Sounds like a tough situation. Well no it sounds like an AWFUL situation.
I fell for one of my close friends recently, I work with her as well. She's been good with me but it has been VERY difficult seeing her every day. I told her my feelings last September and we seemed to have our friendship on good terms again by Christmas, but I strawberry floated up by asking her out for breakfast one morning before I went home for Xmas (I know right!). I was trying to rekindle the friendship we used to have which was going for walks together and going out for lunch together, but she obviously didn't see it that way, and she may have been right, we were kind of doing datey things, but that didnt seem to bother her too much when we were just friends.
She's cut me out a bit now and I no longer message her at all and only do group activities with her. But we are on chatty terms again (mostly..she does have her days) But yes it is very difficult when you are in such close proximity all the time, distance yourself as much as you can and she'll probably start feeling better too. Be a friend when you see her if she needs that, but don't see her too often and get her out of that sodding house. I have a lot of respect for my friend with the way she has not been a total bitch with me, but I've told her quite clearly that if something I'm doing is bothering her then she needs to tell me about it and cut me out completely if I act up again. We go our separate ways soon anyway, and I will regret telling her my feelings, but I had to say something to her just in case there was something there, y'know?
I'll miss her like hell for a bit but I'll get over it when I'm not in close proximity and I'm already a hell of a lot better now I'm not talking to her everyday. I'd like to think she misses my friendship quite a lot, but she is playing it safe incase she ends up going out with me for food again or something
You're not being a dick by giving her space, I feel a lot better and she will too, eventually. But to be fair, I haven't shagged, lived with this girl, or stolen her phone, just jeopradised a friendship I didn't really need to.