Buying a house (and renting)

Got my mortgage offer last week. Sorted out my home insurance. Things are getting closer to me owning my first home

That's not a growth wrote:Got my mortgage offer last week. Sorted out my home insurance. Things are getting closer to me owning my first home

gooseberry fools getting real

That's not a growth wrote:Got my mortgage offer last week. Sorted out my home insurance. Things are getting closer to me owning my first home

That's awesome, I hope it's all easy for you from here on!

Solicitors are pricks though, be prepared for them to take a LONG time to work through it all.

Thanks guys.

Thankfully my solicitor is from my extended family, and he was really good with all the gooseberry fool that happened with the flat so I'm hoping things will go mostly ok. I don't mind if I'm not in before Christmas (would prefer it actually) so I'm not in the biggest rush.

Whoops, forgot I need to sort the survey out myself - with my last mortgage it was going to be sorted by the provider. Got a quote, hopefully they'll be in touch on Monday

I hate speaking to strangers and confrontation. Would you all think it's a good idea and effective to just write a letter to my neighbour above and tell her about her wardrobe again? I would be able t get my thoughts down better on paper and I won't come across as a nervous wreck in person lol. Also so that she won't forget anything i've said.

It has sliding doors which run on wheels. For some reason, it is very heavy, probably ancient, and made of solid wood. So it causes a huge disturbance in my room. Like literally feeling vibrations on my floor and my desk.
I guess the neighbours below me could hear it too even...

I've spoken to her about it before and advised her to open it very slowly so it causes no vibrations. Which she does do most of the time but every now and again she seems to forget.

Here is what I have composed so far...any edits/thoughts would be much appreciated.

"Hi there
I am just writing from the flat below. Just to let you know the wardrobe door in your room was very heavily moved last night. My room is east facing so directly below the same room in your flat.
I had my headphones on at the time working on my desk so I didn’t hear it however it caused huge vibrations in my room. I felt it through my feet and my desk was vibrating, it was like a mini earthquake.
It just really took me my surprise and made me jump because it was very sudden and things in my room were vibrating. I am concerned it would also affect the neighbours in the flat below me as well as the vibrations could easily travel down the whole building block. I understand that vibrations can often be amplified as it travels. So what may seem small in your room, the vibrations get larger and louder as they travel down the building.

I really appreciate that you have ensured it is opened/closed slowly most of the time so that this does not happen. So thank you for that it is much appreciated. But I guess it is difficult to always do that. I hope you can get the wardrobe looked into by a builder in the future.

I am also looking to soundproof my ceiling in the future but not sure when. By installing a second ceiling under my existing ceiling. As I am sensitive to external noise like footfall. Again I appreciate you have reduced the noise greatly such as not wearing shoes in the room above. [strikethrough]So this is just down to me wanting extra soundproofing. As the way with these old buildings, vibrations are easily transmitted to other parts of the building and sometimes they sound like they are happening in my room.
However, I do not believe the new ceiling will mask the sound from your wardrobe door when it is opened very fast because the vibrations must travel down through the walls also. Decided not to mention what soundproofing works I am getting done hence strikethrough.

Instead I'll add this last sentence:
I also like to add that the footfall is very heavy at times like stomping sounds. Again this must be due to the age of the building so it can't be helped much. But I'd thought it's worth mentioning to you anyway.

If you are looking to avoid conflict then I'd be tempted to cast blame elsewhere. For instance:




or maybe if you want it more similar to yours but a bit shorter:



Alternatively you could go with the direct approach:



If that fails:





Which ever you choose you should definitely include the part about how vibrations travel. Its very informative.

Kezzer wrote:If you are looking to avoid conflict then I'd be tempted to cast blame elsewhere. For instance:

Hi everyone,

Just thought I'd write a note to all occupants of the building to make sure you were all okay after the earthquake we suffered.
(at least thats what it felt like in my eastward facing non soundproofed room!)

warmest regards.

or maybe if you want it more similar to yours but a bit shorter:

Hi there (again!)

Can't help but notice that you seem to be opening (and I presume closing) your wardrobe doors rather loudly again.

As I advised before, perhaps you should try moving the doors more slowly or maybe apply some sort of lubricant, else look to get them replaced by a builder or some sort of joiner/carpenter.

I trust you are doing your best, and can appreciate that in a haste to get dressed you may forget to be considerate to your neighbours.

warmest regards

.

Alternatively you could go with the direct approach:

YOU strawberry floating STUPID BITCH banana split, IVE TOLD YOU EXPLICITLY HOW TO OPEN AND CLOSE YOUR PISSING DOORS AND STILL YOU CANT strawberry floating DO IT RIGHT WITHOUT CAUSING MEEEE DISTRESS.

