Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

What is it in particular that's been taking a toll on you? I've been getting really bad myself lately, the lack of real contact with other people is making me feel increasingly isolated and lonely. Is there anything we can do to help?

I recall you had some intervention a while back? do you still have any crisis numbers or support workers?

my nurse has been in touch with me making sure Im alright and giving me support numbers and stuff, doesnt make any physical change but nice to hear from someone at least

It's the isolation. I live alone, aside from video chat/online lectures I don't see anyone. Online lectures are fine, they give me structure but are obviously impersonal. Video chat is fine. But then everyone I'm chatting with is living with someone, I can see families and stuff in the background and it just reminds me how alone I am. And then the video chat ends and it's somehow all worse because I'm back to being alone.

The local RSPCA has reopened pet adoptions (obviously taking into account social distancing to some degree) and I'm so tempted to get a dog. But then I realise it's an extremely selfish, self-centred thing to do. I'm lonely, get a dog! Once this has all blown over I'll be back at uni (in the autumn) and I may be studying over in Japan for a year. Yes my parents could look after a dog during this time but it doesn't seem fair on the dog or my parents.

I was assigned a mental health nurse a few years ago but was deemed well enough not to need further support a while back. So I have my GP and any counselling I can scrape together but since it's always CBT they push me towards and I don't find that helpful I tend not to bother.

I'm not sure what would help to be honest. A dog. Or a holiday. Or seeing my family. But they aren't on the cards. I may be feeling low but I'm not going to put my family at risk. I'm sure I'll be fine but I'm not sure how to snap out of it in the here and now.

I'm supposed to be doing this online "silver cloud" CBT thing with "limited clinical support" whatever that means. It's better than nothing but my family is helping with counselling, I have ASD specific counselling as well, I haven't met them yet.

That it takes 4 entire months to get anything in place is absurd but I hope it helps. I may or not report back.

Outrunner wrote:It's the isolation. I live alone, aside from video chat/online lectures I don't see anyone. Online lectures are fine, they give me structure but are obviously impersonal. Video chat is fine. But then everyone I'm chatting with is living with someone, I can see families and stuff in the background and it just reminds me how alone I am. And then the video chat ends and it's somehow all worse because I'm back to being alone.

The local RSPCA has reopened pet adoptions (obviously taking into account social distancing to some degree) and I'm so tempted to get a dog. But then I realise it's an extremely selfish, self-centred thing to do. I'm lonely, get a dog! Once this has all blown over I'll be back at uni (in the autumn) and I may be studying over in Japan for a year. Yes my parents could look after a dog during this time but it doesn't seem fair on the dog or my parents.

I was assigned a mental health nurse a few years ago but was deemed well enough not to need further support a while back. So I have my GP and any counselling I can scrape together but since it's always CBT they push me towards and I don't find that helpful I tend not to bother.

I'm not sure what would help to be honest. A dog. Or a holiday. Or seeing my family. But they aren't on the cards. I may be feeling low but I'm not going to put my family at risk. I'm sure I'll be fine but I'm not sure how to snap out of it in the here and now.

My advice? Get the dog, don't worry about the future until it's here. The dog could make you feel considerably better these next few months? So buy yourself a friend.

Curls wrote:My advice? Get the dog, don't worry about the future until it's here. The dog could make you feel considerably better these next few months? So buy yourself a friend.

Thanks, I'll have another look on the website and give it some thought.

Also sorry for the self-pitying post. I'm still not feeling great but better than I was, I think I needed to vent but I know some people here are suffering more than I am so sorry for going a bit OTT.

No need for apologies, Outrunner.

I’m starting to struggle with this lockdown now, at first it was a novelty and felt fine but now it feels like it’s never going to end and I have a weird ‘claustrophobic’ feeling.

I go for a long walk every day to help clear my head but it’s now starting to effect my working from home (can’t focus on anything) and I just feel really lethargic all the time.

