Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Oblomov Boblomov » Mon Jul 22, 2019 10:14 pm

Hang in there, you can do it.

How's the gym these days, are you still unable to workout much? Have you tried running? I swear by it these days for all-round health benefit.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Rocsteady » Tue Jul 23, 2019 8:50 am

Thanks. Yeah I’m doing quite a lot, getting up every morning to either run or do weights, alternating each. My wrist is quite strawberry floated which isn’t helping on the weights side but getting on ok with them. They tend to provide the main respite I have, normally have a 30ish minute period after exercising where the endorphins level me out a bit.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Ad7 » Tue Jul 23, 2019 8:52 am

Is this topic readable to those who aren't members?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Albear » Tue Jul 23, 2019 9:19 am

I didnt think so but worth a check.

karl_ wrote:Is this topic readable to those who aren't members?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by jawafour » Tue Jul 23, 2019 9:33 am

Ad7 wrote:Is this topic readable to those who aren't members?

I believe it is; when not logged in, it can still be read.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Ad7 » Tue Jul 23, 2019 9:47 am

Thanks Jawa.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Karl_ » Tue Jul 23, 2019 10:33 am

Albear wrote:I didnt think so but worth a check.

karl_ wrote:Is this topic readable to those who aren't members?


The whole Stuff forum is readable to guests. I can code a custom rule if we'd prefer it be hidden. I personally don't mind, if there are lurkers who are helped by reading along that's great, but I also understand people may have privacy concerns.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Ad7 » Tue Jul 23, 2019 10:43 am

It was because there's certain people I don't want seeing what I had to say. But as you mention, it may be helping strangers somewhere which can only be a good thing.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Pedz » Tue Jul 23, 2019 10:45 am

Make a topic in the trading thread ;)

Tbh, I hope all is OK as. I get not saying much here as if privacy is a concern, but I think talking to someone here even via PM may be beneficial.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Drumstick » Tue Jul 23, 2019 10:56 am

Lurkers could sign up to read this thread and possibly find help in taking part.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Oblomov Boblomov » Tue Jul 23, 2019 7:45 pm

Rocsteady wrote:Thanks. Yeah I’m doing quite a lot, getting up every morning to either run or do weights, alternating each. My wrist is quite strawberry floated which isn’t helping on the weights side but getting on ok with them. They tend to provide the main respite I have, normally have a 30ish minute period after exercising where the endorphins level me out a bit.

That endorphin rush is pretty much the best thing :datass: I love it.

What sort of level are you at with running? I got quite into it for a while but couldn't get my 5k under 21 minutes. I hate to use this excuse but some people seem built for running (e.g. long, slim, springy) and I am none of those things!

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Rocsteady » Thu Jul 25, 2019 5:18 pm

Oblomov Boblomov wrote:
Rocsteady wrote:Thanks. Yeah I’m doing quite a lot, getting up every morning to either run or do weights, alternating each. My wrist is quite strawberry floated which isn’t helping on the weights side but getting on ok with them. They tend to provide the main respite I have, normally have a 30ish minute period after exercising where the endorphins level me out a bit.

That endorphin rush is pretty much the best thing :datass: I love it.

What sort of level are you at with running? I got quite into it for a while but couldn't get my 5k under 21 minutes. I hate to use this excuse but some people seem built for running (e.g. long, slim, springy) and I am none of those things!

I’m not great at all, still much more focussed on weights. Tend to just do roughly 5k in about 25 minutes, don’t really track myself or aim for constant progression as I do in the gym. Aiming for being back on the 170kg deadlift 1x8 for mid-August which is helping my mood though.

Been a lot better the last couple of days, trying to just take it easy, eat well and basically do what I want. Which seems to be lots of sitting around after work reading and watching gooseberry fool tv but that’s fine.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Oblomov Boblomov » Thu Jul 25, 2019 7:52 pm

Rocsteady wrote:
Oblomov Boblomov wrote:
Rocsteady wrote:Thanks. Yeah I’m doing quite a lot, getting up every morning to either run or do weights, alternating each. My wrist is quite strawberry floated which isn’t helping on the weights side but getting on ok with them. They tend to provide the main respite I have, normally have a 30ish minute period after exercising where the endorphins level me out a bit.

That endorphin rush is pretty much the best thing :datass: I love it.

What sort of level are you at with running? I got quite into it for a while but couldn't get my 5k under 21 minutes. I hate to use this excuse but some people seem built for running (e.g. long, slim, springy) and I am none of those things!

I’m not great at all, still much more focussed on weights. Tend to just do roughly 5k in about 25 minutes, don’t really track myself or aim for constant progression as I do in the gym. Aiming for being back on the 170kg deadlift 1x8 for mid-August which is helping my mood though.

Been a lot better the last couple of days, trying to just take it easy, eat well and basically do what I want. Which seems to be lots of sitting around after work reading and watching gooseberry fool tv but that’s fine.

170kg is fantasy land for me. Best I ever did was 155kg and these days I'm down to 100kg.