EVER CONSIDER OTHERS?!

NAH DIDNT THINK SO

SORT IT OR I WILL

If that fails:

I am going to kill you and your whole family.

Which ever you choose you should definitely include the part about how vibrations travel. Its very informative.

Thank you Kezzer for that it is much appreciated. I like your sensible shortened version. But the first one is funny. I have thought about sticking notices on the stairways and lifts actually lol
I have added a paragraph at the end about the loud footfall. I understand some people are stompers and cannot walk quietly. Was so hard to word it in a way without calling her fat.

you should! remind them that making noise is a crime and they may be served a Criminal Anti Social Behaviour Order (CRASBO)

Kezzer wrote:If you are looking to avoid conflict then I'd be tempted to cast blame elsewhere. For instance:

Hi everyone,

Just thought I'd write a note to all occupants of the building to make sure you were all okay after the earthquake we suffered.
(at least thats what it felt like in my eastward facing non soundproofed room!)

warmest regards.

or maybe if you want it more similar to yours but a bit shorter:

Hi there (again!)

Can't help but notice that you seem to be opening (and I presume closing) your wardrobe doors rather loudly again.

As I advised before, perhaps you should try moving the doors more slowly or maybe apply some sort of lubricant, else look to get them replaced by a builder or some sort of joiner/carpenter.

I trust you are doing your best, and can appreciate that in a haste to get dressed you may forget to be considerate to your neighbours.

warmest regards

.

Alternatively you could go with the direct approach:

YOU strawberry floating STUPID BITCH banana split, IVE TOLD YOU EXPLICITLY HOW TO OPEN AND CLOSE YOUR PISSING DOORS AND STILL YOU CANT strawberry floating DO IT RIGHT WITHOUT CAUSING MEEEE DISTRESS.

EVER CONSIDER OTHERS?!

NAH DIDNT THINK SO

SORT IT OR I WILL

If that fails:

I am going to kill you and your whole family.

Which ever you choose you should definitely include the part about how vibrations travel. Its very informative.

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Unless they are opening and closing the wardrobe constantly I think you might want to consider being less of a baby.

You have said you brought this up and they generally are careful but some times forget, they are human, unless you offer to replace the damn thing your probably going to be come out of this as the bell end neighbors that won't stop banging on about nothing.

Unless it's causing Admiral Boom from Mary Poppins level of disruption and junk you need to just chill a bit.

Errkal wrote:Unless they are opening and closing the wardrobe constantly I think you might want to consider being less of a baby.

You have said you brought this up and they generally are careful but some times forget, they are human, unless you offer to replace the damn thing your probably going to be come out of this as the bell end neighbors that won't stop banging on about nothing.

Unless it's causing Admiral Boom from Mary Poppins level of disruption it jink you need to just chill a bit.

Moggy wrote:

Errkal wrote:Unless they are opening and closing the wardrobe constantly I think you might want to consider being less of a baby.

You have said you brought this up and they generally are careful but some times forget, they are human, unless you offer to replace the damn thing your probably going to be come out of this as the bell end neighbors that won't stop banging on about nothing.

Unless it's causing Admiral Boom from Mary Poppins level of disruption it jink you need to just chill a bit.

Thanks but she definitely needs reminding as lately it's gotten louder. And yesterday it was totally unacceptable. I've spoken to her about it before and she still hasn't bothered to get it permanently fixed so she needs reminding even if it means me coming across a bit like a baby im afraid.
I know the part in the letter where I wrote about it taken me by surprise and making me jump sounds a bit extreme but I can't help but let her know that it is exactly what it does...:/

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:

Moggy wrote:

Errkal wrote:Unless they are opening and closing the wardrobe constantly I think you might want to consider being less of a baby.

You have said you brought this up and they generally are careful but some times forget, they are human, unless you offer to replace the damn thing your probably going to be come out of this as the bell end neighbors that won't stop banging on about nothing.

Unless it's causing Admiral Boom from Mary Poppins level of disruption it jink you need to just chill a bit.

Thanks but she definitely needs reminding as lately it's gotten louder. And yesterday it was totally unacceptable. I've spoken to her about it before and she still hasn't bothered to get it permanently fixed so she needs reminding even if it means me coming across a bit like a baby im afraid.
I know the part in the letter where I wrote about it taken me by surprise and making me jump sounds a bit extreme but I can't help but let her know that it is exactly what it does...:/

No she doesn't need reminding.

You live in a flat. You are always going to hear the neighbours. Opening a wardrobe is not "unacceptable", it's a perfectly normal thing for people to do.

And there is no reason for her to get her wardrobe "fixed", it's not broken.

