Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x

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by Tomous » Sat Jun 24, 2017 11:29 pm

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by Skarjo » Sun Jun 25, 2017 3:17 am

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by Curls » Wed Jun 28, 2017 11:04 pm

Had a rough time on Saturday night.

I went to stay with a friend whom I have some history with, she's known i was coming for weeks and invited me to her bbq. Anyway to sum up, I asked her out a few years back, it didn't work out, but we've remained friends and had many ups and downs, and recently we've been getting along well.

Anyway, so I rock up at her house for the BBQ, we start chatting and putting some drinks in the fridge, when she suddenly mentions she has a new boyfriend...who is currently upstairs... I was pretty shocked, but decided to play the cool card and be friendly and nice.
I then had to spend the whole night getting to know her boyfriend and her other friends whilst not wanting to be there at all. To end off the lovely experience she puts me in the spare room whilst they're in the room next door, I fortunately didn't hear any sex but god I couldn't sleep a wink.

I then decided to strawberry float off our plans the next morning and left before they woke up. We were meant to get lunch together, but I knew the new boyfriend would be coming too.

Am I being over sensitive here? I knew our friendship wouldn't lead anywhere romantically but it still hit me hard and I just wanted to have a nice catch up with her. I don't think I found out anything new about her life except about this fella she's met and all about him, yay...

I think I'm going to give her a wide berth for some time, I feel completely taken advantage of...she could have just told me she had a boyfriend and that he'd be at the BBQ and let me make my own decision on whether to attend; rather than leaving me stranded in that situation.

And yet somehow she's managed to make me feel bad for leaving the next morning by saying it was odd that i left and she was looking forward to brunch?? Pah...
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by Ad7 » Wed Jun 28, 2017 11:11 pm

I think you were on for a thresome
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by Lucien » Wed Jun 28, 2017 11:17 pm

Curls wrote:Am I being over sensitive here? I knew our friendship wouldn't lead anywhere romantically but it still hit me hard and I just wanted to have a nice catch up with her.


Yeah man I think you are being over sensitive. You said you asked her out a few years ago, which is a fairly long time to pass by.
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by Rightey » Thu Jun 29, 2017 12:05 am

Curls wrote:I think I'm going to give her a wide berth for some time, I feel completely taken advantage of...she could have just told me she had a boyfriend and that he'd be at the BBQ and let me make my own decision on whether to attend; rather than leaving me stranded in that situation.

And yet somehow she's managed to make me feel bad for leaving the next morning by saying it was odd that i left and she was looking forward to brunch?? Pah...


Unless you left out something massive from your story it sounds like you're being a baby to be honest. This girl let you stay over at her house despite the fact she has a boyfriend (he probably wasn't very happy about that and that may have been an awkward thing to discuss with him), and then when you get the chance to catch up with her (yes, I know her boyfriend would probably be there too but that doesn't mean you can't talk) you just fob her off. It seems like you're not over her and are just hurt that she seems to have moved on.
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by Curls » Thu Jun 29, 2017 12:33 am

You're both probably right. I guess that's why its good to discuss these things on here and with different groups of people, you lot are unbiased. I've already apologised to her for my actions for leaving, I'll give her space now and try to move on.

I still think she maybe could have forewarned me though, but yes I've been oversensitive. There is a lot more to this story rightey, but it's long and boring and mainly involves me overthinking things and being hurt, I think I've got a lot of emotional maturing yet to do.
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by Errkal » Thu Jun 29, 2017 6:26 am

There was nothing to forewarn you about, if you had dated and broke up a few months ago sure, but you only asked her out and a few years ago at that, if she invites you she sees you as a friend so was just inviting a mate round for a BBQ.

It sounds like you need to get over it as she certainly has.
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by Ad7 » Thu Jun 29, 2017 6:43 am

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by Tafdolphin » Thu Jun 29, 2017 11:11 am

Curls wrote: I feel completely taken advantage of...she could have just told me she had a boyfriend and that he'd be at the BBQ


Dude. No. Let's break this down:

I went to stay with a friend whom I have some history with, she's known i was coming for weeks and invited me to her bbq. Anyway to sum up, I asked her out a few years back, it didn't work out, but we've remained friends and had many ups and downs, and recently we've been getting along well.


Friend. Years ago. Didn't work out (I assume that means she said no). Ok.

Anyway, so I rock up at her house for the BBQ, we start chatting and putting some drinks in the fridge, when she suddenly mentions she has a new boyfriend...who is currently upstairs... I was pretty shocked, but decided to play the cool card and be friendly and nice.


She "suddenly" announced it? Did she jump out from behind a door and scream "BOYFRIEND!"? And you decided to not be a complete dick. Great. So do we all. Every day.

I then had to spend the whole night getting to know her boyfriend and her other friends whilst not wanting to be there at all. To end off the lovely experience she puts me in the spare room whilst they're in the room next door, I fortunately didn't hear any sex but god I couldn't sleep a wink.


