Prototype wrote:Fade wrote:You wanna be a stay at home mum? Cool
Come on now, even a cursory social media search would tell you precisely what people think of stay-at-home mums. They are demonised from the off, usually.
Bro tons of people at my work only do school or part time hours and two people on my course don't work because their partners provide for them and they look after the kids. Wanna know how many men I know who do that? I'll give you a guess, it ends with 0
site23 wrote:Loneliness can be crushing. And it's a particularly difficult time to be trans. Given you're transfemme nonbinary, I can certainly understand you thinking, "my life would be easier if I had been born a cis woman," particularly at this moment in time when trans people are being increasingly vilified.
However, you come across as very bitter towards women. I know this thread is to vent, but for a long time there has been a pattern of you coming to this thread and writing about genuinely sympathetic issues which we all relate to and wish you the best about, followed by a line that makes it clear that part of the problem is your own attitude towards women. I'm sure you have received very similar responses to this before as well.
There will be people out there who do perceive you negatively solely because of your gender identity. It's an awful form of bigotry and I'm not trying to minimise that. I have always been a very strong supporter of trans rights and I understand, and am appalled by, the sharply worsening attitudes towards trans people in the UK in particular. Separately to that, I think if you want to make friends with women, then you need to free yourself of this resentment towards them (which even comes across strongly on a text forum, so must be very obvious in real life).
No-one here hates you or wants you to be unhappy. We're trying to give you practical, realistic advice about how to make your life better. I can't say it will fix all of your problems, but I genuinely believe that your circumstances will get at least somewhat better if you don't go around believing and saying weird, ignorant, untrue things like "stay at home mums have it easy" or "all women feel desireable by default" or so on. Try to figure out the reason that you're susceptable to these beliefs, and move past it, so that you can have a healthier attitude moving forward.
Those beliefs come from having deep real conversations with the women on my course as well as listening to the experiences of trans women who have experienced both sides of the coin.
If I come across bitter or resentful it's usually because I comment on the areas in which women have more freedom than me (that I wish I had) and then people usually respond with "but women have issues too" which I'm very well aware of. I'm a trainee therapist of 3 years, if I couldn't empathise with the 75% of the class who is female I would not have got a place this year.
Also bro, all my friends are women. Saw one of them Saturday, seeing another Thursday and another Friday.
I would appreciate it if people clarified things with me rather than jumping to conclusions about me or my life based on some depressed stream of consciousness.