Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x

Spoke to a guy online and met up for a few drinks. He was really nice and Spanish but I didn't realise he was 40 because his profile said 35. He seems nice but I don't 100% know what he's after or what I want.

I just cancelled our second meet/date as it just seems a bit daunting for me whose rather inexperienced in the dating world to be dating someone with lots of experience. Always thought age wouldn't make much difference but now I'm not so sure...I guess it depends on the similar experiences you have in common with someone rather than age.

He lied about his age and therefore your relationship began with deception. You did the right thing in cancelling the follow-up.

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:Spoke to a guy online and met up for a few drinks. He was really nice and Spanish but I didn't realise he was 40 because his profile said 35. He seems nice but I don't 100% know what he's after or what I want.

I just cancelled our second meet/date as it just seems a bit daunting for me whose rather inexperienced in the dating world to be dating someone with lots of experience. Always thought age wouldn't make much difference but now I'm not so sure...I guess it depends on the similar experiences you have in common with someone rather than age.

Could it be a 5 year old profile and he forgot to update the age?

What sort of place doesn't have an auto updating age based on birth year.

Errkal wrote:What sort of place doesn't have an auto updating age based on birth year.

I don't know but your wife might be interested to know you're such an expert on dating websites....

What I meant was in the text of his personal ad he might have said his age but he might not have updated it for a while.

Moggy wrote:
Errkal wrote:What sort of place doesn't have an auto updating age based on birth year.

I don't know but your wife might be interested to know you're such an expert on dating websites...

I have a 4th date with someone, this has never happened before.

We've been drinking, ice skating and to the cinema. What now?

I've never had to come up with anything else :lol:

Night in at your place?

Heskimo wrote:Night in at your place?

I live with my family so would probably be a bit weird right now.

Think I'm gonna take her to a cool 'nerdy' bar where she lives and then if she feels like inviting me over she can.

Floex wrote:Congrats DML

Always nice seeing the good guys win at life

Not all..............

This might not be entirely coherent as I've just finished a joint but my girlfriend's been to see a psychiatrist a couple of times the last week or so (due to new depersonalisation issues) and he's essentially telling her to break up with me.

Explained it as she has problems with her role in the family as she's in a more traditional male position whereas she should be in her meant role as a woman (?!), which is apparently because she had an older half brother, who she met once, kill himself so she felt obliged to take his position as the head of the family. (Father died in the past). So anyway, apparently without meeting me he's decided that I too will have family role issues and have to go and see another psychiatrist otherwise our relationship is unsaveable as she will be changing and progressing with her issues while I'll remain in the same place with mine (which are as far as I'm aware non-existant in that area).

After a lot of cajoling I've agreed to go and see some different psychiatrist once purely to see what he says but consider I'll be going in pretty sceptical can't imagine it'll change much. Seems like a very weird and binary viewing of the psyche to suggest that there are gender roles we should each fulfill.

It might actually be a bit of a relief for her to break up with me, though. I've essentially been acting as a carer for her for large parts of the winter due to other mental health issues and it wasn't a question I could leave as I wouldn't do that to her in that state and have still been generally happy in myself. Can't say I want it to end but I've got mates joining me here soon so if I could ride out a few weeks could probably get a nice road trip on the go with some honeys to ease the comedown. Then I dunno, coke addiction or something.

Buff told me I should break up with my now wife soon after I mentioned meeting her on here as it would "never work" as it was long distance for a few months :lol:

I'm not sure what the issues are with your gf, but obviously you two know your situation best. I wouldn't break up with my gf just because someone gave me that suggestion, even if they are a therapist, or an analyst, or even an Analrapist, as no matter how much you explain something to another person ultimately they don't know how you feel.

So pretty much just do what you think is right as you're the one who has to live with the consequences.

Scarjo is a therapist now?

My last proper gf had a therapist who clearly wanted to shag her, to that point where I found out he'd spent weeks trying to convince her to move into pornography.

That sounds strawberry floated up really, I'm sure therapists shouldn't be allowed to suggest this like break ups.

Did you report him?

That can't be considered ethical whichever way you look at it.

Tomous wrote:Did you report him?

That can't be considered ethical whichever way you look at it.

I wasn't in the country at the time. She was back home and coming out to meet me. Knowing her she probably did it anyway and was fishing for me to say it was OK.

Ad7 wrote:Scarjo is a therapist now?

My last proper gf had a therapist who clearly wanted to shag her, to that point where I found out he'd spent weeks trying to convince her to move into pornography.

That sounds strawberry floated up really, I'm sure therapists shouldn't be allowed to suggest this like break ups.

Yeah my girlfriend told me this therapist keeps telling her how pretty she is and always hugs her on the way out.

I'm not planning on breaking up with her rightey, she might break up with me as her therapist is telling her to if I don't get therapy and 'improve' alongside her. Which I can't really say I'm mad keen to do, particularly if all it takes to break up is some banana split telling her to.

Rocsteady wrote:
Ad7 wrote:Scarjo is a therapist now?

My last proper gf had a therapist who clearly wanted to shag her, to that point where I found out he'd spent weeks trying to convince her to move into pornography.

That sounds strawberry floated up really, I'm sure therapists shouldn't be allowed to suggest this like break ups.

Yeah my girlfriend told me this therapist keeps telling her how pretty she is and always hugs her on the way out.

I'm not planning on breaking up with her rightey, she might break up with me as her therapist is telling her to if I don't get therapy and 'improve' alongside her. Which I can't really say I'm mad keen to do, particularly if all it takes to break up is some banana split telling her to.

Yeah...I'd want a second opinion from another, less dodgy, therapist.

Well, that's us broken up for now. Has happened before so there's a half chance we'll be back together by next week anyway but that's certainly a new one.

Im really sorry, but it is kind of funny in a twisted way.

TherapistLAD

Although again it was me breaking up with her as she constantly just asks leading questions like 'we should break up...right?' Gets to the point where I'm like Christ, yeah, let's just break up. Happened last time months ago and she blamed me for the break up, was thinking bitch please :lol:

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