Relationships Thread

[Memento Mori]

It just got sad when they went through his post history. Hilarious up to that point.

[Victor Mildew]

Sum up for Ad7 types?!

[Rocsteady]

I don't really think you are a role model for respecting females, all you seem to want is sex. The way you were talking about them, I would think they are slags as well. Because I wouldn't be talking on the internet about blow jobs or STDs involving women I respected. But maybe that is just me being too gentlemanly.

I get what IanF is saying. I dont understand why girls are called sluts etc when guys are called players. He's not naming names to be fair but he should go over to the other thread really.

Yeah my initial post was pretty pointless I guess. Stand by the fact that even if a lass sleeps around tonnes calling her a slut's out of order, though. It has far more negative connotations than being called a player does, even if you personally wouldn't want to be referred to as that.

[Outrunner]

Anyone heard from outrunner? Hope he's getting on ok.

I'm still about but not been posting in here because I was starting to think I sounded like a whiney teenager going through his first breakup. I have posted a little in the depression thread.

Things haven't really changed too much. I still feel like my world has fallen apart, I still love her and can't get angry at her despite everyone telling me I should. I've tried to get angry at her, I've tried to hate her, it's just not happening. God knows what that says about me. I'm analysing the entire relationship from beginning to end to see what I've done wrong (despite what everyone is telling me).

I'm back at work but keep getting pulled from almost anything dealing with the public because I keep crying. I've had my first counselling session today. It was ok and felt nice being able to talk to someone not connected to the situation. People at work are being great, some a little OTT (the guy who keeps going on about silver linings and finding someone who deserves me is a little much but I know he means well).

My support network is small (family and a handful of friends at work, no one really outside of work anymore) and I'm desperately trying not to push them away. I have a habit of doing that when I'm most in need. I'm moving in with family for a little while because I'm just not coping on my own and I've been having thoughts that scare me.

We've talked a few times, I really don't get what's happening short of her having some sort of early mid-life crisis. This week will be that last contact I have with her when I get her address to send the divorce papers through.

I've decided that when I'm a little stronger I'm going to take a holiday. Possibly a solo trip to Japan or a tour of somewhere in SE Asia with Australia added on to visit friends.

So yeah, that's where I am at the moment

[Moggy]

I'm still about but not been posting in here because I was starting to think I sounded like a whiney teenager going through his first breakup.

Nobody thinks that of you.

[Lotus]

What is it with some women and sulking if they don't get their own way?

Always the same bullshit - if it isn't the film/TV programme/restaurant/day out that she wants, it's sulking and ruining the strawberry floating day for both of us.

[Joer]

The ex is now pretty much telling me that if I don't take her back, she's gonna kill herself. (She's going to therapy and counselling and all kinds of gooseberry fool for her depression apparently). All of a sudden not taking her back feels like the right choice when she does this kind of gooseberry fool.

Does anyone know who I should call in this situation? I assume it's not something i'd have to phone the police about.

[Glowy69]

What is it with some women and sulking if they don't get their own way?

Always the same bullshit - if it isn't the film/TV programme/restaurant/day out that she wants, it's sulking and ruining the strawberry floating day for both of us.

I haven't got to that stage yet, she will do whatever I suggest. and generally seems to like everything I do.

I'm sure it'll change.

[bigcheez2k3]

What is it with some women and sulking if they don't get their own way?

Always the same bullshit - if it isn't the film/TV programme/restaurant/day out that she wants, it's sulking and ruining the strawberry floating day for both of us.

I find not giving a toss means I can continue to enjoy myself. If it is them with the problem don't let it spoil your time.

The ex is now pretty much telling me that if I don't take her back, she's gonna kill herself. (She's going to therapy and counselling and all kinds of gooseberry fool for her depression apparently). All of a sudden not taking her back feels like the right choice when she does this kind of gooseberry fool.

Does anyone know who I should call in this situation? I assume it's not something i'd have to phone the police about.

