Wow taf, way to be a dick.
Curls wrote:Thanks guys. Don't worry I'm not hurt by your comments (except for maybe being 12) and I wrote the initial post when I was quite upset and tipsy last night.
I was in no way grumpy or horrid during the BBQ, it all really came over me when I was in bed afterwards, I couldn't sleep so decided to leave in the morning... I'm going to try not to regret that, as there isn't any point, it was what i needed to do at that precise moment in time. Plus I wrote a nice enough note.
You're all right, she owes me nothing, shes already given me a lot by having so much patience with me and I should have been more appreciative of the fact she still wants to be friends and have me round, I've been a poor friend and let my feelings get in the way yet again.
I'll leave her be now, she doesn't deserve to be nagged by some needy guy, I have to for the sake of my own sanity. Just need to figure my life out and try to see other girls.
But please: Having your message broken down and highlighted like that can be quite grilling, some stern advice was probably needed Taf, but I'd appreciate to not receive the same punishment again with this post.
Don't be so down on yourself mate. I said you were a bit oversensitive: really what I meant I guess is your reaction to what she did
seems oversensitive. In your head you might mean more to her, than you do in her
There are some people in my past who I might ask to a BBQ/stay overnight, and it wouldn't occur to me I'd have to tell them I was dating. That's because I don't think they view me romantically, and I don't view them romantically. Friends, basically.
Part of why you're hurt likely is you thought you meant more (or meant something... different?) to her. But understand from her perspective, she wasn't trying to hurt or embarrass you, most likely.
This reminds me of a scene in (500) Days of Summer. Although tbf I thought the girl in that was a bitch for not telling the guy... plus she was engaged. Bitch.