kerr9000 wrote:I think far more people contemplate suicide than anyone even realizes. I spent 8 months working for 2 charity's owned by the same parent company both dealing with teens and it was basically lads and girls who were depressed either through bullying or mental health issues, you were talking to them when they were just down but passing them off to higher trained counselors if they were a suicide risk.Did you know studies tend to show that women more often have suicidal thoughts than men, but men die by suicide more frequently. As sick a quality as it might be I think men are just better at offing themselves, both sexes think about it, both try but men just manage it more. I think more people need impartial people to talk to more call lines and charitys etc so in that way you can certainly blame capitalism as if something doesnt really make money it ceases to exist.
To clarify I am not anti feminisim and I do think men can be pricks and some of it can be taught.... I just think there is a certain side of Feminism/ certain Feminists who are absolute a holes, who dont want equality, they want what they want and there willing to lie cheat and steal to get it, for example the ones seen on twitter etc pushing this shooting was toxic masculinity before anyone knew jack gooseberry fool. I suppose every ideal be it left right or center field will have dicks who just want to jump right on it to promote themselves more than to help but then I think a lot of people are happy to side with pricks like this if it marches to the beat of the same drum as them. I consider myself left wing but if I think someones a nob there a nob you know what I mean?
I fell asleep writing this a few times so if it comes across like rambling so be it but i dont want to make someone wait when theyve asked me a question.
Sure, thanks for getting back to me (there was no rush!). I think we talked about it once briefly before, but cheers for your work with kids and teens. My issues started really young so I know first-hand it can be tough for kids to understand what is happening to them when they become depressed or suicidal. Yeah, I'd heard that statistic, that women suffer serious depression at a similar rate to men, despite the suicide statistics being so different -- understanding that discrepancy is really important, and (taking personal feelings out of it for a second and looking at it academically) it's a really interesting piece of sociology as well.
I actually think you have a valid point about the left on Twitter (and to some extent in other spheres). Recently I have come to kind of accept and try to reclaim the term SJW (people are thinking it anyway, so why not?). So, speaking as an SJW, I think one of the SJW community's biggest rhetorical weaknesses is how it engages with its "out-group", i.e. people who are centrist or right-wing. Us SJWs often: 1. speak using scary or incomprehensible academic political theory phrases, like "dialectic" and "toxic masculinity" and "racism is about power structures so minorities can't be racist", that sound like doublethink to people unfamiliar with their precise meanings, and for some reason we seem to insist on doing this even when we know "outsiders" are watching; and 2. treat people who question or misapprehend those discussions like evil fascist trolls rather than good faith bemused bystanders.
So I don't think there are many people on the left that seriously want to kill all men - I sometimes see "eat the rich" style hyperbole, but you've got to let them have their edgy jokes (they're mostly teens after all!) - but I agree with you that sometimes us leftists can be incomprehensible or overbearing or annoying. I'm as guilty of that as anyone. Sorry if I've come across that way in this discussion.
Preezy wrote:Sorry Karl, I didn't see your questions until just now.
> What are your thoughts on male suicide rates?
I wish they were lower.
> Why do so many men kill themselves?
Societal pressure to succeed? And failing to meet that expectation? I dunno. I do know that men are far more likely to be rejected sexually than women, and that's quite a depressing thing to deal with. Guys have to work much harder than girls to get laid. I'm not trying to be flippant, I genuinely think that's a (albeit probably minor) factor.
> As a follow-up question, is it ever appropriate to think about that "academically", with cold detachment, and try to put a political view forward?
Sure, I have no problem with that. Removing emotion from a topic makes it far easier to view the issue objectively.
No worries and thanks for your reply! I was actually pretty touched by "I wish they were lower" -- I do too.
There's definitely a discussion to be had around loneliness in men, so I thought it was really interesting you mentioned that. In its most extreme form you end up with the in-cel community (I have to put a dash in or it wordfilters to "fedora-wearing misogynist"
). Despite the deserved bad rep they have, I don't think everyone who ends up in that community is evil, even if their rhetoric about women is grossly offensive (calling them "femoids" and "cumdumpsters" and so on). I think most of them have simply had some bad luck in relationships, got depressed about it, and then don't feel they have anywhere to turn apart from these weird online communities. You know, they can't talk to their mates about loneliness, and they don't want to get therapy, and they feel so much shame over not being "good with women" it's hard for them to just shrug it off and, like, get a hobby (even though that might ultimately solve the problem!).
Relationships & sexuality is only one component of the male experience, but it's very important to many (most? nearly all?) men, so I think you're right to bring it up and it's an interesting point. And some mass shooters have cited being in-cel as a motivation, so it's definitely relevant.
Even for men who don't go down that road, loneliness - lacking a partner, lacking friends - eats away at you, and I think men do often have worse support systems for dealing with that.