Glad to hear you're feeling better.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Jazzem » Thu Jul 25, 2019 8:25 pm

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Rocsteady wrote:Has anyone called Samaritans before? I feel like I’m reaching breaking point, the last few days I keep crying and am actively having to stop me chucking myself off the balcony. Thankfully my new flat's only two floors up so I probably won’t do it as I’d just shatter my legs.


Yes, several times, mostly when I've been suicidal but also when I've "just" been really low and felt I didn't want to burden anyone. All but one of the people I spoke to was great (and the one that wasn't great wasn't awful). They'll stay on the line as long as you need and even offered me a callback the following day (a different person but still it was nice that someone touched base with me). I'd definitely do it, it was a life line for me while I was waiting for other things to be put in places.

I will say the first call was a little...awkward I guess. I didn't know what to expect or what to say but the woman on the phone was great. It might also be worth checking your local Samaritans (if you have one). The one in my town had a drop in centre (I'm not sure if they still do).

I can honestly say they are one of reasons I am still alive today.


They have a texting service too: 07725 909090

Though they don't advertise it due to lack of resources:

It is currently possible to contact us via text, but we only run this service in a limited and targeted way.

Right now, we’re still developing this service and because of this we’re unable to advertise the number nationally.

We're still here to listen, any time, day or night.

If you'd prefer to write down your thoughts you can email or write us a letter. For a fast response, it's best you call us. You can also talk to a Samaritan in person at your local branch.


Can take up to a couple of hours to get a response but I usually get one sooner than that. It's been a great help as someone who struggles to do a phone call at such times. Quite nice to know I'll have a message of support in the morning too if I send something right before sleep

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Thu Jul 25, 2019 11:16 pm

I called the Samaritans after having an anxiety attack because I was treated like gooseberry fool by an EDF manager who didn't believe I was too ill to sort out a contract with them (I got shafted with Deemed Tariff rates in the meantime and charged something like £400 for 7 weeks of energy in a 2 bed, and I'm really poor), and manage stuff like that and basically called me a liar. They were a bit like, "This is more for people who are dying y'know" which was a bit gooseberry fool, but it was still helpful. I guess it's random who you get on the other end of the line.

As for this topic being public, yeah, it may be awkward, but I know for a fact people Google this thread because there are very likely people out there with similar interests and problems of their own who just read it because then they know they're not the only one feeling that way. And it's mostly dudes here, and there's a huge problem will male depression and no-one talking about it.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Outrunner » Sat Aug 03, 2019 9:54 pm

Problems with a manager at work have resulted in me self-harming for the first time in years. When I haven't been able to sleep I've also been idly wondering what would be the best way to die. These were supposed to be a relaxed last two months at work before sidelining into just doing Saturday shifts and starting university at the end of September. What's supposed to be an exciting (if nervous) time for me has turned into an anxiety ridden nightmare.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Fade » Sun Aug 11, 2019 10:35 am



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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Fade » Sun Aug 11, 2019 10:38 am

Outrunner wrote:Problems with a manager at work have resulted in me self-harming for the first time in years. When I haven't been able to sleep I've also been idly wondering what would be the best way to die. These were supposed to be a relaxed last two months at work before sidelining into just doing Saturday shifts and starting university at the end of September. What's supposed to be an exciting (if nervous) time for me has turned into an anxiety ridden nightmare.

Dude your mental health is more important than a job, you either need to report him to HR or start looking for another job.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Outrunner » Thu Aug 15, 2019 10:24 am

Fade wrote:
Outrunner wrote:Problems with a manager at work have resulted in me self-harming for the first time in years. When I haven't been able to sleep I've also been idly wondering what would be the best way to die. These were supposed to be a relaxed last two months at work before sidelining into just doing Saturday shifts and starting university at the end of September. What's supposed to be an exciting (if nervous) time for me has turned into an anxiety ridden nightmare.

Dude your mental health is more important than a job, you either need to report him to HR or start looking for another job.


Yeah, I've been off for a week and decided to take the plunge. I'm going to university at the end of September, between my maintenance loan and the bursaries the university will be giving me I'll be about £1500 a year down on what I currently earn. I'm going to try and get a different part time job. I can't be arsed fighting over what amounts to one 4 hour shift a week. I think the biggest wrench will be leaving all my friends at work (which is the reasons I stayed there for so long, they have been my support network for years).

Even though I am leaving I am still filing a complaint against her over bullying and will be taking full advantage of my exit interview.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Thu Aug 15, 2019 9:05 pm

I kind of got an exit interview speaking to assistant head of HR years after I was unfairly dismissed from an employment via "edging out" on zero hours contract (someone else took over my job). It did feel better following it up even long after because you still suffer trauma. My manager was an asshole who once actually asked me after months of shitty treatment and myself explaining some of my issues, "Are you depressed?" to which I answered nonchalantly "Yes." Not sure he knew what to do. Well stop cornering me and giving me bollocking because of gooseberry fool I have no resources to solve. And bring back the original 5 or so members of staff instead of just me. That was after another bollocking so hopefully he finally realised what he was doing to me.

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