Relationships Thread

[Death's Head]

As long as it wasn't a One Direction gig, as then pulling a member of the crowd becomes suddenly very suspect.

It was The Village People.

[False]

As long as it wasn't a One Direction gig, as then pulling a member of the crowd becomes suddenly very suspect.

Could have been one of the parents

or Harry

[Moggy]

As long as it wasn't a One Direction gig, as then pulling a member of the crowd becomes suddenly very suspect.

It was The Village People.

Looking at what was on in Bristol over the weekend, it seems that the Lambing Weekend was the only thing that fits Gandy. http://calendar.whatsonbristol.co.uk/re ... e=0&Page=2

Gandy, ewe should be ashamed of yourself.

[Parksey]

If Gandalf's finally free of his crazy ex, than all's wool that ends wool.

[Moggy]

If Gandalf's finally free of his crazy ex, than all's wool that ends wool.

You really had to make an effort to ram those puns in there.

[Andrew Mills]

If Gandalf's finally free of his crazy ex, than all's wool that ends wool.

You really had to make an effort to ram those puns in there.

No doubt Gandalf's feeling somewhat sheepish round about now.

[Gandalf]

As long as it wasn't a One Direction gig, as then pulling a member of the crowd becomes suddenly very suspect.

It was The Village People.

Looking at what was on in Bristol over the weekend, it seems that the Lambing Weekend was the only thing that fits Gandy. http://calendar.whatsonbristol.co.uk/re ... e=0&Page=2

Gandy, ewe should be ashamed of yourself.

The Tunnels in Temple Meads. I got a couple of mates in the band.

[Moggy]

As long as it wasn't a One Direction gig, as then pulling a member of the crowd becomes suddenly very suspect.

It was The Village People.

Looking at what was on in Bristol over the weekend, it seems that the Lambing Weekend was the only thing that fits Gandy. http://calendar.whatsonbristol.co.uk/re ... e=0&Page=2

Gandy, ewe should be ashamed of yourself.

The Tunnels in Temple Meads. I got a couple of mates in the band.

You were very close to me Saturday night then.

[Parksey]

You don't have long hair and can easily by mistaken for a woman (let's face it, an easy mistake to make in the West Country).

You didn't so happen to wake up to an empty bed and a faint smell of surfing wax that had been hastily applied as lube, by any chance?

[Moggy]

You don't have long hair and can easily by mistaken for a woman (let's face it, an easy mistake to make in the West Country).

You didn't so happen to wake up to an empty bed and a faint smell of surfing wax that had been hastily applied as lube, by any chance?

Well my joke was going to be that I was waiting for Gandy to say "oh yeah, where were you?" and I was going to say that I started in a tranny bar in Old Market before moving onto the tunnels where I met a weird bloke that kept on about how things were better when he was a mod and then the guy took me back to his place.

But I think you have already done that joke now.

[Gandalf]

You don't have long hair and can easily by mistaken for a woman (let's face it, an easy mistake to make in the West Country).

You didn't so happen to wake up to an empty bed and a faint smell of surfing wax that had been hastily applied as lube, by any chance?

Well my joke was going to be that I was waiting for Gandy to say "oh yeah, where were you?" and I was going to say that I started in a tranny bar in Old Market before moving onto the tunnels where I met a weird bloke that kept on about how things were better when he was a mod and then the guy took me back to his place.

But I think you have already done that joke now.

And now I'm seeing the new girl again on Wednesday night!

[Moggy]

You don't have long hair and can easily by mistaken for a woman (let's face it, an easy mistake to make in the West Country).

You didn't so happen to wake up to an empty bed and a faint smell of surfing wax that had been hastily applied as lube, by any chance?

Well my joke was going to be that I was waiting for Gandy to say "oh yeah, where were you?" and I was going to say that I started in a tranny bar in Old Market before moving onto the tunnels where I met a weird bloke that kept on about how things were better when he was a mod and then the guy took me back to his place.

But I think you have already done that joke now.

And now I'm seeing the new girl again on Wednesday night!

My wig and fake tits are in the wash ready for action again on Wednesday.

Seriously though, congrats on the sex. You must have been at least above average if she wants to see you again.

[Tafdolphin]

Long one incoming. Not really looking for advice (except towards the end), just need to get it off my chest.

So I have a friend over here. I'm in Melbourne for those that don't know. I have plenty of drinking friends and guys I'd hang out with for the day but but she was my one real "can hang around with day in day out" friend. We briefly entered into a FWB thing right at the start but decided to drop it once we decided to move into the same house.

Fast forward 4 months and she admits she had feelings for me and had been feeling terrible for the past month. I tell her she's my best friend but nothing more. She accepts, life continues. Then one night we'd been drinking and she explodes, goes off in an incoherent rage about how much pain she's in. We sort this out temporarily but these outbursts continue. We try everything but we establish that the only thing that would make her feel better is me starting a relationship. I concede to not actively try looking for a girlfriend to meditate things. Not the best of ideas, but I can't tell you how much this girl meant to me.

