mrspax wrote:Wedgie wrote:The ex wife is being nice for a change.
Perhaps too nice.
Somehow we texted each other and mentioned that I hope I don't get a property until June or later as I wouldn't have enough money to get the furniture I desire for the property.
She said to stop paying her money for the kids every month and that should help. I said "are you serious?"
She said yeah. I said thanks but if she need any money, just let me know and she said it's fine.
I was like goofy from that awful Dolan webcomics... "Wait a minute what are you up to, dolan?" in my head when she's all "gooby pls."
My mum and mates think it's a trap. She could scutter off to CSA and say that I haven't been paying, but I kinda doubt that as I could always prove it to CSA that she gave the okay for it as it's in texts. And I've been using their CSA calculator and i'm paying just £30 more than they would take so it can't just because of wanting more money?
Oh well. I'm saving up the money and if CSA came calling, at least the money will be there in the bank.
I understand your thoughts, but trap or no, don't forget that the CSA (and frankly society at large) expects you to contribute to the upkeep of the kids.
I don't think her saying 'it's OK don't worry' would really be enough. You'd have to demonstrate she physically blocked the movement of cash.
It's obviously tough when you are strapped for cash, but I really would reconsider the situation. You don't have to lose face (quite the opposite) in doing so either.
i would think it makes more sense that both parents are in a stable situation and have been adults and come to an agreement then one suffereing and not able to get a house and furniture. That is though common sense which doesn't seem to prevail with most split ups.