Your Last Break Up!!

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **FirstSecond** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:04 pm

Yet another text. here it is......

I know its not fair to keep textin but i'm trying so hard not to. I'm really miserable without you around

please reply, even if its just to let me know you're ok or to say you don't wanna hear from me again

.

Sound like someones regretting their choice? message deleted.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Denster** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:06 pm

Youve taken the first steps on the road to redemption. Next step - tom her sister!

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **FirstSecond** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:10 pm

Another one lol

She wants me to log on msn for a quick chat, please please please...

No chance, I'll admit I am tempted because I do still love her, and the thought of causing her any pain is horrible, but if I'm gonna do this then it has to be a clean break.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Denster** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:13 pm

Absolutely!

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Buffalo** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:22 pm

He's doing remarkably well, isn't he? Yoshi, will you just stop pestering the lad? FFS :roll:

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **FirstSecond** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:23 pm

Ok now this is getting weird, just got another message saying shes going to call me and please answer the phone or something because shes going out of her mind..

I really don't get this now, she's with her boyfriend so why is she even bothered about me? anyways, turned my phones off...

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Igor** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:31 pm

To be honest, ignoring her is pretty cruel. Yeah, she made a choice, and that choice wasn't you. But she didn't make that choice because she didn't love you, she made it because the idea of ending it with her boyfriend scared her (I'd imagine that they have been together for quite sometime), which is natural.

Your aim shouldn't be to make her feel as guilty, or as bad as possible.

FirstSecond wrote:I really don't get this now, she's with her boyfriend so why is she even bothered about me? anyways, turned my phones off...

Like I said, she is staying with her boyfriend because familiarity is nice. Change isn't. Ending it with him and taking a chance on you scared her. She didn't choose him because she loves him and not you. She is bothered about you because of those feelings.

Duh.

If you honestly don't want to hear from her, then text her this: 'I'm fine, please stop texting me'. Simple.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **FirstSecond** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:34 pm

But thats the thing, one of the last texts I sent her was saying don't worry, I even told her that on the phone, she knows I'll be fine..

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Buffalo** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:39 pm

I can't say I agree with you, Igor.
Matt (that's your name FirstSecond, yeah?), you've told her once, and that's all you need to do. Even if you didn't actually mean what you said then, you've been in touch with her. Let her squirm, let her worry.
I tell you one thing, I've been in your position before - someone who I thought was going to be special to me ripped my strawberry floating heart out because she "changed her mind". I did the opposite to what you're doing, and I regret every second of it - reading back my texts and the things I said made me look like a spineless, whimpering husk of a man.
Ask yourself an honest, unbiased question - do you deserve to be subjected to this? If your honest answer is no, then you're doing the right thing.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Denster** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:40 pm

Buff is one hundred percent correct. And he knows coffee too.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Igor** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:53 pm

Buff, I've been through the same. The girl that I honestly thought was the real deal suddenly changed her mind. It took 6 weeks for her to go from telling me that I was the one, the love of her life, that we'd be together forever, and she saw having kids with me etc, to where she is now, with a new boyfriend. She's completely changed, turned into a right banana split, and is doing God knows what. She bought a handful of pills off someone I know (she doesn't know that I know them) on Saturday night, and has gone completely off the rails. For the first few weeks I was the spineless twat.. Responding to her texts etc, now she can strawberry float off. I'd love nothing more than to punch her in her stupid face, and make her realise what an idiot she really is, and what everyone actually thinks of her.

But that isn't the same situation as FS's.. FS's girl actually does love him. She didn't end it on a whim, she ended it because she has been with her boyfriend long enough for ending it to scare her.

Maybe..

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Denster** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 7:58 pm

FS's girl doesn't love him enough. She chose the other guy but she wants to keep him as a friend (or back up plan) to ease her guilt. You can't have it both ways. She made her choice - strawberry float her. Dont give her anything back in return.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Buffalo** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:00 pm

Yeah I was reading that part about the pills and such the other day

That's a bit crazy. You're doing the right thing steering well clear from that.
Oh, you'll like this one, this might cheer you up - my last 'break up' was the boiler trouble I might have mentioned - I found out that she used to stalk me on this very forum :shock:

Must of had a spy at my Facebook, looked at my e-mail address (buffaloman) and found me here :lol:

She then told me she loved me, used to go to my local pubs with the sole intention to look for me, and was rumoured to have been driving around my housing estate - after moving to the same town as me :lol:

Thank God I don't own any pets.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Igor** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:25 pm

Ah yeah, I remember you talking about her. Mental.. Mine once told me that she couldn't handle it if I had a close female friend that I saw without her, and that she'd get insanely jealous.. I laughed. She didn't like that..

