Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Drumstick » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:04 am

What an absolute bellcheese. Smacks of "I've had it worse than you, get over it".

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Karl_ » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:06 am

Ad7 wrote:A while back on here I was feeling really down, and needed to share in this thread about how gooseberry fool I felt my relationship with my friends was, to be met with a particular poster saying something along the lines of, "well if you're as much of a banana split in real life as on here then it's no wonder nobody wants to spend time with you". That was the end of me feeling I could come in and properly get something off my mind, I felt I'd be ridiculed and bullied for doing so. Now a couple of months ago I felt absolutely strawberry floating awful, proper rock bottom. I'd had a dreadful experience one weekend and I couldn't stop thinking about it, having harmful thoughts, but because of that post, I didn't say anything detailed about it, so I bottled it up.


Hey mate, just wanted to say please please do use this thread if you ever feel it would help. I had a little look and unfortunately can't find the post you referred to (I wanted to tell them off), but anyone who reacted that way to you using this thread owes you an apology imo.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Corazon de Leon » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:13 am

It’s frustrating because that series of posts shows that it’s entirely possible to have suffered from severe mental health issues and still not have a scooby how to deal with others who have significant issues. It is genuinely great that you were able to stop caring and move on - not everyone else has the power to do that. It’s part of the problem.

What a word bellcheese is, by the way. :lol:

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Victor Mildew » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:20 am

@Karl - Thanks, but don't worry about it. No point in going ewetree and dragging it up, it'll only bring gooseberry fool for both parties.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by False » Thu Sep 12, 2019 9:32 am

this thread transcends grudges and wankstains (even you, ad)

come in here and get the good gooseberry fool from your pals, because we are all pals in the end, thats why we share this knee high paddling pool and argue about whos mum bought us the best comic

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Thu Sep 12, 2019 2:54 pm

Sonic the comic! Marvel wankers!

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tragic Magic » Thu Sep 12, 2019 6:04 pm

Thanks Fade and False, just snipping because I sound like a loon :fp:

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Fade » Thu Sep 12, 2019 6:12 pm

If you feel that way why not jump in the deep end and work abroad, somewhere you've never worked before?

Speaking of dizzy turns, had anyone ever had it where they start to feel nauseous, and then their hands and face go all fuzzy, like pins and needles without the numbness, and there's a slight rumbling then your hands just feel really tense.

It's only happened to me twice, like a year apart, but every time it happens it scares the gooseberry fool out of me.

I'm assuming it's something anxiety related but both times I've been relatively calm beforehand.

Btw I've recently joined a discord server linked through Reddit called gamers fighting depression, it's really nice, I'd advise anyone struggling to search it out.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by False » Thu Sep 12, 2019 6:13 pm

the monotony of every day life gets us all, but there is so much out there to experience you can never ever do it all

rinse and repeat is just about all of us, we all have to work and clean and cook and work and clean and cook... but use the spaces in the middle to experience gooseberry fool you havent experienced yet - even if thats going to the nearest town without an agenda and walking into the first interesting place you see

fwiw I wouldnt recommend binning it all and becoming a sherpa in nepal or something

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Curls » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:33 pm

Really not nice to see that post from still. I'm really starting to become quite intrigued by mental health now, I've been meditating nearly every day and I think it's helping. I don't know, maybe it's a placebo. But I realise I've spoken to so many friends who have suffered from depression and not really been a good friend to them. Sure I've visited and reached out with the occasionalll text message, but I've also given up at times on inviting them out or sending texts because I knew they'd say no.

I think I've been lucky in I've never truly suffered with depression (at least medically), but I also realise my mind is one huge anxiety filled overthinking ballbag and my mindset to almost everything I am starting to question a little, not in a negative way, but with some patience.

I want to try to understand myself and my friends who are suffering more, I want someone who is having a down day with mental health to be treated the same way and looked after the same as someone who has the flu. But it can be hidden so well.
Places like this forum chat are a sanctuary and you all are so kind to one another with the chat you give and the advice you have, it's human beings at their best and you should all be proud of yourselves for looking after one another.

' Still' may one day need a friend to talk to about his depression in here and i am sure TAF or anyone else here would reach out even after he's just been a complete twonk.

Keep it up fellas I'll always try to help out too when I feel my words are profitable.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Outrunner » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:47 pm

Karl_ wrote:
Outrunner wrote:Is it ok to post positive news in here? (I've probably phrased that badly). I making some positive changes but don't want to come across as gloating in a thread where people are struggling and supporting each other. I guess I don't want to upset people or seem unsupportive. Or am I overthinking things?

