Gently-Parted Ringpiece wrote:Yeah but the problem is if you say apropos of nothing you tried hard she'll be like, yes as you should. If you say you tried hard when she is already complaining it's, you obviously didn't try enough. She is a snowball rager so it's best to let her burn out and pick it up later.
Falsey all this sounds like me circa 6 years ago. After getting out and several months of therapy i came to identify it as a straight-up abusive relationship, several times during which i genuinely contemplated just getting on a train and not coming back. I took all the blame for everything and to this day, over half a decade later still have pretty low self-worth from time to time; not doing things "the right way" and second guessing myself all the time as a result. I'm not saying broom her, but as someone with similar experience it can be hard to see where things are at the time.
My ex was a snowball rager and i came to recognise her as a petulant child in an adults body crossed with a totally unreasonable bitch. My most profound memory is her yelling at me for what seemed like ages because i couldn't find the tv remote, or getting annoyed that i hadn't told her that i couldn't find something, despite the fact that doing so would have detracted from actually looking. Of course if whatever it was was misplaced because of her it was no issue.
I almost booked a doctors appointment because i had convinced myself i had add or a hearing problem, when actually i had essentially emotionally and cognitively shut down as a defence mechanism, knowing that whatever answer or reason wouldn't be good enough.
Actually strawberry float what i said earlier, get the strawberry float out.