The beauty standards might manifest in different ways but the pressures are all there.