MCN wrote:Mr Yoshi wrote:Yeah, apparently she's ill and is at the end of the semester, with a million assessment deadlines looming. So, understandable. But what I can't work out is why she wouldn't text me back, even if it's just to say she can't talk to me right now.
I can't believe she would find it hurtful anymore, or painful to think about. She broke it off. But then again, if she was completely over it, why wouldn't she just text back?
Maybe it's a little selfish, but I feel that with everything I've gone through in the last few months, I can't imagine her having anywhere near as harder time as I've had. And as easy as it is to say, "yeah, women are bitches", I knew this person.
I knew she was sincere when she said she wanted to be friends. She has a few unresolved and quite serious personal issues, so when I read her status update I get concerned. Which again, is unfair of her to text me back, because now I worry. Anyway, I know. It's not my job to care anymore, but it's hard.
Mate, she's under a lot of pressure at the moment. And even if she did break it off, maybe she is still hurting because she still cares about you. Also, look at it this way, she'll ill, has a ton of deadlines, unresolved and serious personal issues, and you can't imagine she's had a worse time than you? Unless you've been diagnosed with 17 terminal illnesses at the same time, you're being very selfish in saying that.
Give her some breathing space. You've obviously not picked the best time to get back in touch, as she has a lot on her plate. Wait until the semester is over, at least.
You're half right. Yeah, she has a few 'serious' personal issues, but she's had these her entire life. I'm not going to go into details, but they're not crippling issues, just things that definitely should be resolved eventually.
And yes, it's her end of semester and it's stressfull, but I've been there too and I know that you can always spare 2 minutes to write a quick text on a bus or on the way to college to explain your actions. Plus, she's finished now and still nothing.
Finally, my last four months have been hell. I've been through a lot emotionally, and for reasons I won't go into, the relationship and break up was a soul crushingly torturous experience. It sounds like an
incredibly naive thing to say, but I don't think many people will have experience what I experienced in that relationship. Trust me, if you were in my place you'd go crazy over some of the finer points of the relationship.