Crazy gooseberry fool. At least you're seeing clearly and not bowing to her pressure and blackmail.

[Fade]

I took my girlfriend to Bournemouth for the weekend and it wasn't exactly how she liked so she pretty much ruined the weekend for us both. it was not pleasant...

Anyways, I need some encouragement to move my relationship forward with her. I'm fully willing to move out to Canada to be with her, but job prospects and the language barrier are pretty daunting... anybody else got any experience moving countries?

[Lotus]

I took my girlfriend to Bournemouth for the weekend and it wasn't exactly how she liked so she pretty much ruined the weekend for us both. it was not pleasant...

Aye, sounds about right.

Anyways, I need some encouragement to move my relationship forward with her. I'm fully willing to move out to Canada to be with her, but job prospects and the language barrier are pretty daunting... anybody else got any experience moving countries?

I'm going to ask the obvious here...Canada? Language barrier? Even if you mean Montreal, I don't think it's an issue. At least half of the population are bilingual. It's not like going to a country where English isn't spoken at all.

What kind of visa would you be going on? How does that affect job prospects? What skills do you have?

[Tomous]

Thought I'd post this as it's so amazing.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=858580

If anyone has 10 minutes free, you should read that unbelievable relationship story on GAF.

I'll sum up the main points for Ad7 types.

-Guy is 26
-In his first ever relationship
-No prior sexual experience
-Girlfriend is 23
-She has 3 children from 3 different fathers and is unemployed
-He's paying child support for all 3 kids who are not his
-She claims to have suddenly found god and doesn't want any more sex out of wedlock
-Guy still wants to marry her.

Just incredible. I've never seen a woman with such control over a man in my entire life.

Then someone dug up his post history on their first meeting and it's makes it even better.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showpost.ph ... ount=12449


I don't think anyone here is as bad as this.

That made me feel really bad for the guy. Seems very genuine but he's getting completely taken advantage of and seems to have no idea.

[Knoyleo]

The ex is now pretty much telling me that if I don't take her back, she's gonna kill herself. (She's going to therapy and counselling and all kinds of gooseberry fool for her depression apparently). All of a sudden not taking her back feels like the right choice when she does this kind of gooseberry fool.

Does anyone know who I should call in this situation? I assume it's not something i'd have to phone the police about.

I don't know if you're still in touch with any of her close friends, but I think I remember you saying you had quite a few mutual friends anyway. If so, explain to one of them what she's been saying. If she's genuine about it (which I suspect is unlikely, or at the very least, you taking her back being the one thing to solve her suicidal feelings,) they'll be able to keep an eye on her and potentially intervene, and if she isn't, at least then her friends will see what a psycho hose beast she's being.

it's not on you to continue to support her, as much as she might try to force it on you.

[Outrunner]

I'm still about but not been posting in here because I was starting to think I sounded like a whiney teenager going through his first breakup.

Nobody thinks that of you.

It's more of a self-image thing when I read my posts back to myself. I really need to pull myself together when my confidence is so shot that I'm too self-concious to post in an internet forum

[Mini E]

I took my girlfriend to Bournemouth for the weekend and it wasn't exactly how she liked so she pretty much ruined the weekend for us both. it was not pleasant...

Yep. Yep yep.

[Fade]

I took my girlfriend to Bournemouth for the weekend and it wasn't exactly how she liked so she pretty much ruined the weekend for us both. it was not pleasant...

Aye, sounds about right.

Anyways, I need some encouragement to move my relationship forward with her. I'm fully willing to move out to Canada to be with her, but job prospects and the language barrier are pretty daunting... anybody else got any experience moving countries?

I'm going to ask the obvious here...Canada? Language barrier? Even if you mean Montreal, I don't think it's an issue. At least half of the population are bilingual. It's not like going to a country where English isn't spoken at all.

What kind of visa would you be going on? How does that affect job prospects? What skills do you have?

