Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

From my experience the time you wait is wildly different depending on all kinds of things where you live, the issue you have, how bad its perceived you are. When I was waiting for PTSD therapy I was seen by a therapist after two months but he saw me for 5 minutes then said he wouldn't see me, apparently he was a regular therapist and I required a trauma therapist. A friend of mine wanted to transition and saw a therapist after about a month but I've known people who have waited a year.

When I was young it was suggested I was possibly autistic, it was never really pushed though, I was essentially left with a verdict of well you could be, this January it was decided I should see someone about that and be assessed my GP started the ball rolling , apparently I have to wait till October and in October I'll get a letter with an appointment, I went down this alley as I was struggling and thought it would give me some answers and some peace but now it's been so long its kind of not bothering me but I'm still going to see it through cause knowing my luck if I dropped it things would change.

Corazon de Leon

Between raising the possibility with a CBT specialist and actually being finally seen and diagnosed with ADHD and fairly mild anxiety, it took me almost five years. It’s really just a lottery.

kerr9000 wrote: A friend of mine wanted to transition and saw a therapist after about a month but I've known people who have waited a year.

Typical wait time for a GIC appointment is 1-2 years at the moment, which is just terrible really.

I think therapy (of all kinds) should be considered an urgent need, people really do die on the waiting list waiting for mental health support.

Semi related to the above - work are big on helping out with mental health issues, and have introduced metal health first aiders. I was going to volunteer for an open spot but I can't make the set training days (I'm away). Shame as I thought it'd not only be helping people, but also help understand my own issues and those of the people around me.

Ad7 wrote:Semi related to the above - work are big on helping out with mental health issues, and have introduced metal health first aiders. I was going to volunteer for an open spot but I can't make the set training days (I'm away). Shame as I thought it'd not only be helping people, but also help understand my own issues and those of the people around me.

METAL HEALTH!

Hah, my work have mental Health first aiders. The girl who is the first aider here, is also the girl who completely negatively cut me out as a friend when I started suffering with isolation and depression issues... ironic to say the least. Sh probably has a lot of issues herself though, but she's not empathetic that's for sure.

Corazon de Leon

Drumstick wrote:
Ad7 wrote:Semi related to the above - work are big on helping out with mental health issues, and have introduced metal health first aiders. I was going to volunteer for an open spot but I can't make the set training days (I'm away). Shame as I thought it'd not only be helping people, but also help understand my own issues and those of the people around me.

METAL HEALTH!

Post of the day. :lol:

Drumstick wrote:
Ad7 wrote:Semi related to the above - work are big on helping out with mental health issues, and have introduced metal health first aiders. I was going to volunteer for an open spot but I can't make the set training days (I'm away). Shame as I thought it'd not only be helping people, but also help understand my own issues and those of the people around me.

METAL HEALTH!

Brilliant

Alcohol has, unsurprisingly, never been my best friend when it comes to my mental health and while I do enjoy a pint I had cut it right back. Now, however, I will have to kick it altogether as in the last month (after drying out for a couple prior) I think my body is actually rejecting the booze. I can't have so much as a pint without feeling nauseous a short time after or the next day. This has caused me a bit of anxiety which has no doubt prolonged the sense of nausea I get way beyond the initial starting point so yep, I'm done with alcohol. My body says no.

I had a pint of cider last week after not drinking for a year and it felt like I had drunk 5 shots :lol:

Fade wrote:I had a pint of cider last week after not drinking for a year and it felt like I had drunk 5 shots

Friend of mine gave up the booze 13 months ago. He said about half way through the mental stress the drying out process gave him was pretty awful at times.

Fade wrote:I had a pint of cider last week after not drinking for a year and it felt like I had drunk 5 shots

I can definitely understand this. I remember posting on here about the last time I went for drinks. I had three and I had a hangover the next morning. I don't drink much, but still, it shocked me to the core :lol:

kerr9000 wrote:From my experience the time you wait is wildly different depending on all kinds of things where you live, the issue you have, how bad its perceived you are. When I was waiting for PTSD therapy I was seen by a therapist after two months but he saw me for 5 minutes then said he wouldn't see me, apparently he was a regular therapist and I required a trauma therapist. A friend of mine wanted to transition and saw a therapist after about a month but I've known people who have waited a year.

