Relationships Thread

[Eighthours]

Got back together with the girlf on Saturday. Managed to go 24 hours split up, which is an improvement on how weak I usually am (we've broken up before, for like 5 minutes). I still doubt it's going to work long-term, but I'm going to give it another chance.

[Poser]

I still doubt it's going to work long-term, but I'm going to give it another chance.

My honest advice would be not to bother. You have fundamental doubts and I can't see how you can shake those. I don't think it's fair to either person to stick with it.

(I have previous with this myself - two four-year relationships, one of which became an engagement, and in neither case was I ever convinced they were the one. Neither ended well...)

[Rocsteady]

Agree with poser here. Stick it out, you'll feel better in the long run. Just surround yourself with mates to take some of the pain, helps massively.

[degoose]

give it up eighthours, if you guys are breaking up regularly it sounds like you have big clashes and issues which lead to break ups . To me that's not very healthy, a break up should be a big deal not a regular situation. You would be better off breaking it all off, it will probably make your life more relaxing.

[Cuban Pete]

I had a first date over dinner last week and I drove, not wanting to just go and get drunk straight off. I thought that was a perfectly fine thing to do. She seemed to take it really badly clearly in the thinking that you can only have a good time if you get pissed!

She was being rude, right?

[Moggy]

I had a first date over dinner last week and I drove, not wanting to just go and get drunk straight off. I thought that was a perfectly fine thing to do. She seemed to take it really badly clearly in the thinking that you can only have a good time if you get pissed!

She was being rude, right?

Had she just come back from Magaluf with 24 new friends?

[Poser]

I had a first date over dinner last week and I drove, not wanting to just go and get drunk straight off. I thought that was a perfectly fine thing to do. She seemed to take it really badly clearly in the thinking that you can only have a good time if you get pissed!

She was being rude, right?

Yeah, that's weird. I'd assume that someone would see it as a good thing if someone opted not to drink.

[Cuban Pete]

That's what I thought too, she did that claim that she'd been more used to "lad" types and not proper dates. Glad it's not just me then.

[Buffalo]

I went on a date once where I was drinking but she didn't. It was a little awkward yeah but it's nothing to get mad about. Maybe she's just embarrassed? Or perhaps she thinks you weren't on an even keel, or something.

[degoose]

I had a first date over dinner last week and I drove, not wanting to just go and get drunk straight off. I thought that was a perfectly fine thing to do. She seemed to take it really badly clearly in the thinking that you can only have a good time if you get pissed!

She was being rude, right?

maybe she hoped for a lot of drinking which would lead to drunken sex.

[1cmanny1]

I suppose it might be a bit strange if you are drinking, and your date isn't. But I don't see why she had to if you weren't.
Was she just sort of joking? Or legit angry?

[Cuban Pete]

Like legit, perhaps not "angry" but visible shocked like that wasn't part of her thinking process; and when I first met her in the bar she was with her cousin (who was waiting for me to turn up before going to meet her bf) and when I came to the table with my water and an espresso (I was knackered) I was greeted with "why you being boring and driving" and that sort of drivel. cue me thinking this is a great start. No other date has had a problem with it before (or at least not been so rude in response!)

[Knoyleo]

I can understand being a bit surprised/taken aback by someone turning up to a date in a bar and not drinking, but if they explain that they're driving, it seems pretty reasonable. To accuse them of being boring is very rude, and you can only assume she won't mind not being given a lift back at the end of the evening.

Since I moved to London, though, I've met so few people who have cars or drive anywhere, I'd genuinely be a bit shocked if someone told me they just weren't drinking, although that would be more of an instant warning to me that we were completely incompatible, anyway.

[Joer]

Just been to Sonisphere with Knoyleo and I think something special could of happened between us. Shall I tell him?

More seriously, in a festival of thousands of people I ended up camping no more than a thirty second walk away from the cheating wife of mine. I miss her so strawberry floating much. Cannot wait for me to be 'over' things.

[Victor Mildew]

Just been to Sonisphere with Knoyleo and I think something special could of happened between us. Shall I tell him?

More seriously, in a festival of thousands of people I ended up camping no more than a thirty second walk away from the cheating wife of mine. I miss her so strawberry floating much. Cannot wait for me to be 'over' things.

[Rocsteady]

That sucks joer, real bad luck.

I'm fortunate in that I only really miss my ex when she pops up on things like Facebook (through friends of friends and gooseberry fool).

Hopefully it won't be too much longer before you start getting properly over her.

[Joer]

Just been to Sonisphere with Knoyleo and I think something special could of happened between us. Shall I tell him?

More seriously, in a festival of thousands of people I ended up camping no more than a thirty second walk away from the cheating wife of mine. I miss her so strawberry floating much. Cannot wait for me to be 'over' things.

dat bolding.

[Victor Mildew]

[Joer]

That sucks joer, real bad luck.

I'm fortunate in that I only really miss my ex when she pops up on things like Facebook (through friends of friends and gooseberry fool).

Hopefully it won't be too much longer before you start getting properly over her.

Strangely, I also ended up camping about a minute away from Knoyleo too. Was at his camp one morning chatting to him and she walked past and couldn't resist but say hello. Tried my best to act cool and ignore her though.

[Banjo]

I've been joking to one of my flatmates that my week back home in mid-May had done wonders for my self-esteem and general levels of happiness. I hadn't realised how much so until reflecting on these last two months. Within three days of coming back I pulled this chick at a party and went back to hers (cracking jugs, unfortunately I was told I was too big for her, guess I wasn't doing the job right as it has been quite a drought). Since then I've generally been a lot more flirty and tried my hand at using OkCupid. Met up with someone last week which resulted in the best date of my life so far; lunch, back to mine for sex, then traded Pokemon and passed opinion on the selection of videogames she brought with her. She had Ghost Trick and every Ace Attorney game, nice.

Met someone on Wednesday that I already want to marry. All the usual things everyone mentions in a woman they'd like, plus she's into Smash Bros which does ridiculous things to me. Need to ensure something more happens there.

I'm also potentially doing something with two other women I know. In his absence I think I have become Falsey.

Edit: Guess I should edit some more private stuff out.