Relationships Thread

[Memento Mori]

Com Shep? Good to see you mayne.

[jamcc]

What a bitch if she really is in a relationship now she should have waited few months before rubbign it in your face
If i were you i'd take to your freinds about how you feel and make them take you out!

oh and try and keep occupied.. don't stay inside, i know you might not feel like going out but your just going to be thinking of her if your at home with nothing to do.

This. I was gonna say, your girls mates should be especially useful - get them to hook you up with other girls.

[SuperChris]

hey mori ^^ thanks have not been on here in ages..

[Fatal Exception]

Yep moving on is the best thing, even if you think that's impossible at the moment. I went through something similar and handled it quite badly, just ended up looking pathetic and i was constantly depressed until i finally moved on.

Question though, did you move on and then find someone, or find someone and move on because of it?

I actually got with someone but i still loved the other girl so i wasn't happy in that relationship at all. I only eventually moved on from cutting all ties from her, it still took a long long time though...

Ditto for me, I got with codename: Lafonda but I was still in love with my ex, even though I'd (Well she did) cut all ties. I stupidly thought I'd move on if I got with someone else but it just made it worse and I had to break it off for her sake, I was being a cock to her.

[SandyCoin]

Sulking is a fine thing to do. Obviously not for ages but it doesn't do any harm. All part of the greiving process. She sounds pretty strawberry floating harsh anyway so you will learn to see it's probably not a great loss in the long run. Girls just seem to have no emotion with things like this. They get back on track and carry on their lives like nothing happened. I envy that attribute tbh. All you can do is just see how things go. The Facebook thing is ridiculous so don't even bother re adding her or looking. Next she'll be putting pics up of her out and about hugging guys, even though it's just a drunk hug with a mate simply to rub it in. I think the thing about girls is they tend to know that they can start seeing someone straight away if they want, as guys are pathetic and will go for anything it seems. That's why they from what I've ever known, never seem to truly care when they split up.

[Dolph Wiggler]

Yep moving on is the best thing, even if you think that's impossible at the moment. I went through something similar and handled it quite badly, just ended up looking pathetic and i was constantly depressed until i finally moved on.

Question though, did you move on and then find someone, or find someone and move on because of it?

I actually got with someone but i still loved the other girl so i wasn't happy in that relationship at all. I only eventually moved on from cutting all ties from her, it still took a long long time though...

Ditto for me, I got with codename: Lafonda but I was still in love with my ex, even though I'd (Well she did) cut all ties. I stupidly thought I'd move on if I got with someone else but it just made it worse and I had to break it off for her sake, I was being a cock to her.

Weird, that's exactly the same story as me. I had to break it off because i was just being an asshole to the girl too. I felt horrible about it but i just felt nothing for her. Looking back on it now i'm kind of happy that i've been single for my early twenties, something i never thought i'd be happy about when i had a girlfriend.

[1cmanny1]

Who uses facebook these days?

Harden up, and move on. the only way. dont be friends with her.

[superfurryfox]

Bitches are crazy like that. Maybe you could turn gay?

Wish I could turn gay... something about hairy arse and balls slapping against my face that turns me off though
I need a tranny!

[Skarjo]

In that order.

[Albert]

Glory hole's are fine, but don't expect them to solve all your problems

[Nibble]

It's ironic but the scenario of her wanting to get back with you will most probably occur either when:

a- you act as if you completely couldn't give a strawberry float about what's happened and have no contact with her whatsoever, or

b- you genuinely have lost interest in her.

So to sum up - don't be clingy.

[Dandy Kong]

It may be really painful now, but you will get through it!

The way you described things, I'd say it would be best if you would not get in touch with her at all anymore, even if you are tempted, even if you feel there are things you want to discuss with her or ask her. From my experience (and other's), if you are still very emotional about it such contacts usually end up in disappointments.

You will get over her, you will get over the situation you're in now. It just takes time.

[Hesk]

It's ironic but the scenario of her wanting to get back with you will most probably occur either when:

a- you act as if you completely couldn't give a strawberry float about what's happened and have no contact with her whatsoever, or

b- you genuinely have lost interest in her.

So to sum up - don't be clingy.

This.

The problem is, even as much as you're still in love with her and feel you want to talk, her way of dealing with things is to get on with it without contact etc. That needs to be your plan too. Girls don't like clingy guys, it turns them off. However, girls are often attracted to people who don't act like they need to get the girl's approval, and more that the girl needs theirs. This is going more into the getting a girl territory, but you can apply the logic here too - keep well away, don't act like you still need her, even if it hurts. If she sees that you're getting on with things by yourself, going out with friends, not needing to contact her to talk, she's more likely to come round to the idea that she needs you. While you're whining and moping and sending messages about needing to talk (I'm partly guessing here), it's just making her think you're pathetic (you aren't, everyone does these things, it's part of going through relationships).

However, the fact she's being a total cow anyway tells me that winning her back shouldn't be a priority, but the above paragraph is a better to place to start than moping. It's really harsh, but you need to just lay off and give it space. You only make her think bad of you and make yourself feel worse and worse by moping and trying to talk.

edit - Just to add, I personally think you shouldn't bother trying to win her back. I think you'll come round to that too. The only way you should even consider it is by her coming to you, not you chasing her. If she doesn't, she's really not worth it and you should walk away knowing you are, and can do, better.

[DaLax]

Look, no one is suggesting that you drive to her house and do this:





But if you do, remember to film it.

[mas22]

We've all been down that road, but being dumped by someone you thought was really meaningful, must be the most strawberry floated feeling you could experience second only to seeing someone close to you die.
But like everyone says, don't go all emo and man up or do what I would do in times like this listen to some Go West, go for a run till you're close to passing out.

[Christopher]

I had no idea you two had split up mate So sorry to hear it.

The best advice I can give is to make a clean break. My best friend and his long term girlfriend of 6 years split up in March. He was devastated(as you'd imagine) but it was hard as they stayed in touch. He saw she had been away and a pic of her and a guy kissing on her Facebook. I told him to break free completely. He then deleted her number and took her off Facebook. The thing I always have done when I break up with someone is to make a complete break. You get over things a lot quicker if you have no contact.

[DeckardRunner]

Sorry to hear about it Glowy

Best advice I can give is to get out with your friends as much as possible, have a laugh and some fun for the next few weeks. It's amezzin how much friends make you forget your problems, even if it's just for a few hours.

[Agent47]

In that order.

Because Scouting for Girls are so gooseberry fool that they drive you to drink and violence?

[tnman]

Gah. We need to have a forum whip-round to buy glowy a massive cake to help in the cheer up process.

As Dandy Kong said, it all just takes time. It's the worst advice in the world, but unfortunately, it's also the truest. Just try and keep moving forward - delete her off FB. It's fine to wonder what she's doing, it's another thing to go hunting for that information. If curiosity killed the cat then it's definitely gonna hurt you.

[Shalashaska]

My GF dumped me 2 weeks ago. I can't claim I know how your feeling since you were in your relation allot longer. But With mine, we were all fine one day, then in the space of about a week she just changed completely. One moment we were having a great time, the next thing I know it was like she had become a different person, none of the affection she used to show and telling me she dosent want me coming out with her and it then got progressively worse to the point of getting fired. How did I cope? Red Bull, weed and wanking.
Just got the old "Your the best boyfriend ever, and if I wanted a boyfriend at the moment I'd want you, but I just want to be alone for now" Well if I was that good a boyfriend then I should have been a bit harder to dump. Well we havent even so much as texted each other since the incident, I'm not going to crumble. I've already arranged to meet some girls next week.