Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x

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by Death's Head » Fri May 12, 2017 10:46 pm

Bunni wrote:The issue is that you're having to be told.

This is it. It is bloody annoying having to tell people to do things all of the time and it is really nice when people just do things without being asked.

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by Gently-Hung Holly Wreath » Fri May 12, 2017 11:08 pm

Bunni wrote:The issue is that you're having to be told. Or doing exactly only what she asks which roughly translates to bare strawberry floating minimum. She's expecting you to notice jobs need done and be proactive in doing them, rather than running about oblivious until it's pointed out to you.

Go to the kitchen, is it clean? No? Well clean it. Don't wait to be asked. If she tells you to put the dishwasher on, don't leave the sides a mess under the plates because she explicitly says 'the dishwasher', notice that there's a mess left behind from doing the job she asked and finish it.

When you want milk for your coffee do you pop to the shop and buy milk? Yeah? Wrong. You should be checking what supplies are needed and coming home with what's about to run out as well as milk for yourself, since you're going anyway.

Is she working late tonight? Only got one day off to spend time with you? Use you extra time to catch up on house duties to lessen her load if she's short on time. You probably think you're being helpful but it gets strawberry floating annoying when you expect everyone to be as efficient as yourself but chromosomes.


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by smurphy » Fri May 12, 2017 11:27 pm

Karl wrote:
Errkal wrote:Yeah this will never end, I have this argument every few weeks.


You mean every 28 days, right?


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You're both in the wrong a bit, I reckon. It sounds like she's let this silently annoy her for ages instead of sorting it out when it became a problem, and now she seems super unreasonable. On the other hand saying you'll do whatever, you just have to be told, isn't really an excuse. My girlfriend is like that and it's super strawberry floating frustrating. Though with her every time I tell her to do something she was conveniently 'just about to do it'.

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by Saigon Slick » Fri May 12, 2017 11:39 pm

But then I'm like that - I don't notice things like that, and when I'm told that I should be noticing them it gets my back up because I have no idea how to make myself see things that I don't otherwise see. Likewise, I'm not a psychic; if you want me to do something, all you ever need to do is ask and I'll sort it right away. Alternatively, some kind of schedule between the people in the living situation that's posted somewhere so I know to remember to check gooseberry fool, or clean gooseberry fool.

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by Oblomov Boblomov » Sat May 13, 2017 7:14 am

Sounds to me like you are waiting to be asked to help or reacting to her carrying out tasks rather than autonomously and proactively managing the jobs that need doing. Of course that's going to irritate her.

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by Rightey » Sat May 13, 2017 9:14 am

The problem I have is I have different standards for when things need to be done. For example I like to do laundry once a week whereas my wife wants to do it several times a week so she has smaller loads.

This means even when I would do it by myself it makes it seem like I wasn't going to. It's just one of those things you need to be aware of and sort out a compromise.

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by Partridge Iciclebubbles » Sat May 13, 2017 10:21 am

Bunni wrote:The issue is that you're having to be told. Or doing exactly only what she asks which roughly translates to bare strawberry floating minimum. She's expecting you to notice jobs need done and be proactive in doing them, rather than running about oblivious until it's pointed out to you.

Go to the kitchen, is it clean? No? Well clean it. Don't wait to be asked. If she tells you to put the dishwasher on, don't leave the sides a mess under the plates because she explicitly says 'the dishwasher', notice that there's a mess left behind from doing the job she asked and finish it.

When you want milk for your coffee do you pop to the shop and buy milk? Yeah? Wrong. You should be checking what supplies are needed and coming home with what's about to run out as well as milk for yourself, since you're going anyway.

Is she working late tonight? Only got one day off to spend time with you? Use you extra time to catch up on house duties to lessen her load if she's short on time. You probably think you're being helpful but it gets strawberry floating annoying when you expect everyone to be as efficient as yourself but chromosomes.


1>3>4>2 wrote:Sounds like a classic case of bitches be crazy.


:dread:

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by That's not a growth » Sat May 13, 2017 10:23 am

Gently-Parted Ringpiece wrote:She shouted at me last week for putting the wrong washing on the line. The reason I would just prefer her to tell me is because that way I will do exactly what she asks. She doesnt see this side and insists I want to be told because I am a baby.

If I take on every responsibility she will get really mad that Im doing it the wrong way, I can just see it.


