Moggy wrote:Jenuall wrote:Moggy wrote:Jenuall wrote:I kind of get where you are coming from there Moggy, doing something like this when you actually know or are close with the people is obviously not good. But at the same time even if you don't know the partner you are still partaking in an act that you know is potentially going to cause pain to them. Should their anonymity really absolve you of any moral judgement or wrongdoing?
Obviously it goes without saying that it is the cheater who is really in the wrong here and if it causes problems at home then they need to shoulder the blame for that, but it still seems that anyone who "enables" that situation shouldn't be 100% guilt free!
Im married and if my wife cheated I’d obviously be furious.
But I wouldn’t blame some random bloke she slept with on a night out. He doesn’t know me, why would he care? I would blame a family member or a friend (as well as her) though!
I think it's reasonable to assume that if presented with the person who their spouse cheated on them with most people would be at least a little bit "ticked off" with that individual. Not as angry as they were at their own spouse or partner perhaps, but still not exactly happy.
Only being an "accomplice" to the crime, so to speak, doesn't make you innocent of all guilt for that crime!
There is no “crime”.
Of course, hence the "so to speak".
But there is an act of wrongdoing, one which many would say shows a lack of morals on both parties, and one which can have severe negative consequences on the person they are doing it with as well as potentially multiple third parties.
If the cheating spouse is actively hiding the fact that they are in a relationship then fair enough I'd wager most would agree that bloke has done no wrong in that case. But if the bloke in this situation is aware that the person he is about to stick his dick into is married or in a relationship, or suspects this is the case and does strawberry float all to confirm it, then I think they are absolutely due a portion of the blame and guilt for the act if they go through with it.