The only permanent solution to this issue is for you to move. Even then unless you moved somewhere remote you're still going to hear something that will bother you.

Moggy wrote:

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:

Moggy wrote:

Errkal wrote:Unless they are opening and closing the wardrobe constantly I think you might want to consider being less of a baby.

You have said you brought this up and they generally are careful but some times forget, they are human, unless you offer to replace the damn thing your probably going to be come out of this as the bell end neighbors that won't stop banging on about nothing.

Unless it's causing Admiral Boom from Mary Poppins level of disruption it jink you need to just chill a bit.

Thanks but she definitely needs reminding as lately it's gotten louder. And yesterday it was totally unacceptable. I've spoken to her about it before and she still hasn't bothered to get it permanently fixed so she needs reminding even if it means me coming across a bit like a baby im afraid.
I know the part in the letter where I wrote about it taken me by surprise and making me jump sounds a bit extreme but I can't help but let her know that it is exactly what it does...:/

No she doesn't need reminding.

You live in a flat. You are always going to hear the neighbours. Opening a wardrobe is not "unacceptable", it's a perfectly normal thing for people to do.

And there is no reason for her to get her wardrobe "fixed", it's not broken.

Sorry but you sound very ignorant quite frankly. If a wardrobe door makes ur floors walls and desk vibrate then that is not normal.
I have never come across a wardrobe that causes a building to shake. So clearly it is broken!
What part of that do you not understand? Why should I move for her wrong doing?

Moggy wrote:

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:

Moggy wrote:

Errkal wrote:Unless they are opening and closing the wardrobe constantly I think you might want to consider being less of a baby.

You have said you brought this up and they generally are careful but some times forget, they are human, unless you offer to replace the damn thing your probably going to be come out of this as the bell end neighbors that won't stop banging on about nothing.

Unless it's causing Admiral Boom from Mary Poppins level of disruption it jink you need to just chill a bit.

Thanks but she definitely needs reminding as lately it's gotten louder. And yesterday it was totally unacceptable. I've spoken to her about it before and she still hasn't bothered to get it permanently fixed so she needs reminding even if it means me coming across a bit like a baby im afraid.
I know the part in the letter where I wrote about it taken me by surprise and making me jump sounds a bit extreme but I can't help but let her know that it is exactly what it does...:/

No she doesn't need reminding.

You live in a flat. You are always going to hear the neighbours. Opening a wardrobe is not "unacceptable", it's a perfectly normal thing for people to do.

And there is no reason for her to get her wardrobe "fixed", it's not broken.

Sorry but you sound very ignorant quite frankly. If a wardrobe door makes ur floors walls and desk vibrate then that is not normal.
I have never come across a wardrobe that causes a building to shake.

If I got that note I would completely ignore it as being totally unreasonable. I hope she does the same.

Red wrote:If I got that note I would completely ignore it as being totally unreasonable. I hope she does the same.

Well I'm glad she isn't unreasonable and ignorant like you. So that I don't have to get the council involved and make an official noise complaint.
If you were living above me and ignored me then I'd blast loud music at your 12hours a day when I am not home. If simply set my homepod to do it on a playlist.

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:

Moggy wrote:

No:1 Final Fantasy Fan wrote:

Moggy wrote:

Errkal wrote:Unless they are opening and closing the wardrobe constantly I think you might want to consider being less of a baby.

You have said you brought this up and they generally are careful but some times forget, they are human, unless you offer to replace the damn thing your probably going to be come out of this as the bell end neighbors that won't stop banging on about nothing.

Unless it's causing Admiral Boom from Mary Poppins level of disruption it jink you need to just chill a bit.

Thanks but she definitely needs reminding as lately it's gotten louder. And yesterday it was totally unacceptable. I've spoken to her about it before and she still hasn't bothered to get it permanently fixed so she needs reminding even if it means me coming across a bit like a baby im afraid.
I know the part in the letter where I wrote about it taken me by surprise and making me jump sounds a bit extreme but I can't help but let her know that it is exactly what it does...:/

No she doesn't need reminding.

You live in a flat. You are always going to hear the neighbours. Opening a wardrobe is not "unacceptable", it's a perfectly normal thing for people to do.

And there is no reason for her to get her wardrobe "fixed", it's not broken.

Sorry but you sound very ignorant quite frankly. If a wardrobe door makes ur floors walls and desk vibrate then that is not normal.
I have never come across a wardrobe that causes a building to shake.

After your performance with your flatmate, I am not being called "ignorant" by you.

You need to move out of the city and go and live by yourself in the middle of nowhere.

Although I bet even then you'd be in here whining about the birdsong being too loud in the morning.