When I was young it was suggested I was possibly autistic, it was never really pushed though, I was essentially left with a verdict of well you could be, this January it was decided I should see someone about that and be assessed my GP started the ball rolling , apparently I have to wait till October and in October I'll get a letter with an appointment, I went down this alley as I was struggling and thought it would give me some answers and some peace but now it's been so long its kind of not bothering me but I'm still going to see it through cause knowing my luck if I dropped it things would change.

I have a similar story. My dad despite being a neurologist/psysiologist professor ignored it up until very recently years after I got my own diagnosis sorted out as I desperately needed help at uni. It did take about a year for me but the stickler was being sent an appointment letter for neurobehavioral clinic with actual relevant professor to look at me, while I was away seeing my grandad with cancer, the letter after waiting years was like "see you next week" subsequently I missed it and 8 years later it's never been followed up. But I still got a diagnosis of ASD along the way from a psychologist doctor, and received various support over the years, it's still a battle though as a lot of places want money. Before that I got an educational psychologist report that said I was 98% likely to be autistic which may have helped the process but it cost £600, we got it down to £420 after saying well it was too much for my mum. That was funny because when I applied for disabled student allowance to get help with my studies they told me no because it had to say I was 100% autistic, not 98% i.e. Partially, it has to be a concrete diagnosis even though the test was the same DSMIV criteria!! Despite the report saying I had about 4 specific learning difficulties (SpLDs, nowadays it is not about fitting a specific diagnostic criteria like dyslexia or dyspraxia for example which are more common but the specific problems within a spectrum, so that was just plain wrong). Consequently I lost about 6-12 months of support I was eligible for and needed. Good luck man it will help you in the long run even if just to understand yourself a bit better and know you are not alone being different. It was more work but it also meant I could claim PIP which is not assessed based on income and can help with things like cost of counselling or seeing a specialist from time to time or just subsiding the income I lose because I cannot hold down a "normal" job in an office etc. (despite trying numerous times and getting no help with that).

at the risk of being really strawberry floating lame, having a really strawberry floating tough time

every single waking moment is filled with negative thoughts and playing and replaying past events, hypothetical future events, impossible scenarios, or staring at the wall

Im supposed to be working and I cant do it

when I go to bed I have even more negative processes and then I dream about breaking up with the ex in all sorts of different ways, OR I dream about us talking and getting on and then I wake up

its not that we are at war or anything but her method of getting past it is to just isolate eachother until she feels better, whereas Im more of a communication based approach

I havent been sending her messages or anything like that, really trying to not bother her or damage her process

we shared essentially all of our friends and only one of them has reached out and spoken to me, the rest have just left me alone

I gave up the house, the furniture, the town, everything except for my clothes and computer and now Im back at square -1 and completely and totally isolated

no real suicidal thoughts or anything but constant ideals of hurting myself in other ways although Im not acting on them

only way I managed to get some rest last night after waking from dreams and then hours of thinking about it was to allow some random voice speaking gibberish into my head and meditating on some weird trippy visuals

tl:dr Im really gay and trapped in a hole having caught feels

You don't have to couch it in language of being lame or gay, when I was at my most 'masculine' of partying and boxing I was near my lowest. Hope you start feeling better soon, you got somewhere to live and that set up?

this has been ongoing for the last couple of weeks

Im currently living and sleeping in a few metre square box room painted pink with princess decals

lad

hell yeah, now whos the big man

princess me, thats who

I can empathise with a lot of that False, especially the endlessly cycling negative thoughts. I can't seem to stop them either of late.

Regarding sleep, I use the Sleep With Me podcast.

https://www.sleepwithmepodcast.com/

I've recommended it to a few friends and they've found it a help too. It's basically a dude talking about nothing in a drony, boring voice for hours. I don't know how it works but I rarely get beyond the intro (so about 15 minutes in) before I'm away.

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