I had just started dating a really nice girl before this all started, we are virtual dating once a week but it’s not the same. I’m worried it will lead to things fizzling out.

I miss going to the gym, I was doing really well and put on a lot of size but I’ve dropped a stone in the last 6 weeks and that makes me feel gooseberry fool too.

Sorry, just needed to vent, I really hope this ends soon.

ITSMILNER wrote:I’m starting to struggle with this lockdown now, at first it was a novelty and felt fine but now it feels like it’s never going to end and I have a weird ‘claustrophobic’ feeling.

I go for a long walk every day to help clear my head but it’s now starting to effect my working from home (can’t focus on anything) and I just feel really lethargic all the time.

I had just started dating a really nice girl before this all started, we are virtual dating once a week but it’s not the same. I’m worried it will lead to things fizzling out.

I miss going to the gym, I was doing really well and put on a lot of size but I’ve dropped a stone in the last 6 weeks and that makes me feel gooseberry fool too.

Sorry, just needed to vent, I really hope this ends soon.

No need to apologise! Hope typing it out helped somewhat.

Re: the girl - I'd recommend you talk to her that you're worried about things fizzling out because of the lockdown (and that those worries come from the fact you like her and don't want them to fizzle out.). I'm sure she'll feel the same and will reassure you that she still wants to hang after this is done. I mean, it's not like she's able to do other stuff that will potentially turn her away from you in this timeframe, eh?

Anywho, this is my go to advice these days for everyone, so sorry if I sound like a broken record, but I'd thoroughly recommend looking into meditation! It's really helped make my life an easier place to live in for the past year or so I've been doing it seriously.

This post from the "quitting weed" subreddit (of all places) is what helped me get into it, and I'd recommend the book "meditation for fidgety skeptics" as further reading if you did fancy getting a bit more into it.

ITSMILNER wrote:Sorry, just needed to vent, I really hope this ends soon.

Don't apologise, this thread is here to help us vent when we need to.

I know how you're feeling too, i haven't been able to meet up with friends since early march now, and the isolation really does start messing with your head.

Hang in there, hopefully it won't be for too much longer.

ITSMILNER wrote:I’m starting to struggle with this lockdown now, at first it was a novelty and felt fine but now it feels like it’s never going to end and I have a weird ‘claustrophobic’ feeling.

I go for a long walk every day to help clear my head but it’s now starting to effect my working from home (can’t focus on anything) and I just feel really lethargic all the time.

I had just started dating a really nice girl before this all started, we are virtual dating once a week but it’s not the same. I’m worried it will lead to things fizzling out.

I miss going to the gym, I was doing really well and put on a lot of size but I’ve dropped a stone in the last 6 weeks and that makes me feel gooseberry fool too.

Sorry, just needed to vent, I really hope this ends soon.

Re the gym, have you had a look in the fitness thread? Theres a bunch of pretty effective home workouts in there.

been dreaming about merking myself again

very weird experience to actually have that kind of gooseberry fool in your dreams

I am having mild anger issues, with the clapping and VE day and everyone trying to have this happy sort of attitude, I'm pissed off and mad and find the fake happiness annoying and just want to go do you realise how many people have died, how many people are suffering stop it with the happy hour BS.....

Maybe some of it's a bit of my PTSD rearing it's head again.

kerr9000 wrote:I am having mild anger issues, with the clapping and VE day and everyone trying to have this happy sort of attitude, I'm pissed off and mad and find the fake happiness annoying and just want to go do you realise how many people have died, how many people are suffering stop it with the happy hour BS.....

Maybe some of it's a bit of my PTSD rearing it's head again.

I feel exactly the same way mate. I've just had enough now.

kerr9000 wrote:I am having mild anger issues, with the clapping and VE day and everyone trying to have this happy sort of attitude, I'm pissed off and mad and find the fake happiness annoying and just want to go do you realise how many people have died, how many people are suffering stop it with the happy hour BS.....

Maybe some of it's a bit of my PTSD rearing it's head again.