And you're right about the pills, I'm glad I got out of there. Nowt wrong with a bit of 'enhancement' on a night out, but when you have the maturity of a 13 year old, it isn't good. It's just a shame really.. One of her strawberry floated up reasons for ending it was that we were too different, and that she couldn't imagine us going out together (like, in town, drinking), as she was 'crazy', 'up for anything', and 'loved to go mental' or some gooseberry fool like that and I was 'too quiet'. She made out she was this mega confident extrovert.. When we were together, we did only go out once, and she was pissed off at me before I even got there.. She ended up ignoring me the whole night, then blamed it on me. We didn't get a chance to go out again, 'cause of my hospital gooseberry fool and stuff..

We broke up just as I was getting better, and started going out again. Which for some strange reason, surprised her! Anyway, now I know why she is this attention-hogging, crazy, up for anything girl when she goes out. Because she is off her strawberry floating face.

Like I said, I really want to make her realise what an idiot she really is. Tell her what her friends really think of her, tell her friends what she said about them, make sure everyone knows what she said to me, make sure she knows everything I know, blah blah...

I need to go to where she works tomorrow and get some of my stuff back. I should have got them all last Wednesday, but for one reason or another, she couldn't take them Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, or Saturday. We'll see if she remembers tomorrow. As I'm leaving, I might say something like: 'I hope those pills that you bought round the back of The Bear didn't set you back too much Saturday night, they were mostly just aspirin.'

But I probably won't...

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Prototype** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:26 pm

Buffalo wrote:she used to stalk me on this very forum

Wow.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Buffalo** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:31 pm

Thankfully it sounds like it's drawing to some sort of close. As much as you're tempted to inform people pf each others feelings about each other, that's probably not the best idea. It could cause some serious brown stuff to hit the fan.
Mine came to a close - I ignored her for about a fortnight, and she's done one. Thank strawberry float for that.
Although I kinda miss the attention...almost :lol:

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **FirstSecond** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:43 pm

Don't forget I asked her straight out, is she 100% sure she wants to be with her boyfriend, and she said she was yeah, so even if she does love me is irrelevant now as she obviously loves her boyfriend more, so keeping clear is the best option all round.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Igor** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 8:46 pm

Buffalo wrote:Thankfully it sounds like it's drawing to some sort of close. As much as you're tempted to inform people pf each others feelings about each other, that's probably not the best idea. It could cause some serious brown stuff to hit the fan.
Mine came to a close - I ignored her for about a fortnight, and she's done one. Thank strawberry float for that.
Although I kinda miss the attention...almost

I know you're right, but it doesn't stop me wanting to let her know how I feel about her now. It didn't help that when I got with her, I put myself in the middle of a circle that I didn't really want to be in. Her best friend works with my best friend. I found that people I had never met knew the ins and outs of our relationship, etc. It also doesn't help that on a Tuesday, we will quite likely see each other in the same pub. And I'll no doubt see the guy she is apparently with now. And I'll want to go and smash a pint glass over her head.

But it does help knowing that not only is she a completely different person now, but she also looks a strawberry floating state. Tomorrow should be fun. And yeah, it is drawing to a close. Once I have my stuff back (which friends and family don't think will happen), there is no reason for us to talk again. We once said that we would always be part of each others lives, no matter what, and we'd always be there for each other. The complete lack of respect from her over these last two months clearly shows that won't happen, so that'll be it. I'll have to tolerate seeing her every now and again when we're in the same place, but apart from that, nothing. Thankfully she is going to Australia in September, so after that, I definitely won't see her again.

EDIT: You know what, I could actually do with a stalker right about now.

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **TravelJug** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 9:27 pm

FirstSecond wrote:Don't forget I asked her straight out, is she 100% sure she wants to be with her boyfriend, and she said she was yeah, so even if she does love me is irrelevant now as she obviously loves her boyfriend more, so keeping clear is the best option all round.

Indeed FS. Indeed. You are slowly becoming a bit of a LEG. (legend)

EDIT: Wait wait wait, I think I've been getting your story confused with someone else's...so was this just a simple break up?

PostRe: Your Last Break Up!! by **Slartibartfast** » Mon Apr 13, 2009 10:04 pm

What happened to the guy who started this thread?

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