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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Sat Dec 15, 2018 3:42 pm

Yeah Christmas parties are tricky. Had mine last night and while I enjoyed myself I did notice a few people who I thought I was cool with barely acknowledging me. On the other hand though there was other folk I've not seen in ages that was good.

Problem really is the hangover, drink ruins my mental health now. Depressed about all aspects of life and not looking forward to anything etc. Going to have to cut back on the alcohol for my own good.

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by Outrunner » Mon Dec 17, 2018 5:55 pm

Christmas depression has been coming on in waves. Some days I'm fine at other times I'm close to tears. Fortunately my family are great and there's no pressure there but some people at work always seem a bit insensitive to it. The scrooge and grinch jokes have started and fixing a smile to my face while I inwardly cringe is getting tiresome. I don't know how to get round it either. If I lie and say I'm looking forward to it they want details (what are you doing, what have you bought everyone), if I'm honest and say I'm largely opting out the scrooge jokes start, if I try to remain non-committal then people are determined to talk to me about christmas. I'm dieting at the moment so not eating any of the chocolates that customers bring in. Apparently that's being miserable. The thing I don't get is at any other time of the year my work friends and most of management are really supportive when it comes to my mental health and can't do enough for me, so why doesn't christmas, when I'm 100% guaranteed to feel low, count?

Maybe I'm being to sensitive to their jokes but it genuinely bothers me. I don't like being the guy that doesn't enjoy Christmas, I don't enjoy feeling broken and alone. But at the same time I genuinely hope everyone I work with has a great Christmas, whatever it is they decide to do with it. I'm just not sure how that makes me a scrooge.

I went out with a close friend from work for pre-party drinks and that was great but I couldn't face the party itself. My friend was completely OK with that and didn't push the issue. It was only for a couple of hours but I enjoyed it.

Anyway, I'm actually quite looking forward to Christmas day itself. I'm going dog walking in the morning and having chill day at my parents who also aren't too fussed about Christmas. My brothers family are in their new house this year so I won't be seeing the kids until after the day. On the one hand it kinda sucks but at least the pressure is off for me on Xmas day.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Johnny Ryall » Mon Dec 17, 2018 8:19 pm

I can relate man, some people need to be mindful that Christmas can end up with you having to put up with family you can't stand or just have nothing in common with. Or just being plain alone.

Bless my Mum her birthday is Xmas but I have nothing in common with her and it ends up being a day of stilted conversation, always the same every year "Isn't Eastenders depressing" "Oh turn that over I can't stand the Queen". If it wasn't her birthday I'd think about making other plans, though even then I don't know what they would be.

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by Lotus » Tue Dec 18, 2018 8:54 am

There’s something bizarre about Christmas which seems to bring out this idea of ‘forced fun’ where everybody has to take part in everything and they’re damn well going to enjoy it otherwise there’s something wrong with them and they obviously hate Christmas.

I don’t know why people get so worked up if others don’t share their enthusiasm or want to partake in the activities that they deem to be fun, or the done thing.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Poser » Tue Dec 18, 2018 9:30 am

I actually managed to enjoy my Christmas party on Friday, but wasn't expecting to. However, I'm still dealing with the crushing anxiety that any heavy night of drinking now leaves me with. Totally not worth it.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Sandy » Tue Dec 18, 2018 10:24 am

I personally find Christmas a terrible time of year, I tell people this and maybe I get the odd comment but most people don't care or even agree with me. If I had to guess at the reason it's because I'm confident and definitely confident enough to highlight to the scrooge callers as to why it's a terrible thing. That said, it doesn't even remotely bother me if they say I'm scrooge or don't have the Christmas spirit.

Hopefully everyone will find a way to have a nice time over the next month. Try not to over analyse or overthink and just treat it like any other time of year.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by NickSCFC » Tue Dec 18, 2018 11:16 am

Lotus wrote:There’s something bizarre about Christmas which seems to bring out this idea of ‘forced fun’ where everybody has to take part in everything and they’re damn well going to enjoy it otherwise there’s something wrong with them and they obviously hate Christmas.

I don’t know why people get so worked up if others don’t share their enthusiasm or want to partake in the activities that they deem to be fun, or the done thing.


I tend to get nostalgic around Christmas due to the warm feelings of nostalgia.

Other than that I really don't get the excitement outside people who are kids or have kids.

