Wrathy wrote:If anything I overshared, I don’t really like talking about that stuff publically anymore because it’s something I regard as intensely private and somewhat akin to a fever dream.
I like Richards approach of doing stuff to plant seeds. I’m not sure if the specific example of magazines casually left around or whatever is a good or bad way, since I’ve never been someone to wrap myself in a rainbow flag and be identifiable. But it sort of breaks the news gently and puts the idea firmly in their mind as something they have to confront, without necessarily being something they have to talk to you about right now. Signalling that you’re ready to talk about it on their time. I think that’s a pretty good way to do it in general. Assuming of course they a) notice and b) bring it up. Which could be a bold assumption!
Yeah, sorry, I don’t want you to feel like you have to share anything you’re not comfortable with. I do really appreciate it, but I don’t want you to feel uncomfortable.
I’m really not sure what it would take my mum to notice, she can be pretty dense about things she doesn’t want to see and this is definitely something she doesn't want to see. I mean, there’ve been some pretty strong hints over the years that even my
grandmother picked up on. It really is shocking it took me so long to realise myself. I do think it could be a good idea though, I guess I'm no worse off if it doesn't work and it's less terrifying that just blurting it out one day. It's just, courage is not something I have a lot of.
Tsunade wrote:I have a friend who came out a few years ago, he had no idea how anyone was going to take it (although it was kind of obvious), especially his parents who are quite old fashioned, but when he told them they just told him to stay safe. He's flourished since then, his confidence has skyrocketed. I've never seen someone who was so quiet become so confident so fast!
I hope your mum is really supportive when you tell her or she finds out minoru. We're here if you need to talk or need support.
Thank you, that's actually really encouraging.