HDYFRN How Do You Feel Right Now?

Minoru wrote:Damn, I'm oversharing, aren't I?

Wrathy wrote:I like Richards approach of doing stuff

RichardUK wrote:I wasn’t sure how my parents would react, they have never said anything bad about gay people apart from my mum would say lesbian in a strange way (like Peter Kay says his mum says it in stand up) when she spoke to me about her friends daughter, my main concern was that my parents are older than most people my age because they had me later in life and there’s a large gap between me and my siblings,

I “came out” to my friends and people I worked with but didn’t know how to really tell my parents because I didn’t want to act like it was a major thing, I used to read gay times and attitude and would hide them but I started just putting them in my room bin knowing my mum would empty it, no the best way but it worked, my mum looked emotional and told me my dad wanted to talk to me in the garage, I went in and he say “are you gay?” I said yes and started filling up with tears, my dad started crying and hugged me, I said “are you disappointed?” He said “yes” - “disappointing you didn’t think you could tell me sooner, I’m your dad and I love you” (I have got tears in my eyes writing that now!) anyway I went inside and my mum was crying and she hugged me and the first thing she said was “is Michael your boyfriend?” I laughed and said No! She said “oh that’s a shame I like him” and then rang both my sisters and brother to tell them,

Now they know everything and even have Karl go and stay with them when they are at one of there holiday homes, my dad was born in 1946 and my mum 1947 so from a different time yet they are open and understanding, I am very lucky to have them, again my siblings who are 14 - 18 years older are fine aswell but I did expect them to be, my friends were the best friends you could wish for

Wrathy wrote:If anything I overshared, I don’t really like talking about that stuff publically anymore because it’s something I regard as intensely private and somewhat akin to a fever dream.

I like Richards approach of doing stuff to plant seeds. I’m not sure if the specific example of magazines casually left around or whatever is a good or bad way, since I’ve never been someone to wrap myself in a rainbow flag and be identifiable. But it sort of breaks the news gently and puts the idea firmly in their mind as something they have to confront, without necessarily being something they have to talk to you about right now. Signalling that you’re ready to talk about it on their time. I think that’s a pretty good way to do it in general. Assuming of course they a) notice and b) bring it up. Which could be a bold assumption!

Tsunade wrote:I have a friend who came out a few years ago, he had no idea how anyone was going to take it (although it was kind of obvious), especially his parents who are quite old fashioned, but when he told them they just told him to stay safe. He's flourished since then, his confidence has skyrocketed. I've never seen someone who was so quiet become so confident so fast!

I hope your mum is really supportive when you tell her or she finds out minoru. We're here if you need to talk or need support.

Qikz wrote:

RichardUK wrote:I wasn’t sure how my parents would react, they have never said anything bad about gay people apart from my mum would say lesbian in a strange way (like Peter Kay says his mum says it in stand up) when she spoke to me about her friends daughter, my main concern was that my parents are older than most people my age because they had me later in life and there’s a large gap between me and my siblings,

I “came out” to my friends and people I worked with but didn’t know how to really tell my parents because I didn’t want to act like it was a major thing, I used to read gay times and attitude and would hide them but I started just putting them in my room bin knowing my mum would empty it, no the best way but it worked, my mum looked emotional and told me my dad wanted to talk to me in the garage, I went in and he say “are you gay?” I said yes and started filling up with tears, my dad started crying and hugged me, I said “are you disappointed?” He said “yes” - “disappointing you didn’t think you could tell me sooner, I’m your dad and I love you” (I have got tears in my eyes writing that now!) anyway I went inside and my mum was crying and she hugged me and the first thing she said was “is Michael your boyfriend?” I laughed and said No! She said “oh that’s a shame I like him” and then rang both my sisters and brother to tell them,

Now they know everything and even have Karl go and stay with them when they are at one of there holiday homes, my dad was born in 1946 and my mum 1947 so from a different time yet they are open and understanding, I am very lucky to have them, again my siblings who are 14 - 18 years older are fine aswell but I did expect them to be, my friends were the best friends you could wish for

strawberry float, now I'm tearing up

Squinty wrote:Mother's aren't automatically entitled to grandchildren. To behave like that is bizarre as hell. I mean, it's probably disappointing for them, but to act like that is just gooseberry fool behaviour.

Tsunade wrote:The neighbour above me is having some work done to his flat... they've been drilling nonstop since 8am

DubuDeccer wrote:Just bought a ticket to Twiceland Zone 2
Time to book a week's holiday around it lmao

Moggy wrote:I just cannot comprehend how anybody can not accept their own children for what they are.

Rightey wrote:

Moggy wrote:I just cannot comprehend how anybody can not accept their own children for what they are.

What if your kid told you one day that he watches anime, or even worse vapes.