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PostRe: Depression
by Rex Kramer » Tue Jan 10, 2017 3:35 pm

I've no idea how anyone who isn't a manufacturer trained mechanic can look under a bonnet these days and know what is wrong.

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PostRe: Depression
by False » Tue Jan 10, 2017 3:36 pm

I wouldnt worry so much about what defines a man, dude. Manly is as manly does. So you dont know cars, strawberry float it.

Im shite with electrics and have never really done much plumbing ;)

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PostRe: Depression
by more heat than light » Tue Jan 10, 2017 3:41 pm

Cheers guys, I appreciate the reassurance. I'll give it another try tomorrow. :)

jawafour wrote:You definitely have the biggest one, mhtl - it's strawberry-floatin' massive!
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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Tue Jan 10, 2017 4:28 pm

Falsey's Sack wrote:I know where you are coming from, everybody has been in that position.

Know this though, fam, there is no shame in not knowing something. If you dont know and you want to know, ask. Aint nobody born knowing everything, even if they act like they were.

Would you be going to the pros if you knew how to sort it yourself? No. They know this and they know the score. Tell them how it is and if you want more info ask them.

Also, funnily enough, I think you'll find most mechanics (and carpenters) are normal people, just like you are. Their environment and skillset is different to yours, but they arent an alien. Treat them like a human and you'll probably find the courtesy returned.

Really? Because 90% of the ones I worked with were pretty racist, sexist and homophobic. And I worked with them for 12 hours a day over the course of a few weeks. Not saying everyone is like that but it does attract those kind of people. The school's I've volunteered in could not be more different to that.

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PostRe: Depression
by Rocsteady » Tue Jan 10, 2017 5:32 pm

Hm, I think we're treading into some unnecessarily heavy stereotypes here. Sure, plenty of tradesmen are strawberry floating bellends - much like the population as a whole although admittedly probably slightly more likely to be so - but I know plenty of people who work in the trades and are liberally minded.

I do agree with you, though, that expecting men to take on and act up to typical masculinity roles hinders both males and females.

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Tue Jan 10, 2017 6:01 pm

I did say not everyone is like that. There was this lovely eastern European guy there who was basically Lenny from mice and men (but not as stupid). Never said a bad word about anyone and always tried to help me.

I'm just saying it typically attracts 'blokes' who have a higher tendency of not being very 'politically correct'

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PostRe: Depression
by Corazon de Leon » Tue Jan 10, 2017 6:07 pm

By the same token I know and have worked with plenty of PhD candidates who are racist, sexist homophobes( :slol: ). It's an anecdotal thing - you can't tar an entire walk of life, essentially, by a few people you had a bad experience with.

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PostRe: Depression
by Green Gecko » Tue Jan 10, 2017 6:26 pm

I've been a tradesman and an academic and an IT guy and a designer, what say you.

I find it refreshingly easy to get excited about stuff like screwdrivers and the right bit with tradesmen and I'm a massive nerd. Maybe I just act well. The truth is with these guys they are HUGE nerds, it's just a different type of knowledge. I don't really get the idea that tradesmen are generally simple-minded folk out on the bants like, permanently. Sure they make light on things because their job is bloody hard but, ironically, letting your guard down and trying to give less strawberry floats is the key to getting on with them.

If they really are being aggressive dicks then just walk away and they fall flat on their arse, because their "trick" is being a rude banana split. But "they" (I'm not even sure who we're talking about) aren't really like that inside, it's all an act.

Just like how I heard an ex football holligan on the radio the other day, confessing how he never cried and had massive emotional/anger problems until he came to terms with football being a distraction from the real problems. What with football being super manly and all that stuff.

Cars are a similar thing, it's all just externalised gruff macho bollocks - the fact is they are very knowledgeable and I guess the only real trend with manliness/strength/aggression is the fact you need to be quite built and fit to handle heavy tools and parts etc.

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Fri Jan 13, 2017 6:25 pm

God, my strawberry floating depression has hit me hard this last week.

I feel like I'm back where I was before therapy.

Every time I try and talk to someone I feel like a burden to them, even when it's just a casual conversation.

I feel like punching my head when I'm out and about.

I don't start work until 3pm most days but all I've been able to do is sit at home and flick between the same 4 websites for like 5 hours while feeling like crying. Despite wanting to do other things.

I don't know what to do =/

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PostRe: Depress
by still » Fri Jan 13, 2017 11:31 pm

Fade wrote:God, my strawberry floating depression has hit me hard this last week.

I feel like I'm back where I was before therapy.

Every time I try and talk to someone I feel like a burden to them, even when it's just a casual conversation.

I feel like punching my head when I'm out and about.

I don't start work until 3pm most days but all I've been able to do is sit at home and flick between the same 4 websites for like 5 hours while feeling like crying. Despite wanting to do other things.

I don't know what to do =/


I've suffered from anxiety and depression most of my life. But I tend to find that not acting like a self-absorbed twat is helpful. Why on earth do you think anyone would give a gooseberry fool when you act like an arsehole?

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PostRe: Depression
by <]:^D » Sat Jan 14, 2017 2:22 am

wut?

