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I'm of the mind that medicating ADHD is a bit like medicating autism. Does it help?

Alvin, please see a doctor and post here where you can, if you feel alone we're here to listen. It sounds like this has been building up a while and there's no reason to contain yourself if you are feeling sick.

Having a bit of a tough day today.

"u ok hun xx"s gratefully received.

Green Gecko wrote:I'm of the mind that medicating ADHD is a bit like medicating autism. Does it help?

Alvin, please see a doctor and post here where you can, if you feel alone we're here to listen. It sounds like this has been building up a while and there's no reason to contain yourself if you are feeling sick.

It's too early to tell really - it helps in the sense that I seem to be noticing more things around me and my time management has picked up since I started taking the tablets, but it's been very difficult to get around the fact that I'm sleeping 12 hours per day, and have been much more emotional than I normally am since I went on them. I have my girlfriend keeping a list of possible side effects so that I can reel them off when I go back to the ADHD guy at the end of January. I don't know if I'll keep taking the tablets for that long.

Karl wrote:Having a bit of a tough day today.

"u ok hun xx"s gratefully received.

u ok hun xx

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Corazon de Leon wrote:u ok hun xx

Thanks pal.

Sorry to hear about your side effects, sounds really rough. Hope you can find a different pill that works better for you.

jawafour wrote:There has been a pressure to "get things right" and "have fun!" for an extended time and that can be quite stressful for some people.

This is definitely a part of it. Best wishes to you too mate.

jawafour wrote:There has been a pressure to "get things right" and "have fun!" for an extended time and that can be quite stressful for some people.

100% this. My year from school have this reunion every Christmas eve in my hometown, and it was only the other year I realised I didn't have to go. It was a revelation. Everyone I like I keep in touch with anyway, and being in that sort of situation with people I didn't really like just made me feel horrible. Same with New Year. I always felt like you have to do something amazing or you've failed, but I just totally gave up on it (to the point I didn't even realise it was the 31st this year) and the whole Christmas period has become the most peaceful and relaxing time of year for me.

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I don't think this is depression but I really just need to vent. I guess it's more anxiety than anything else, but hopefully venting here might help me.

I got made a manager at work the other month and I've been trying really hard to do a good job, it was going fine but recently within the last 2 weeks I've seemingly let everything get on top of me after a big mistake which I'm not even in trouble for. I've been getting more and more stressed, because the more I feel like I want to do a good job the more I've found it harder to keep up. Stress sets my IBS off so my stomach has been causing me issues which hasn't helped it at all.

I really, really don't want to strawberry float this up and today my Boss called me up to his office as he realised something was going on and he asked if he could help. I tried to explain away the stress to pressure with tickets but I can't help but feel it's more than that. I'm getting really self defeatest that any time I notice myself make a single mistake or feel like I'm falling behind on one thing I just feel like I'm going to fail. It's like there's a voice in my head telling myself over and over again that "oh gooseberry fool you're strawberry floating everything up, you're an idiot why can't you get anything right" and it scares me that I might have bigger mental health problems than stress.

I've been through phases like this all my life. I often get back on top of it and it goes away for a while. It's not like it even happens just to me IRL. There's a game I play and just before Christmas I went through this entire thing just localised to my streaming of said game/tournaments I run and how I play it. I read some book about how to not tilt or at least how to improve the negative thoughts that were building up and it genuinely feels so much better. It's weird, because it feels like I'm tilting but at work. I'm letting all my negative emotions build up and overthrow me.

I think I know what I need to do to get on top of things again and I think my chat with my boss genuinely helped a lot, but I'm going to talk to him more tomorrow and just explain what I've just vented about here. I just need to take control of everything again, but where I get so damn anxious all the time that I'm going to screw everything up it's hard.

Thanks for listening, sorry if this doesn't belong here but I didn't know who else to talk to.

On my i-pad Qikz so can’t write a lot. But my first thought is, have you tried mindfulness meditation or relaxation techniques? I think you can still trial Headspace for free. Might be worth giving them a go so that you can a) relax at a fundamental level, b) watch your thought processes and see when they are illogically doing you harm. Just a thought.

Edit: by the way, your story definitely belongs here.

Of course it's fine to vent here, Qikz. It sounds like some kind of performance anxiety, or like, mental block caused by stress. I think you're doing the right thing by being open with your boss and trying to tackle it head-on. Something it might help to focus on is that you simply wouldn't have been promoted if you weren't the best-suited candidate for the role. Everyone messes something up now and then, but overall your performance must be good, so you have every reason to believe you can handle the job.

