GRcade

I can't seem to do anything right.

Online apps - conversations dry up real quick

Plan a date - rain checked

Get on really well with this lass at work/ think there is something there - don't have the courage (after a works night out ) to ask her out.

/end of attention seeking -- woe me

Kezzer wrote:
Get on really well with this lass at work/ think there is something there - don't have the courage (after a works night out ) to ask her out.

Email her, it's a foolproof plan.

Kezzer wrote:I can't seem to do anything right.

Online apps - conversations dry up real quick

Plan a date - rain checked

Get on really well with this lass at work/ think there is something there - don't have the courage (after a works night out ) to ask her out.

/end of attention seeking -- woe me

It's difficult to give you any advice on the first two, but a monkey could see what needs to be done in the third example...

I'll date you Kezzer. Hit me up.

Oblomov Boblomov wrote:

Kezzer wrote:I can't seem to do anything right.

Online apps - conversations dry up real quick

Plan a date - rain checked

Get on really well with this lass at work/ think there is something there - don't have the courage (after a works night out ) to ask her out.

/end of attention seeking -- woe me

It's difficult to give you any advice on the first two, but a monkey could see what needs to be done in the third example...

He should send her an email.

Kezzer try not to feel sorry for yourself. Ive spent a good deal of my time doing that over the past few years and its not gotten me anywhere. Try to just be happier in yourself, maybe you didnt ask this girl out, but use it as a lesson to ask the next one (or ask her next time).

Its got to the stage for me now where anything is progress and that not necessarily a bad thing. I went on a few days out (i dont know if they were dates? im that useless) with a girl back home recently and she was far too pretty for me but kept agreeing to meet. Anyway it ended up going nowhere, as I was going away for 6 months! However, I did manage to make my intentions known, and for me this is progress. We still text a bit and I will try my best to move things a on bit when Im back (if shes still single).

The whole time this was going on, I had just stopped worrying so much about everything and was just kind of enjoying spending time with her, and tbh I dont even really think we're that compatible. It was just good to feel me as a person going in the right direction for once. Spending the day with someone, having a drink with her, a kiss goodbye when I was leaving.

I know we're all different and people take things at different speeds, but for myself to even be in a situation where I was thinking about the fact our friendship or relationship could progress into something felt very good. I've spent the past 3 years moping around and being in love with the same girl feeling sorry for myself, and its suddenly felt good to be loving myself a bit more(not like that).

You're probably a really great guy and any girl would be lucky to have you. I know that's always how I've secretly felt about myself, but I've never really had the confidence to look out for myself, to just try to enjoy the situations I am in rather than feel anxious in them, and to stop caring so much about whether or not I'm going to meet the girl of my dreams in the next few days, weeks or months.

But now...im starting to feel different, like I just want to be independently happy, talk to the people I want to and stop shying away from the situations I always have done in the past. I know darn well the girl I saw a bit will not end up being the love of my life, but strawberry float it, she's pretty and shes interesting enough and seems half interested in me, why not see how things progress and see what I'll learn?

Anyway, I hope i'm not sounding arrogant or anything here, you only have to read my past posts to realise how dumb I've actually been. I have just finally realised that moping around and thinking about how 'the dream girl I deserve isn't appearing for me' just doesnt work. I've got a hell of a long way to go to really figure out my relationship problems, but I feel, at last, I'm finally making the steps in the right direction for once.

Also, tinder and bumble dont work at all for me either. They're not for everyone, just try and meet someone in a different way?

Ad7 wrote:

Kezzer wrote:
Get on really well with this lass at work/ think there is something there - don't have the courage (after a works night out ) to ask her out.

Email her, it's a foolproof plan.

This right here, you want to email her, stare at her in a lift it's the way to go.

Karl wrote:I'll date you Kezzer. Hit me up.

Cheers fellas, think I am just having a minor-moderate meltdown. I've moved to this new place where there is strawberry float all to do, I've got no pals, and to top it off I am sick of being single.

Have a wank?

Kezzer wrote:I can't seem to do anything right.

Online apps - conversations dry up real quick

Plan a date - rain checked

Get on really well with this lass at work/ think there is something there - don't have the courage (after a works night out ) to ask her out.

/end of attention seeking -- woe me

What’s your kinda timeframe for conversations on online apps to setting up dates?

People are spoilt for choice on things like tinder, so are always getting distracted by someone else and moving on without giving anyone their full attention. So you really need to strike while the iron is hot.

When I was on Tinder I’d try and get a number within 24-48 hours of conversation starting (because it’s easier to keep conversations going on WhatsApp than Tinder) and then setting up a date for that week shortly after that. And not dragging out the conversation-because that’s what the date is for.

Rainchecks are inevitable, it’s the nature of the beast so don’t let it get you too down.

Errkal wrote:Have a wank?

You can only do so many in a day

Tbh Kiezer I think you are a terrible person and probably deserve to be alone.

My 2c.

Kezzer wrote:

Errkal wrote:Have a wank?

You can only do so many in a day

You can?

What's the appropriate time after someone's broken up to ask them out.

Asking for a friend.

Hexx wrote:

Kezzer wrote:

Errkal wrote:Have a wank?

You can only do so many in a day

You can?

What's the appropriate time after someone's broken up to ask them out.

Asking for a friend.

Depends, how much you sorry "your friend" planning on relying on the rebound factor.

Immediate, strike whilst the iron is hot.

I think that depends more on the person you're asking and how they're handling it

Add an extra 15 minutes if asking from frozen

Hexx wrote:What's the appropriate time after someone's broken up to ask them out.

Asking for a friend.

Depends on circumstances. How long were they in the other relationship? Was their ex a friend of yours?

If grcade has tought me anything, the correct answer is you either wait until they're engaged, then make your move, or you what until you're engaged and jilt your Mrs for this new squeeze.

Ad7 wrote:If grcade has tought me anything, the correct answer is you either wait until they're engaged, then make your move, or you what until you're engaged and jilt your Mrs for this new squeeze.

If you've learnt anything from GRcade then you should know that the answer is actually to just plough her (or him in this case) and worry about the relationship technicalities later.

I'm engaged now. Advice?