Personally I would say that I don't see it as unreasonable to want someone to point out to me how they want something done if they think I've done it wrong, but it's only if I ignored these requested instructions would I think it reasonable for them to be annoyed with me. At least try to meet me half way. I'm obviously not seeing something you can, I'm sorry, but point it out and I'll learn from this.

I suppose it seems best case scenario:
Do as much as you can around the house to show you're trying
Get most of it wrong
She tells you how to do it right in a reasonable way
Profit

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by Buffalo » Sun May 14, 2017 1:15 am

Is it her house that you've moved into?

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by Hexx » Sun May 14, 2017 9:38 am

Rightey wrote:whereas my wife wants to do it several times a week so she has smaller loads.



So your wife doesn't like your big loads?


But seriously Bunni nailed it

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by Dick Thornburg » Tue May 16, 2017 2:23 pm

So my girlfriend asked me to move in with her at the weekend. :D :D

I'm excited but nervous at the same time. It's a completely different set up to when I lived with my last girlfriend. For one she's got kids and she's going through her divorce at the moment. The boys are my main concern as while they're not young (13 and 21) I've never been a "responsible" adult or had to live with kids beyond my own sister. Gonna take some getting used to. :D

But yeah we're going to give it a go for a bit and see how we get on. Plus point is that she's literally my best mates next door neighbour so that'll be good. :slol:

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by Rocksleddy » Tue May 16, 2017 2:29 pm

My girlfriend's being a total bint. I love her and can't really be assed being single again but it's getting a bit much.

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by That's not a growth » Tue May 16, 2017 2:37 pm

Just use those exact words and I'm sure she'll understand.

Nice one CD, how old are you? Must be odd having a 21 year old as a step son?

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by Dick Thornburg » Tue May 16, 2017 2:45 pm

That's not a growth wrote:Nice one CD, how old are you? Must be odd having a 21 year old as a step son?

I'm 34, she's 39. It is a little bit odd. Especially as I see so much of myself in him (The younger one as well). Socially awkward, loves his games, made a mess of Uni. Like looking into my own past. :dread:

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by jawafour » Tue May 16, 2017 2:46 pm

Cheeky Devlin wrote:So my girlfriend asked me to move in with her at the weekend. :D :D ...

Arcade Attacks is never gonna get made again, is it? :( .

I'm joking, Dev - good on ya!

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by Dick Thornburg » Tue May 16, 2017 2:48 pm

jawafour wrote:
Cheeky Devlin wrote:So my girlfriend asked me to move in with her at the weekend. :D :D ...

Arcade Attacks is never gonna get made again, is it? :( .

I'm joking, Dev - good on ya!

She loves my streaming and videos so don't think you've seen the last of them.

I'm already rearranging the furniture in my head. Gotta make space for my stuff. :lol:

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by jawafour » Tue May 16, 2017 2:51 pm

Cheeky Devlin wrote:She loves my streaming and videos so don't think you've seen the last of them...

:o ... so... there is a chance that the video production team is gonna expand?!? This is a great move, Cheeky :toot: .

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by Partridge Iciclebubbles » Tue May 16, 2017 2:53 pm

Cheeky Devlin wrote:Socially awkward, loves his games,


Congrats to Staydead on getting a new stepdad.

;)

Congrats CD, it must be weird to suddenly be living with two stepsons, but it is probably just as weird for them. As long as you all like each other then you should be able to get along.

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by Dick Thornburg » Tue May 16, 2017 2:56 pm

Moggy wrote:
Cheeky Devlin wrote:Socially awkward, loves his games,


Congrats to Staydead on getting a new stepdad.

;)


I'll beat the weeb out of him. :lol: :lol:

Moggy wrote:Congrats CD, it must be weird to suddenly be living with two stepsons, but it is probably just as weird for them. As long as you all like each other then you should be able to get along.

Yeah I get on really well with them both. It'll be strange at first I'm sure. Not set a date or even really had a proper discussion about it, so it might not happen for a while yet. She wants to speak to them about it first (Obviously). For my part I've said I'm ready whenever she is, but that I'm not in any rush so she doesn't have any pressure on her.

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by Partridge Iciclebubbles » Tue May 16, 2017 2:58 pm

Cheeky Devlin wrote:Yeah I get on really well with them both. It'll be strange at first I'm sure. Not set a date or even really had a proper discussion about it, so it might not happen for a while yet. She wants to speak to them about it first (Obviously). For my part I've said I'm ready whenever she is, but that I'm not in any rush so she doesn't have any pressure on her.


If it happens and if they play up, just remember you can win any argument at all by just telling them that you have strawberry floated their mother.

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