I get that it's nice to catch up with friends and relatives, but the over excitement by grownups is pathetic.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by NickSCFC » Tue Dec 18, 2018 11:20 am

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Tragic Magic wrote:Feeling pretty gooseberry fool tonight. I started a new job 7 weeks ago and it's been going great but I just didn't fit in anywhere at tonight's Christmas party and I sat in silence for pretty much the whole evening, stuck between two groups chatting amongst themselves, with both people beside me leaning in with their backs turned in my direction. Everyone started doing a quiz in teams and "fight or flight" came over me and I put my coat on and slipped out without anyone noticing.

I hope no one brings it up on Monday and asks why I just left because I feel like gooseberry fool. I'm socially retarded around new people, that's for sure.


I can sympathise, I had much the same experience last night at our party. I've been there nearly a year now and while I wouldn't say I've made proper friends there, I'd like to think I get on with most people, but most of the time I was on my own or wandering around trying to get in on conversations. I don't suffer with any anxiety or anything like that, and I'm normally a motormouth in social situations, but last night I felt properly left out. Mostly because I wasn't drinking and most people were, so they were having drunk chats, but despite my efforts i just didn't feel part of the fun.

It really got to me when I came to leave though, as I got my coat and tried to say bye to a few people but they pretty much blanked me (I don't think it was on purpose though, as I say most were well oiled by then), but I walked out and when I got to the car I just felt like I didn't exist and most people wouldn't notice I'd even gone. Years ago I would have been right in the mix of the fun and staying out with all of them, but now I don't even feel included and I don't know what's happend. It doesn't help half of them are really young and it's a howdoyoudofellowkids situation.


Always hated large parties with all the inane chatter, always feel oddly anxious for some reason.

Have no problem with clubs or gigs where there's music and I've consumed copious amounts of alcohol, but the whole standing around chatting just bores me to tears.

Thankfully our Christmas party is little more than a mid-week sit-down meal event that I can get out of after an hour.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Outrunner » Fri Dec 21, 2018 6:06 pm

Thanks guys, it's nice to be able to vent without being judged for it. Here's hoping that for those of you that aren't feeling it this year manage to get through it without to much stress and anxiety.

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by more heat than light » Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:06 pm

Excuse the ramble....

I'm really really upset right now. I've been planning a Christmas present for my other half, tickets for a show. Spent all my energy trying to arrange babysitters, actually went to talk to the in-laws which is ridiculously tough for me. This afternoon I spent playing Xbox, and obviously I went to buy them this evening and they've sold out.

I'm just incredibly angry at myself for being utterly gooseberry fool. Been attacking myself at work and I'm really worried about driving home because I feel like if I have an outburst I'm just going to put the car in a ditch. I really thought the stress of Christmas was over, but now I have to find the time and energy to attempt to do it all over again.

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by Corazon de Leon » Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:09 pm

Chestnut Snowleaves wrote:Excuse the ramble....

I'm really really upset right now. I've been planning a Christmas present for my other half, tickets for a show. Spent all my energy trying to arrange babysitters, actually went to talk to the in-laws which is ridiculously tough for me. This afternoon I spent playing Xbox, and obviously I went to buy them this evening and they've sold out.

I'm just incredibly angry at myself for being utterly gooseberry fool. Been attacking myself at work and I'm really worried about driving home because I feel like if I have an outburst I'm just going to put the car in a ditch. I really thought the stress of Christmas was over, but now I have to find the time and energy to attempt to do it all over again.


Check resale outlets, contact the venue, check apps such as Twickets to see if anyone is getting rid of a couple of tickets. It's tough to take, but it might not be the end. :)

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by more heat than light » Fri Dec 21, 2018 8:19 pm

Thanks man, I haven't managed to find anything and the box office is closed for the weekend, so it's not looking promising. I'm just annoyed at myself for leaving everything till the last minute as per usual. She would have loved it too.

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by Tragic Magic » Sat Dec 22, 2018 8:14 am

Oddly enough, the Christmas depression is hitting me now that I've finished work for the holiday. Like every year though, I think it's more the fact that no one seems to either care or remember my birthday on the 27th. All my friends have even made other plans together for the Friday night so strawberry float them, I'm going to stay at home. I've even told my parents that I'm working my birthday so that I don't have to see them. Last year my Dad didn't even bother visiting me anyway.