Hope it starts to go better for you from here on in. :wub:

Latest research on anti-depressents:-

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-43143889

A good read if you have concerns about taking them.

I've been feeling a bit "down" lately (not sure I'd define it as down per se, but can't think of a more appropriate word), seems to be a combination of work starting to get quite heavy as I've got loads on with no time or resource (or clear idea) to complete it, and a distinct feeling of loneliness.

When I say lonely, I really mean friend-lonely. I spend 99% of my personal life with my wife and daughter and it's great, but I do miss that camaraderie you get with your regular friends. My best friend of many years moved to New York last year with his new GF on a secondment (during which he fell off the radar and was really hard to get in touch with) and has since returned but is living in London, so I probably see him maybe once a month for a couple of hours in an evening if I'm lucky. Usually just playing co-op FIFA or having a natter. It's not enough. I used to see him regularly once a week for Games Night™ and it was a fixture in both our calendars. Other than him I've got guys that I work with but we don't hang out outside of work, everyone's got families and other commitments and honestly everyone just seems knackered all the time :lol:

I have a couple of other old friends but contact is intermittent at best and at worst non-existent for months on end.

I used to have a group of guys from school (that included my best friend) who all played in a 5-a-side team together but we disbanded a couple of years back (too much glory or something) and everyone's spread out and lost contact other than token gestures. I'm just as guilty as any of them, I'm not the most social person and in my younger days I was never one to go to house parties or clubbing, and that's not changed as I've got older. I also just think generally as you get older people have less and less free time, it's not a surprise or anything.

The other night my wife went out for the evening with her work friends and I was sat at home bored out of my tree, I didn't fancy playing videogames or watching a film or TV, I just felt really lonely. It was a bit gooseberry fool and I really noticed it for the first time.

I appreciate that some of you are going through genuinely difficult times and I'm just having what appears to be a bit of a whinge, but I felt the need to type this so perhaps there's something to it? I dunno. What to do, eh?

https://www.youtube.com/user/kerr9000

Prezzy I know exactly how you feel, feeling alone sucks... I mostly just spend time with my fiancée, my dad and my daughter. I love all of them but yeah sometimes I miss having real proper none family/partner friends and how things used to be.

I suffer from PTSD and anxiety and all sorts but sometimes the above hits me a lot worse. I also used to be a mentor for children with mental health problems and if there is one thing I have learned it is never ever think your upset or hurt is worth less than someone else's everyone deserves to be listened to and to have a chance to vent.

Preezy lots of people are lonely; there was a survey that said recently that lots of men have no actual 'friends' of the kind youre describing so youre not alone (hah!)
i often feel the same way, i coach a youth group 3 times a week and i think that social interaction, plus that of my family keeps me sane. if i didnt do that id probably be screwed.
sorry, i dont have any advice; just wanted to say its not unusual to feel as you do!

It's the little things like seeing my wife's phone constantly pinging with chat from her various girly whatsapp groups (mums group, work friends group, normal friends group, yoga group etc etc), she can receive countless messages in a single evening. Meanwhile I can leave my phone upstairs and when I go to bed I'll just have one message from my mum reminding me to feed her pets whilst she's on holiday

is there anything youre in to that you could socialise via? like, a sports team or something?
easier said than done - ive been 'thinking' about joining the local baseball team for months :fp:

Hahahahahahahah strawberry float all this gooseberry fool.

After that period of anxiety they took the role away from me and now I want to strawberry floating hurt somebody. I feel like they've ripped out my heart and stamped on it. I strawberry floating hate that company. They fiinally made me believe I could actually be good at something and they just ripped that confidence away from me.

They said they wanted the old me back and blamed the role, the old me is strawberry floating dead. This entire strawberry floating company and all the stupid strawberry floating idiotic people we have to deal with day in day out strawberry floating killed him. strawberry float them. It hurts so much.

I think it's just part of getting older. Everyone has their own worlds that they have created, those take precedence over everything else.

That's just my observation, I don't have a partner or kids. I do have friends who I see once a month or two who are in this same situation. They just can't be arsed because they are tired raising kids. I can only imagine what it must be like.

Qikz wrote:Hahahahahahahah strawberry float all this gooseberry fool.

After that period of anxiety they took the role away from me and now I want to strawberry floating hurt somebody. I feel like they've ripped out my heart and stamped on it. I strawberry floating hate that company. They fiinally made me believe I could actually be good at something and they just ripped that confidence away from me.

Seems like they are looking out for your welfare, assuming you are still working with the company. It may not seem like it now. They might feel you need a bit more time.

I can't say anything about dealing with people, dealing with a customer base, it doesn't get any better, I can assure you.

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