Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

Mini E wrote:Yeah I'll bet -- is there not any way you can sorta get 4 or 5 days away just to re-charge? I don't know what your situation work-wise is or anything but there's not like.. a work trip or training trip or anything at all you can go on just to get a bit of momentum going again when you come back?

Nah can't really get away. I went out with mates Saturday night and they had relationship problems so we just spoke of that all night then came home to my wife freaking out as she couldn't stand being on her own for one night so anymore than one night right now would be bad.

But I'm sure things will be better in a few weeks once we start moving into our new home etc.

suzzopher wrote:

Mini E wrote:Yeah I'll bet -- is there not any way you can sorta get 4 or 5 days away just to re-charge? I don't know what your situation work-wise is or anything but there's not like.. a work trip or training trip or anything at all you can go on just to get a bit of momentum going again when you come back?

Nah can't really get away. I went out with mates Saturday night and they had relationship problems so we just spoke of that all night then came home to my wife freaking out as she couldn't stand being on her own for one night so anymore than one night right now would be bad.

But I'm sure things will be better in a few weeks once we start moving into our new home etc.

What if we made a giant Suzzopher made out of purely weetabix, that we taught to care for you wife.

When we're done we could destroy it using warm milk.

I am slightly drunk.

aaronayl1 wrote:

suzzopher wrote:

Mini E wrote:Yeah I'll bet -- is there not any way you can sorta get 4 or 5 days away just to re-charge? I don't know what your situation work-wise is or anything but there's not like.. a work trip or training trip or anything at all you can go on just to get a bit of momentum going again when you come back?

Nah can't really get away. I went out with mates Saturday night and they had relationship problems so we just spoke of that all night then came home to my wife freaking out as she couldn't stand being on her own for one night so anymore than one night right now would be bad.

But I'm sure things will be better in a few weeks once we start moving into our new home etc.

What if we made a giant Suzzopher made out of purely weetabix, that we taught to care for you wife.

When we're done we could destroy it using warm milk.

I am slightly drunk.

You can't destroy Wetabix with liquid it makes it stronger and able stick to anything. We could use Wetabix to seal the Blackhole problem?

You have my sympathies, Suzz. I can't imagine how hard that must be on you. I reckon it'd tear me to shreds.

Tragic Magic wrote:You have my sympathies, Suzz. I can't imagine how hard that must be on you. I reckon it'd tear me to shreds.

I don't think so mate. You just deal with it because you have to and after a while you just get used to it. Just sometimes it can get a bit rough when I have my own problems on top of it all.

After my dad died nearly two years ago I never sought any help and thought I could get by but recently I have been suffering from grief yet I have no time to deal with it right now so surpress I must.

You're doing great, suzz. It's clear you love your wife to bits. Just think about that whenever it gets rough, and don't worry about letting your feelings out on here. Sometimes it's easier that way. It's easier to type out how you're feeling rather than say it. I know I feel that way about my problems.

Hope things get better, fella. It's clear you're both trying hard in your own way. If you stick together, I'm sure you'll get through it.

Cheers Chris. The wife and I are a team and will get through it, just sometimes it's easy to lose sight of that.

Anung Un Rama wrote:I need to go to hospital with my gran now, why does all the ******* **** have to happen to me....

Oh no mate. Hope she'll be ok

I used to be depressed a few years ago, even got medication for it. I can't think of anything that has changed that really put a stop to it; it was just that eventually I just decided "strawberry float being miserable, I'm going to be happy." After that things became much easier.

Depression is a self-fufilling prophecy because the moment you decide you are depressed in the moment you really become depressed. Being happy is really just a matter of making yourself believe that you are happy.

I'm depressed, my 360 is intermittently giving me the white disc error of doom, and I had to catch the bus this morning because I forgot that my MOT ran out. I felt like such a tramp.

So...does anyone have any advice on how best to broach the subject of depression with friends/family/GP? Even just discussing the possibility that I might be depressed seems...odd, and difficult. Do I just go to my GP and say "Hi, I think I'm depressed", or what?

Genuine advice wanted please, not mocking and insults.

Talking to someone about depression is hard, especially when broaching the matter for the first time as you aren't sure how they will react. The other thing is that trying to talk about it can make you self-conscious and it becomes easy to trivialise it in your own head, the 'I'm making a big deal out of nothing' scenario.

