I believe there's 2 methods of doing it, Exxy. 3, actually.
The first one is doing it by the book - starting with a single drum, studying drum music (the actual notation, like any other instrument) to build up your discipline when it comes to time-keeping, and understanding the value that conventional note values have in building up a rhythmical repertoire. Then, you'd implement your skills around the drum kit, introducing both feet.
The 2nd way is more about instinct - sitting at a kit and hoping that your natural ear for rhythm translates into funky chops. Both methods take a lot of practice - and this one more so, perhaps. The risk with this - and I've seen and heard it many times - is that passion, enthusiasm and raw power substitutes for accuracy, precision, and balance, when really all of those elements can co- exist, if you're skilled enough.
Drumming - unlike most instruments - in my opinion is not one where you can become merely competent after a year or two. Drumming skill and technique is one which is nurtured, and built over many years. Feeling the beat not in your mind, your brain, but to a point where you don't even think about time - it flows within you subconsciously.
The third method is one I was raised, and it's a successful combination of the first two - 'by the book' meeting the free spirit. But regardless of where you fall, the best thing you can do to learn, is to learn from others. Listen to drums in songs in a different way, where the riff is king. gooseberry fool, some of my favourite genres are metal, then funk, then hip-hop. It's the riffs. Always the riffs. More techniques to borrow, to incorporate into your own style.
Method two seems best for me. Might work some lessons in as well. Been looking at electric kits (tempted to look at acoustic now though) and the ones I can afford look a little...gooseberry fool. Always the one thing that has put me off drumming is how much it costs