Meanwhile, I don't deny others happiness just because I deny it to myself.

Dual wrote:

kerr9000 wrote:I am having mild anger issues, with the clapping and VE day and everyone trying to have this happy sort of attitude, I'm pissed off and mad and find the fake happiness annoying and just want to go do you realise how many people have died, how many people are suffering stop it with the happy hour BS.....

Maybe some of it's a bit of my PTSD rearing it's head again.

I feel exactly the same way mate. I've just had enough now.

Thanks chap I'm glad someone else gets it.

And Somebody I don't have an issue with real happiness it's all the false rubbish people smiling and going oh isent Boris doing such a good job , look at everyone clapping this lovlyness will continue forever past the virus, no it won't 99 percent of people will be wishing each other dead the second this is over, you can smell the fake over the real it's sickening..... Real happiness is lovely to see.

kerr9000 wrote:

Dual wrote:

kerr9000 wrote:I am having mild anger issues, with the clapping and VE day and everyone trying to have this happy sort of attitude, I'm pissed off and mad and find the fake happiness annoying and just want to go do you realise how many people have died, how many people are suffering stop it with the happy hour BS.....

Maybe some of it's a bit of my PTSD rearing it's head again.

I feel exactly the same way mate. I've just had enough now.

Thanks chap I'm glad someone else gets it.

And Somebody I don't have an issue with real happiness it's all the false rubbish people smiling and going oh isent Boris doing such a good job , look at everyone clapping this lovlyness will continue forever past the virus, no it won't 99 percent of people will be wishing each other dead the second this is over, you can smell the fake over the real it's sickening..... Real happiness is lovely to see.

I think you're making assumptions and projecting your own anger on people. You've taken people celebrating VE day as a sign that people support Boris, when in fact they are two completely separate things.

Somebody Else's Problem wrote:

kerr9000 wrote:

Dual wrote:

kerr9000 wrote:I am having mild anger issues, with the clapping and VE day and everyone trying to have this happy sort of attitude, I'm pissed off and mad and find the fake happiness annoying and just want to go do you realise how many people have died, how many people are suffering stop it with the happy hour BS.....

Maybe some of it's a bit of my PTSD rearing it's head again.

I feel exactly the same way mate. I've just had enough now.

Thanks chap I'm glad someone else gets it.

And Somebody I don't have an issue with real happiness it's all the false rubbish people smiling and going oh isent Boris doing such a good job , look at everyone clapping this lovlyness will continue forever past the virus, no it won't 99 percent of people will be wishing each other dead the second this is over, you can smell the fake over the real it's sickening..... Real happiness is lovely to see.

I think you're making assumptions and projecting your own anger on people. You've taken people celebrating VE day as a sign that people support Boris, when in fact they are two completely separate things.

Just let him be pissed off bro.

Dual wrote:

Somebody Else's Problem wrote:

kerr9000 wrote:

Dual wrote:

kerr9000 wrote:I am having mild anger issues, with the clapping and VE day and everyone trying to have this happy sort of attitude, I'm pissed off and mad and find the fake happiness annoying and just want to go do you realise how many people have died, how many people are suffering stop it with the happy hour BS.....

Maybe some of it's a bit of my PTSD rearing it's head again.

I feel exactly the same way mate. I've just had enough now.

Thanks chap I'm glad someone else gets it.

And Somebody I don't have an issue with real happiness it's all the false rubbish people smiling and going oh isent Boris doing such a good job , look at everyone clapping this lovlyness will continue forever past the virus, no it won't 99 percent of people will be wishing each other dead the second this is over, you can smell the fake over the real it's sickening..... Real happiness is lovely to see.

I think you're making assumptions and projecting your own anger on people. You've taken people celebrating VE day as a sign that people support Boris, when in fact they are two completely separate things.

Just let him be pissed off bro.

But that doesn't help anyone, and simply exacerbates the problem. Until we can identify and work through what is upsetting us, we cannot hope to defeat it.

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