GPs are used to hearing about these kinds of problems but you will know what your regular doctor is like, if they are many different doctors as your surgery make sure you book in with someone you think you will be comfortable talking to. Make a list for yourself of the things you feel are wrong at the moment and of how they are impacting your life, you don't need to take it with you but getting it sorted in your head as to what you want to say will help you ensure you tell the doctor everything you want to. They will be able to offer suggestions but it is also a good idea to have a think about what sort of help you are after. If you are looking for counseling in most cases they will refer you to an organisation who are specialised which may take a few weeks for an appointment to be sorted, your GP will still be happy to see you in the interim if you want to and I'd be surprised if they didn't suggest it anyway.

Lotus wrote:So...does anyone have any advice on how best to broach the subject of depression with friends/family/GP? Even just discussing the possibility that I might be depressed seems...odd, and difficult. Do I just go to my GP and say "Hi, I think I'm depressed", or what?

Genuine advice wanted please, not mocking and insults.

I've been depressed, had OCD and pretty major self esteem issues and saw the GP for each. Explain how you feel and why you feel this way. I went on my own, but it might help going with someone to see the doctor.

One thing I would say is insist on seeking non medical help. They will push some antidepressants, which I found didn't work at all.

For me it was a change of lifestyle, accepting who I was and reading a lot of self help books. It helps having friends who can empathise, but be careful who you speak to.

For me what works is:

Regular Exercise
Reading Self Help Books
Speaking to friends who can empathise
Seeing a psychologist on a regular basis (once a week/ fortnight)
Eating healthily
Getting out there and getting out of my comfort zone.

gamerforever wrote:

Lotus wrote:So...does anyone have any advice on how best to broach the subject of depression with friends/family/GP? Even just discussing the possibility that I might be depressed seems...odd, and difficult. Do I just go to my GP and say "Hi, I think I'm depressed", or what?

Genuine advice wanted please, not mocking and insults.

I've been depressed, had OCD and pretty major self esteem issues and saw the GP for each. Explain how you feel and why you feel this way. I went on my own, but it might help going with someone to see the doctor.

One thing I would say is insist on seeking non medical help. They will push some antidepressants, which I found didn't work at all.

For me it was a change of lifestyle, accepting who I was and reading a lot of self help books. It helps having friends who can empathise, but be careful who you speak to.

For me what works is:

Regular Exercise
Reading Self Help Books
Speaking to friends who can empathise
Seeing a psychologist on a regular basis (once a week/ fortnight)
Eating healthily
Getting out there and getting out of my comfort zone.

I say the ones in bold are the most important. My brother is currently under some anti depressant pills, and he is just so different. Unless strictly ordered always try the non medical route.

As for how to go about it, just go to your regular GP and tell him how you feel, he will then direct you to someone else.

As for the regulare exercise, I think that is one of the most recommended things to combat depression or depression symptoms, as it allows to get stuff out of your mind at least for that or so of regular activity.

Still, I think everyone knows better than to ask for medical advice on a forum...

I was once depressed then strawberry floated a chick in the ass. All went away.

DBlock, you are a king amongst men. Never forget that.

Lotus wrote:So...does anyone have any advice on how best to broach the subject of depression with friends/family/GP? Even just discussing the possibility that I might be depressed seems...odd, and difficult. Do I just go to my GP and say "Hi, I think I'm depressed", or what?

Genuine advice wanted please, not mocking and insults.

I did exactly this a few months ago - I've been feeling really down for a while for various different reasons and I have nobody to really talk to about it - trust issues are a pretty major thing for me right now. I've been referred to get a proper diagnosis and am now waiting on an appointment. I think it's quite a long process but as others have said, it's worthy. To echo others, if you can avoid anti-depressants then do so, I've never met anyone who had a good experience on them or with people who were on them and my family's experiences are likewise.

Thanks for the replies so far, Dblock aside.

Exercise, eating well and seeing friends all sound good, and I have been neglecting those. Time to get down to my GP, I think. *deep breath*

Lotus wrote:Thanks for the replies so far, Dblock aside.

Exercise, eating well and seeing friends all sound good, and I have been neglecting those. Time to get down to my GP, I think. *deep breath*

Oh ok .

Just trying to help. Sex is the best medicine for depression believe me.

Dblock wrote:Sex is the best medicine for depression believe me.

You must be suicidal then.

I know it's so tough when you're in it, but what it's all about it learning how to deal with it. I don't think depression can be cured, you will fall in and out of depression throughout your life, but when you learn how to cope it becomes easier and eventually a part of your life.

Doing something about it is the main thing. Life is too short, we are meant to be happy and do things!

Sex is good for self esteem, but won't cure depression.