You need to be bilingual to work most public jobs there. There are a bunch of tourists there and you wouldn't get away with only being able to speak to the English speaking ones. Plus most schools there teach in French. And that's only Montreal. The town my girlfriend lives in is basically exclusively French, you wouldn't be able to live there and not speak it without relying on somebody else.

I have no real skills. I almost failed college. Got a place at uni doing graphic design but never went because I was not well mentally and not really enjoying graphic design much anymore. Since then I've just been working unskilled jobs. Although planning on training to be a teaching assistant and then possibly a teacher later down the line. Although maybe I could blag a graphic design job over there?

I have no idea about visas yet

[Death's Head]

I'm still about but not been posting in here because I was starting to think I sounded like a whiney teenager going through his first breakup.

Nobody thinks that of you.

It's more of a self-image thing when I read my posts back to myself. I really need to pull myself together when my confidence is so shot that I'm too self-concious to post in an internet forum

Does anyone on here know who you are? If not, post away. It is good to get stuff off your chest and takes courage to do it - when I have problems I just bottle them up which is bad for you.

[Rightey]

I took my girlfriend to Bournemouth for the weekend and it wasn't exactly how she liked so she pretty much ruined the weekend for us both. it was not pleasant...

Aye, sounds about right.

Anyways, I need some encouragement to move my relationship forward with her. I'm fully willing to move out to Canada to be with her, but job prospects and the language barrier are pretty daunting... anybody else got any experience moving countries?

I'm going to ask the obvious here...Canada? Language barrier? Even if you mean Montreal, I don't think it's an issue. At least half of the population are bilingual. It's not like going to a country where English isn't spoken at all.

What kind of visa would you be going on? How does that affect job prospects? What skills do you have?

You need to be bilingual to work most public jobs there. There are a bunch of tourists there and you wouldn't get away with only being able to speak to the English speaking ones. Plus most schools there teach in French. And that's only Montreal. The town my girlfriend lives in is basically exclusively French, you wouldn't be able to live there and not speak it without relying on somebody else.

I have no real skills. I almost failed college. Got a place at uni doing graphic design but never went because I was not well mentally and not really enjoying graphic design much anymore. Since then I've just been working unskilled jobs. Although planning on training to be a teaching assistant and then possibly a teacher later down the line. Although maybe I could blag a graphic design job over there?

I have no idea about visas yet

My girlfriend is pretty much exactly in your situation so I know where you are coming from.

The easiest thing for you to do will probably apply for a working holiday visa, which lasts for 1 year, and attend a language school. The problem is these can be a bit pricey, not sure exactly how much my girlfriend paid for hers but it was over $10K, however in her case that was with board and food etc. Hopefully for you that will be a bit cheaper since I assume you will be living with your girlfriend.

If you are unskilled you can basically forget about getting any other Visa as there are plenty of other people to fill these rolls here, and until a few months ago they also let companies ship people in from other countries through the Temporary Foreign Worker program, however they have recently clamped down on that.

Another option would be to do some sort of post secondary education here. The program my girlfriend is doing lasts 2 years, and she will also get a visa for 3 years so she can work here. However this is also very expensive as tuition for foreign students is not in any way subsidized by the government, as a result tuition for a 2 year college program is around $23,000. Also this visa comes with some restrictions on where you can work.

[Fade]

But education here is £9k a year anyway right?

So if it's in the form of a loan then it'd actually work out about the same.

[Rightey]

No idea what education costs are like in the UK, in that case it might work out better. If you go straight to a College though it may be harder for you to pick up the language since you will probably be able to study in English, and the only time you would speak French is when dealing with locals, but if you do something like design I imagine you would be able to find a place to work where they speak English.

But why would you want to live in Montreal anyways, the subways are just buses on rails! They don't even have metal wheels! Also the amount of homeless people down there makes you think your in a Vault from Fallout!