No, you didn't have to do anything. You could have said a pleasant goodbye and left. And, oh no, she gives you a room to yourself. When I sleep at my mates' places I'm lucky to get a strawberry floating pillow and an unbuffered spot on the floor.

I then decided to strawberry float off our plans the next morning and left before they woke up. We were meant to get lunch together, but I knew the new boyfriend would be coming too.


I did this sort of gooseberry fool when I was 12. I actually did. It felt good at the time; "I showed them!" I thought. Only no. I showed them something, but that something was that I was still crushing on the girl and jelly of her boyfriend. So, well done for getting that out there I suppose?

Am I being over sensitive here? I knew our friendship wouldn't lead anywhere romantically but it still hit me hard and I just wanted to have a nice catch up with her. I don't think I found out anything new about her life except about this fella she's met and all about him, yay...


No, I don't think you did/do.
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by Buffalo » Thu Jun 29, 2017 11:13 am

Kick him while he's down, why don't you.
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by Tafdolphin » Thu Jun 29, 2017 11:15 am

Yeah, that is a bit harsh, but I don't think anything's hyperbolic. I also see so much of my younger self in that post it's unreal and wish now someone could have shaken me out of that passive-aggressive gooseberry fool as it 1) gets you nowhere 2) increases frustration and victim complex reasoning.

The girl owes him nothing. He needs to get over it and move on. And maybe stop seeing her, full stop.
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by Floex » Thu Jun 29, 2017 11:23 am

Yeah Curls, if this is the same girl we've seen you talk about for, what, years now you've got to let this go. Just for your own peace of mind. You clearly still like this girl if you're getting upset she has a boyfriend. Not for one to just cut people out of your life but you're never going to move on if you keep this slight hope that you two will hook up one day. These feelings will not disappear until you move on yourself and meet someone new.
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by Rax » Thu Jun 29, 2017 11:40 am

I had a serious hang up on a girl for years, just had to bite the bullet and cut her out of my life. Best decision I ever made to be honest, getting that bit of distance helped me move on and see how much of a jackass I was being.
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by Moggy » Thu Jun 29, 2017 1:37 pm

Sorry Curls but I am with everyone else. It doesn’t sound like she led you on in any way, she thinks you’re a friend and is probably confused as to why you left without leaving.

It sucks, but you have to move on, it doesn’t sound like anything is ever going to happen there and it will do nobody any good to keep acting like that. If you can’t handle just being friends with her, then you’re going to need to stay away.
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by gaminglegend » Thu Jun 29, 2017 4:18 pm

Curls wrote:Had a rough time on Saturday night.

I went to stay with a friend whom I have some history with, she's known i was coming for weeks and invited me to her bbq. Anyway to sum up, I asked her out a few years back, it didn't work out, but we've remained friends and had many ups and downs, and recently we've been getting along well.

Anyway, so I rock up at her house for the BBQ, we start chatting and putting some drinks in the fridge, when she suddenly mentions she has a new boyfriend...who is currently upstairs... I was pretty shocked, but decided to play the cool card and be friendly and nice.
I then had to spend the whole night getting to know her boyfriend and her other friends whilst not wanting to be there at all. To end off the lovely experience she puts me in the spare room whilst they're in the room next door, I fortunately didn't hear any sex but god I couldn't sleep a wink.

I then decided to strawberry float off our plans the next morning and left before they woke up. We were meant to get lunch together, but I knew the new boyfriend would be coming too.

Am I being over sensitive here? I knew our friendship wouldn't lead anywhere romantically but it still hit me hard and I just wanted to have a nice catch up with her. I don't think I found out anything new about her life except about this fella she's met and all about him, yay...

I think I'm going to give her a wide berth for some time, I feel completely taken advantage of...she could have just told me she had a boyfriend and that he'd be at the BBQ and let me make my own decision on whether to attend; rather than leaving me stranded in that situation.

And yet somehow she's managed to make me feel bad for leaving the next morning by saying it was odd that i left and she was looking forward to brunch?? Pah...


I'm going to go down a different tact,

You are friends, and it's made you a bit sore to see this which bro, I feel for you. But clearly there's something that you haven't accepted and still feel for her in someway, so really you need to workout, if I can't be okay with this, do I want to be friends with her?

Cut her off if not, agree to part ways, it'll free you up and not kill your mind. Otherwise if you stay and don't get over it, it'll just hurt you and get you more worked up. Every girl/guy has been there, where you are. And most of the time, it doesn't work out being friends, so they cut ties.
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by Trelliz » Thu Jun 29, 2017 4:27 pm

Moggy wrote:Sorry Curls but I am with everyone else. It doesn’t sound like she led you on in any way, she thinks you’re a friend and is probably confused as to why you left without leaving.


I'd be confused if someone did that. ;)
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by Kezzer » Thu Jun 29, 2017 4:35 pm

Trelliz wrote:
Moggy wrote:Sorry Curls but I am with everyone else. It doesn’t sound like she led you on in any way, she thinks you’re a friend and is probably confused as to why you left without leaving.


I'd be confused if someone did that. ;)


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