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PostRe: Depression
by more heat than light » Sat Jan 14, 2017 7:09 am

still, I suggest you delete that post and consider your conduct for a while. That kind of abuse, especially in this thread is really quite dangerous.

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Sat Jan 14, 2017 8:59 am

*<]:^D wrote:wut?

He doesn't like my opinion on the Nintendo switch. Wasn't being abusive or rude, just debating about the switch...

Yes really.

Don't worry I'm not taking him seriously, he's acting very over the top for whatever reason.

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PostRe: RE: Re: Depression
by shadow202 » Sat Jan 14, 2017 9:17 am

Fade wrote:
*&lt;]:^D wrote:wut?

He doesn't like my opinion on the Nintendo switch. Wasn't being abusive or rude, just debating about the switch...

Yes really.

Don't worry I'm not taking him seriously, he's acting very over the top for whatever reason.

There's acting over the top and then there's being a complete bellend in a very serious thread where people share details of their mental health issues that can have serious effects and consequences, wouldn't exactly say it's a thread for spilling over petty arguments

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PostRe: Depression
by 1>3>4>2 » Sat Jan 14, 2017 3:43 pm

Jeez Nintendo fanboys get heated.

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PostRe: Depression
by False » Sat Jan 14, 2017 3:57 pm

video games are very serious business

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Sat Jan 14, 2017 4:00 pm

Falsey's Sack wrote:video games are very serious business

Especially Nintendo games. They tackle very serious subjects.

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PostRe: Depression
by jawafour » Sat Jan 14, 2017 4:08 pm

I don't condone still's post... but I think it was a "heat of the moment" thing. still has been a terrific sounding block and point of advice for many people in this thread and I don't recall seeing him post like that before.

Fade, I feel you were acting in a rather annoying manner in the Games threads last evening; provoking people unnecessarily. You admitted as much whilst posting. It was the kind of thing that could (and, sadly, did) get peoples backs up. But, yes, still shouldn't have taken the argument into this thread.

1>3>4>2 wrote:Jeez Nintendo fanboys get heated.

Oh dear.

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PostRe: Depression
by still » Sat Jan 14, 2017 8:09 pm

Thank you Jawa. I agree that I was massively out of order posting what I posted in this thread. I'm not going to delete it - that would just be stupid, I said what I said. But the guy was being a huge prick in the Switch thread for no justifiable reason. Why deliberately set out to spoil other people's fun? What is clever about that? I've said it before, I'll say it again, I do not suffer fools gladly, I know I shouldn't rise and bite but I do. (I did the same with Hugo not long ago. Then you end up in a position, like yesterday/today where you fundamentally agree with someone but can no longer talk to them... Sorry Hugo, agree with you on Switch reveal though not as pessimistic for the medium/long term.) Something to work on I know.... The sad thing is, I try and help people on here going through what I have been through. Fade strikes me as someone who could do with support but if you just set out to wind people up then you're not going to win many friends. I remember once Fade correcting me, wisely, over some aspect of Buddhism. What has become of that wiser person? The funny thing is I'm now being accused of being some sort of rabid Nintendo fan but I'm not! For what it is worth I think the Switch looks like a really excellent system but, there is absolutely no reason to buy it until Mario comes out - I'll be playing Zelda on the WiiU thank you. I agree with much of the negativity swirling around yesterday's reveal. But, trying to be a smartarse about it and just having a go because it's easy and cheap is not the way, not for me anyway. So, in summary I ballsed up, massively, yet again, too much passion, not enough restraint.....

Btw, Chalky's comment did make me laugh, at myself I hasten to add.

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PostRe: Depression
by Fade » Sat Jan 14, 2017 8:16 pm

still wrote:Thank you Jawa. I agree that I was massively out of order posting what I posted in this thread. I'm not going to delete it - that would just be stupid, I said what I said. But the guy was being a huge prick in the Switch thread for no justifiable reason. Why deliberately set out to spoil other people's fun? What is clever about that? I've said it before, I'll say it again, I do not suffer fools gladly, I know I shouldn't rise and bite but I do. Something to work on I know.... The sad thing is, I try and help people on here going through what I have been through. Fade strikes me as someone who could do with support but if you just set out to wind people up then you're not going to win many friends. I remember once Fade correcting me, wisely, over some aspect of Buddhism. What has become of that wiser person? The funny thing is I'm now being accused of being some sort of rabid Nintendo fan but I'm not! For what it is worth I think the Switch looks like a really excellent system but, there is absolutely no reason to buy it until Mario comes out - I'll be playing Zelda on the WiiU thank you. I agree with much of the negativity swirling around yesterday's reveal. But, trying to be a smartarse about it and just having a go because it's easy and cheap is not the way, not for me anyway. So, in summary I ballsed up, yet again, too much passion, not enough restraint.....

Btw, Chalky's comment did make me laugh, at myself I hasten to add.

I want to try and understand you.

What exactly did I say that made you so angry?

Because from my point of view I was disappointed with the console reveal and the decisions they made and as such was tearing the console a new one.
I wasn't trying to spoil anyone's fun, that was just my opinion on the console. If someone defends it I'm going to tell them why I think they are wrong. If you don't like my opinion just set my posts to ignore.

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