However, eventually I get lonely. I'm talking another couple of months celibate here. I restart my tinder. We discuss it and she's fine with it. I organise a date, not going out of my way to tell her but she finds out anyway. This was a few days ago. Another meltdown. She leaves the house apparently for good. I go on the date because I'm sad and lonely. Annoyingly it goes shockingly well. I get out of it and check my phone... There's a flurry of messages that I hadn't seen, the last one being a Facebook message from her best friend in Canada. She'd gone back to our house, drunk, and taken all the pills she could find. I check my messages and there's about 20 from her slowly getting less and less coherent.

I get home, she's taken a lot but, long story short, is OK after a long strawberry floating night. I spend the next day nursing her back to health, more or less. She has a holiday booked for 2 weeks time so she decides to leave the house, stay at a friend's and go on holiday, cutting contact to with me try and get some distance and see how that goes.

So we get to tonight. In a moment of weakness (mid-shite actually) I message the girl from the date. Nothing serious, just hello. My friend sees the message, freaks out. I feel awful. I mean, it was probably the stupidest thing I've done, possibly ever. I'm terrified of letting her leave in her current state so we talk it out, there's no answer but we both seem calmer. She leaves as planned but not before making me promise to never talk to date girl again. I agree.

So yeah. It's been a strawberry floated up few days and I'm now lonely, sad and confused. I miss my friend already, I can't emphasize that enough. She was one of my best friends, ever. I strawberry floated up something terrible with the text and have lost both her and the date girl.

I promised not to talk to the latter. Promised. If I went back on this and my friend found out there's a real chance she'd try to take her life again. But it's gooseberry fool. It's strawberry floating gooseberry fool and I hate it. Tonight was one of the worst nights of my life.

OK. As you were.

[Moggy]

Long one incoming. Not really looking for advice (except towards the end), just need to get it off my chest.

So I have a friend over here. I'm in Melbourne for those that don't know. I have plenty of drinking friends and guys I'd hang out with for the day but but she was my one real "can hang around with day in day out" friend. We briefly entered into a FWB thing right at the start but decided to drop it once we decided to move into the same house.

Fast forward 4 months and she admits she had feelings for me and had been feeling terrible for the past month. I tell her she's my best friend but nothing more. She accepts, life continues. Then one night we'd been drinking and she explodes, goes off in an incoherent rage about how much pain she's in. We sort this out temporarily but these outbursts continue. We try everything but we establish that the only thing that would make her feel better is me starting a relationship. I concede to not actively try looking for a girlfriend to meditate things. Not the best of ideas, but I can't tell you how much this girl meant to me.

However, eventually I get lonely. I'm talking another couple of months celibate here. I restart my tinder. We discuss it and she's fine with it. I organise a date, not going out of my way to tell her but she finds out anyway. This was a few days ago. Another meltdown. She leaves the house apparently for good. I go on the date because I'm sad and lonely. Annoyingly it goes shockingly well. I get out of it and check my phone... There's a flurry of messages that I hadn't seen, the last one being a Facebook message from her best friend in Canada. She'd gone back to our house, drunk, and taken all the pills she could find. I check my messages and there's about 20 from her slowly getting less and less coherent.

I get home, she's taken a lot but, long story short, is OK after a long strawberry floating night. I spend the next day nursing her back to health, more or less. She has a holiday booked for 2 weeks time so she decides to leave the house, stay at a friend's and go on holiday, cutting contact to with me try and get some distance and see how that goes.

So we get to tonight. In a moment of weakness (mid-shite actually) I message the girl from the date. Nothing serious, just hello. My friend sees the message, freaks out. I feel awful. I mean, it was probably the stupidest thing I've done, possibly ever. I'm terrified of letting her leave in her current state so we talk it out, there's no answer but we both seem calmer. She leaves as planned but not before making me promise to never talk to date girl again. I agree.

So yeah. It's been a strawberry floated up few days and I'm now lonely, sad and confused. I miss my friend already, I can't emphasize that enough. She was one of my best friends, ever. I strawberry floated up something terrible with the text and have lost both her and the date girl.

I promised not to talk to the latter. Promised. If I went back on this and my friend found out there's a real chance she'd try to take her life again. But it's gooseberry fool. It's strawberry floating gooseberry fool and I hate it. Tonight was one of the worst nights of my life.

OK. As you were.

That's an awful situation to be in Taf.