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by Meep » Sat Dec 22, 2018 12:04 pm

So glad to be passed the solstice. Going to work in darkness and coming home in darkness plays havock with everyone's mood. Until we ditch the shitshow of modern capitialism it's just something most of us have to manage, regardless of how wasteful it all seems. It sort of tempts me to go self-employed at some point. Not much security and I might be worse off but at least I wouldn't have to stretch out my work to fill out some arbitrary number of hours, even on days when I pretty much finished everyhing at two in the afternoon.

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by Sandy » Sat Dec 22, 2018 12:50 pm

Chestnut Snowleaves wrote:Thanks man, I haven't managed to find anything and the box office is closed for the weekend, so it's not looking promising. I'm just annoyed at myself for leaving everything till the last minute as per usual. She would have loved it too.


If you don't manage to get it sorted then tell her what you'd planned and what happened. It was a mistake and if she would have loved it then knowing you'd thought about it and planned it will make her happy.

Good luck getting something sorted out though. Hopefully something will turn up.

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by VlaSoul » Sat Dec 22, 2018 1:28 pm

I think I'm getting hit with winter depression again

I generally get pretty low over the holidays since I'm away from my friends and stuff, and I haven't had any dope in like a week as well which is a pretty big factor since I was using it to deal with SSRI withdrawal (first time I was using for any reason other than cuz I like it).
Kinda just wanna go back to uni now

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by kerr9000 » Sun Dec 23, 2018 6:52 pm

I thought I was going to have a decent Christmas, I have found Christmas very very hard since my mum passed away but after my auntie said something about how much my mum loved it and going for it in her spirit I really really did start to go for it, I got lots of food and stuff and I ended up with the best Christmas rota I have had in a very very long time basically with me being off Christmas eve, Christmas day and boxing day. I arrive at mine with my Fiancee with a car loaded up with presents and food and her cat which I absolutly adore and then I get into my front room and one of my brothers is there , basically having a go about my daughter not talking to him because of family disagrements, he sets into my fiancee and me and she gets upset and leaves the room, he has a go at me a bit more..... my dad despite the fact im the one who lives with him seems to think its fine for my brother to be nasty to me and say horrible things to me but intersects and tells me off whenever I bite back or get angry myself. My brother has vocally attacked our other brother , our cousin and our auntie but yet im the one in the wrong. During all of this my fiancee left and basically now wont set foot in the house again and has gone back to hers. This has not only left me feeling like my dad doesnt care about me at all but it has also ruined my christmas. I have felt like I have been treading water with my mental health for awile now and this is just something I really really didnt need.

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by Green Gecko » Sun Dec 23, 2018 7:22 pm

The only solution to Christmas is just to delete all family and play games.

Seriously my father and his other family are all in France (where he basically lives now for whatever reason, even though he has a house here??) for Xmas so I've got an email for xmas from him wishing that I go visit them next year and some money wired to my account.. and going to my mums for the day. My girlfriends gone back to her county to her family which is always hard for me as I depend on her a lot for emotional support.

That and I ate some dodgy curry and was projectile vomiting and shaking and sweating for an entire day which was super fun so yeah I feel pretty shitty. Thankfully I have some friends in the area this time of year so I can play some games and have a few over if I get lonely and make music or something like the old days, or play Mario kart... I honestly don't really know what to do as I'm self employed so Christmas gets a bit weird being "on holiday" but still at home like always but alone as well, very strange. It's only a few days but it kind of feels like being alone in my room or at uni or something even with family down the road. It's really weird how Xmas can feel isolating.

Can't really drink on Xmas eve either as my stomach has to recover.. Was even bleeding a bit earlier. Man winter sucks balls, the cold was probably a large part of why I got sick so suddenly as well. I'm seriously sick like that maybe once a year! Know what I recall being similarly ill around the same time some other year.. Oh well better wrap up warm and drink plenty of tea.

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by Green Gecko » Tue Dec 25, 2018 3:45 am

Man I was weeping for like an hour for the 2 hours of pub I managed to get in tonight as I seem to have forgotten how to have a conversation :dread:. Now turns out I have to be up at 9:30 for Xmas "brunch" at my brothers when I last woke up at 4pm.

Anyway, posting in the alternative Xmas thread.

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by Tragic Magic » Tue Dec 25, 2018 6:51 am

I know that feeling, man. Like you're lost inside yourself and just want to be alone, but not really. Stay strong, we can all get through today together. I'm going to lose myself in a video game to get myself through this lonely morning. And then just grin and bare meal before I can come home again.


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