Rocsteady wrote:How often do people here generally fight with their partners? Lately I feel like it’s every single day, she constantly says I don’t make enough effort and don’t show enough physical love despite the fact I feel like I’m hugging her fecking non-stop and make the effort to ask her if I can help with the essays she’s writing multiple times a day.
I’ve been reading 'The Truth' by Neil Strauss purely because I find him a very entertaining writer but one thing did resonate with me - that I sound like a love avoidant, whereas the girlfriend sounds the opposite, constantly in need of a level of attention that I feel i can’t provide.
Been in this relationship for a couple of years now and my memory's so bad that I honestly feel like I can’t remember life before it so don’t recall what's normal in a relationship. I do love her, though, and she makes me laugh. But breaking up has come up multiple times in the last few months and we keep shying away from it at the last second and I’m no longer sure that’s the correct thing to do.
Maybe I should show more attention and gooseberry fool though, although I do feel like I’m at the upper reaches of what I can provide as natural introvert the majority of the time - need time to recharge my batteries. Which I’ve told her, in words to that effect, but it doesn’t seem to resonate.
The bolded part resonates so much with me about my relationship with my ex.
There was something I read once, that could be utter bullshit, about people having different 'love languages'. She needed affirmations whereas I was fine with just knowing what we had, which would then cause arguments.