While she might be your best friend, it is not on that she would try and stop you dating other girls or talking to one in particular. I understand that you wouldn't want to risk her harming herself, but she is out of order for putting that on you. Somebody that will attempt suicide is not in the right frame of mind and it's hard to call them "selfish" but it is a horrible thing to do to another person. You need to be able to have your own life and make your own decisions and nobody (however they feel) should get in the way of that.

Unfortuantly I have no idea what advice to give you. I have never been in a situation where somebody is threatening their own life.

[Fatal Exception]

She sounds mental. Steer clear of a relationship with her.

[False]

She seems like a well adjusted young lady.

[Victor Mildew]

Good job she doesn't know about your fiancée!

[degoose]

Long one incoming. Not really looking for advice (except towards the end), just need to get it off my chest.

So I have a friend over here. I'm in Melbourne for those that don't know. I have plenty of drinking friends and guys I'd hang out with for the day but but she was my one real "can hang around with day in day out" friend. We briefly entered into a FWB thing right at the start but decided to drop it once we decided to move into the same house.

Fast forward 4 months and she admits she had feelings for me and had been feeling terrible for the past month. I tell her she's my best friend but nothing more. She accepts, life continues. Then one night we'd been drinking and she explodes, goes off in an incoherent rage about how much pain she's in. We sort this out temporarily but these outbursts continue. We try everything but we establish that the only thing that would make her feel better is me starting a relationship. I concede to not actively try looking for a girlfriend to meditate things. Not the best of ideas, but I can't tell you how much this girl meant to me.

However, eventually I get lonely. I'm talking another couple of months celibate here. I restart my tinder. We discuss it and she's fine with it. I organise a date, not going out of my way to tell her but she finds out anyway. This was a few days ago. Another meltdown. She leaves the house apparently for good. I go on the date because I'm sad and lonely. Annoyingly it goes shockingly well. I get out of it and check my phone... There's a flurry of messages that I hadn't seen, the last one being a Facebook message from her best friend in Canada. She'd gone back to our house, drunk, and taken all the pills she could find. I check my messages and there's about 20 from her slowly getting less and less coherent.

I get home, she's taken a lot but, long story short, is OK after a long strawberry floating night. I spend the next day nursing her back to health, more or less. She has a holiday booked for 2 weeks time so she decides to leave the house, stay at a friend's and go on holiday, cutting contact to with me try and get some distance and see how that goes.

So we get to tonight. In a moment of weakness (mid-shite actually) I message the girl from the date. Nothing serious, just hello. My friend sees the message, freaks out. I feel awful. I mean, it was probably the stupidest thing I've done, possibly ever. I'm terrified of letting her leave in her current state so we talk it out, there's no answer but we both seem calmer. She leaves as planned but not before making me promise to never talk to date girl again. I agree.

So yeah. It's been a strawberry floated up few days and I'm now lonely, sad and confused. I miss my friend already, I can't emphasize that enough. She was one of my best friends, ever. I strawberry floated up something terrible with the text and have lost both her and the date girl.

I promised not to talk to the latter. Promised. If I went back on this and my friend found out there's a real chance she'd try to take her life again. But it's gooseberry fool. It's strawberry floating gooseberry fool and I hate it. Tonight was one of the worst nights of my life.

OK. As you were.

Sounds bad but my first thought is that she isn't your responsibility. It's not your fault she has issues and was she like this before getting involved with you. It sounds pretty harsh on her to be lumping you with resolving her mentality issues.

[Dual]

When she goes on holiday move away and cut all connections with her. Time to start again.

[Herdanos]

Taf, it sounds to me like you need to get her some professional help - and you need to get her out of your life, fast.

Regardless of how much you want her as your friend, if she feels that strongly about this, it's clear that your relationship with her is not going to let you progress in your own life. You feel guilty for messaging another girl? As a single man? That's messed up. That's emotional blackmail. You being the one to bring her back around after these meltdowns is not going to help: 1) her, because she is still emotionally dependent on you 2) you, because you're still 'best friends' and now feel responsible for her state of mind.

I can't tell you how much this girl meant to me.

And yet you don't want to be in a relationship with her? But she clearly does; so much so that she's looking to end her life if she can't have you?

Either you or she needs to leave the house. It sounds like a really shitty situation to be in, but if you continue to live together her feelings aren't going to subside, which evidently puts her in danger.

In a moment of weakness (mid-shite actually) I message the girl from the date. Nothing serious, just hello. My friend sees the message, freaks out. I feel awful. I mean, it was probably the stupidest thing I've done, possibly ever.

You said hello to someone via text message while you were having a dump, and this was the stupidest thing you've ever done?!?

This is not a liveable situation. You need to get out of it some way or another. You are not responsible for this person, no matter your emotional connection; even less so that you are clearly not in a relationship with this girl. You're both going to end up worse off if you try and make what you have now work. Sorry to be blunt but if the situation is exactly as you tell it then carrying on as you are will lead to bad news.