Autism Awareness Month

I wouldn’t personally think I’m on the spectrum. I have social anxiety at times that I push through. That test suggests I am, simply because I have a passionate interest in something and find it stressful meeting new people, but doesn’t everyone?

Though I did hear recently about masking for the first time and how it makes social situations exhausting, and I relate to that a lot. A lot of my social interaction IRL ultimately comes down to me “pretending to be normal”, so I’ll downplay my interests a good bit in an effort to not appear to be obsessive or sad. But again, that’s probably down to the specific traditional social stigma around gaming and nerdy things that I’m simply a little embarrassed by it.

The way the questions are poised equates inadvertently upsetting someone with words or actions as “oh, you don’t understand social cues”. But in reality, you can do that through simply no fault of your own, by being super empathetic but not being aware that a particular thing was important to someone. Selfless, well-intentioned actions can backfire for anyone at all (the “Larry David effect)

shy guy 64 wrote:i was diagnosed at 13 but they pretty much knew all along its just the doctor in question didnt believe in labelling children even if it was a label that would have gotten me the help i needed at school. the autism really kicked in, in high school

I think the label would have helped me in someways in school but then again maybe not, they knew I was epileptic and that didn't help. I have grand mal seizures from a sleeping state sometimes but I have petite mal seizures in the day, I have moments where my brain just turns off and I go vacant, I'll sit there still looking blankly forward.... All my school reports basically said I didn't pay attention and looked at the wall day dreaming. School was hard as I'd get angry when accused of stuff I hadn't done or when teachers would allow things to happen that were not right, I once threw a stool that smashed next to a science teachers head because he accused me of talking like 10 times when I hadn't.

College and Uni were better but there were still a few issues, in uni I had a philosophy lecturer who would really take the piss out of students he would pick on one person a lecture and usually make them cry, he tried to pick on me and I told him to either shut his fing mouth and stop picking on people or come out side and handle it like a man and fight me, I had to have meetings over that but in the end it was deemed ok as I'd offered him a fight if he wanted one as apposed to just threatening him, he was told off and repremanded, I was let off totally and he didn't insult me or another student for the rest of the classes I had with him but I was scared for a moment I was going to be thrown out and I think a lot of me not being thrown out was due to my Sociology lecturer who was the course head taking my side,

jiggles wrote:I wouldn’t personally think I’m on the spectrum. I have social anxiety at times that I push through. That test suggests I am, simply because I have a passionate interest in something and find it stressful meeting new people, but doesn’t everyone?

Though I did hear recently about masking for the first time and how it makes social situations exhausting, and I relate to that a lot. A lot of my social interaction IRL ultimately comes down to me “pretending to be normal”, so I’ll downplay my interests a good bit in an effort to not appear to be obsessive or sad. But again, that’s probably down to the specific traditional social stigma around gaming and nerdy things that I’m simply a little embarrassed by it.

The way the questions are poised equates inadvertently upsetting someone with words or actions as “oh, you don’t understand social cues”. But in reality, you can do that through simply no fault of your own, by being super empathetic but not being aware that a particular thing was important to someone. Selfless, well-intentioned actions can backfire for anyone at all (the “Larry David effect)

I have always masked difficulties by being a class clown type, I can have people laughing and clapping but I tend to feel like I'm not liked at all and I'm just tolerated .. I have a lot of disconnect and feel lonely and always doubt that people like me even the smallest bit. I always feel like if I left this job or left this event or whatever no one would care.

kerr9000 wrote:

shy guy 64 wrote:i was diagnosed at 13 but they pretty much knew all along its just the doctor in question didnt believe in labelling children even if it was a label that would have gotten me the help i needed at school. the autism really kicked in, in high school

I think the label would have helped me in someways in school but then again maybe not, they knew I was epileptic and that didn't help. I have grand mal seizures from a sleeping state sometimes but I have petite mal seizures in the day, I have moments where my brain just turns off and I go vacant, I'll sit there still looking blankly forward.... All my school reports basically said I didn't pay attention and looked at the wall day dreaming. School was hard as I'd get angry when accused of stuff I hadn't done or when teachers would allow things to happen that were not right, I once threw a stool that smashed next to a science teachers head because he accused me of talking like 10 times when I hadn't.

College and Uni were better but there were still a few issues, in uni I had a philosophy lecturer who would really take the piss out of students he would pick on one person a lecture and usually make them cry, he tried to pick on me and I told him to either shut his fing mouth and stop picking on people or come out side and handle it like a man and fight me, I had to have meetings over that but in the end it was deemed ok as I'd offered him a fight if he wanted one as apposed to just threatening him, he was told off and repremanded, I was let off totally and he didn't insult me or another student for the rest of the classes I had with him but I was scared for a moment I was going to be thrown out and I think a lot of me not being thrown out was due to my Sociology lecturer who was the course head taking my side,

i think that lecturer was the one who had problems

shy guy 64 wrote:

kerr9000 wrote:

shy guy 64 wrote:i was diagnosed at 13 but they pretty much knew all along its just the doctor in question didnt believe in labelling children even if it was a label that would have gotten me the help i needed at school. the autism really kicked in, in high school

I think the label would have helped me in someways in school but then again maybe not, they knew I was epileptic and that didn't help. I have grand mal seizures from a sleeping state sometimes but I have petite mal seizures in the day, I have moments where my brain just turns off and I go vacant, I'll sit there still looking blankly forward.... All my school reports basically said I didn't pay attention and looked at the wall day dreaming. School was hard as I'd get angry when accused of stuff I hadn't done or when teachers would allow things to happen that were not right, I once threw a stool that smashed next to a science teachers head because he accused me of talking like 10 times when I hadn't.

College and Uni were better but there were still a few issues, in uni I had a philosophy lecturer who would really take the piss out of students he would pick on one person a lecture and usually make them cry, he tried to pick on me and I told him to either shut his fing mouth and stop picking on people or come out side and handle it like a man and fight me, I had to have meetings over that but in the end it was deemed ok as I'd offered him a fight if he wanted one as apposed to just threatening him, he was told off and repremanded, I was let off totally and he didn't insult me or another student for the rest of the classes I had with him but I was scared for a moment I was going to be thrown out and I think a lot of me not being thrown out was due to my Sociology lecturer who was the course head taking my side,

i think that lecturer was the one who had problems

Yeah id say berating young people till they cry while in a position of powers not a good thing and is certainly a problem.

Sia won a Razzie for Worst Director for Music, I still want to watch this without paying to review it