I definitely want to hear your positive story Outrunner. This thread is all about mutual support and being able to see when people are on-the-up is an important part of that! :D


Thanks guys.

Things are going well for me right now, mainly thanks to me finally taking the plunge and going to university. I've been down this road a few times, not specifically university but looking at making changes and then backing out of it because I was too scared. So scared of failing that I kept backing out and stayed trapped in a job that was harming my mental health. To be clear, my colleagues, friends and line manager were amazing and super supportive. Upper management and the department as a whole? Not so much.

I've been shocked at how on the ball the university has been in helping me prepare for starting my course, probably because I work for an organisation the considers communication to be an afterthought. And the support I've already received and will be receiving has been leaps and bounds above what I've officially been receiving from work (again I need to stress my colleagues, friends and line manager have been brilliant).

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't scared, I'm really nervous. I've been having doubts too, am I doing the right thing leaving employment (partially) to study? Should I have picked a more "sensible" degree? But I'm managing to keep the worst of these thoughts at bay. Knowing I already have so much support set up already is a big factor in this. I'm not sure what the future holds and there are definitely things about my mental health I need to work on. But for the first time in a long time I'm feeling positive about an aspect of my life. And looking back, while I've mostly been doing ok for a while now I have definitely been going just day to day, now I have big changes coming and (nebulous) plans for the future. And it feels good.

I know some of you guys are really struggling right now and I know how hard it can be. Remember you've always got a place here. I might not post as frequently as I'd like (I need to remedy that, this is a great community) but I am thinking of you guys and genuinely hope you'll be seeing better days soon

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tafdolphin » Thu Sep 12, 2019 8:50 pm

That's excellent Outrunner, congrats!

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Karl_ » Thu Sep 12, 2019 9:12 pm

Genuinely chuffed for you Outrunner, well done mate.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by kerr9000 » Fri Sep 13, 2019 5:35 am

A bit full of excess tension today, got threatened by an absolute dick yesterday who then went on to threaten workers in the shop I was in, it really got my flight or flight responses going and in honesty part of my brain was just screaming knock him out. I managed to stay calm and I just stayed there till he left as there was no way I was going to let him assault the people working there , luckily all he did was mouth off, they called the police and he left. Its left me with a sort of anxiety energy and anger though. I thought I'd share this partly to get it off my chest and also as I'm sure I'm not the only one who deals with sort of angry anxiety at times.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Gemini73 » Fri Sep 13, 2019 12:55 pm

Outrunner wrote:
Karl_ wrote:
Outrunner wrote:Is it ok to post positive news in here? (I've probably phrased that badly). I making some positive changes but don't want to come across as gloating in a thread where people are struggling and supporting each other. I guess I don't want to upset people or seem unsupportive. Or am I overthinking things?

I definitely want to hear your positive story Outrunner. This thread is all about mutual support and being able to see when people are on-the-up is an important part of that! :D


Thanks guys.

Things are going well for me right now, mainly thanks to me finally taking the plunge and going to university. I've been down this road a few times, not specifically university but looking at making changes and then backing out of it because I was too scared. So scared of failing that I kept backing out and stayed trapped in a job that was harming my mental health. To be clear, my colleagues, friends and line manager were amazing and super supportive. Upper management and the department as a whole? Not so much.

I've been shocked at how on the ball the university has been in helping me prepare for starting my course, probably because I work for an organisation the considers communication to be an afterthought. And the support I've already received and will be receiving has been leaps and bounds above what I've officially been receiving from work (again I need to stress my colleagues, friends and line manager have been brilliant).

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't scared, I'm really nervous. I've been having doubts too, am I doing the right thing leaving employment (partially) to study? Should I have picked a more "sensible" degree? But I'm managing to keep the worst of these thoughts at bay. Knowing I already have so much support set up already is a big factor in this. I'm not sure what the future holds and there are definitely things about my mental health I need to work on. But for the first time in a long time I'm feeling positive about an aspect of my life. And looking back, while I've mostly been doing ok for a while now I have definitely been going just day to day, now I have big changes coming and (nebulous) plans for the future. And it feels good.

I know some of you guys are really struggling right now and I know how hard it can be. Remember you've always got a place here. I might not post as frequently as I'd like (I need to remedy that, this is a great community) but I am thinking of you guys and genuinely hope you'll be seeing better days soon


Nice one, mate. Knock the ball out the park at Uni.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Green Gecko » Fri Sep 13, 2019 4:27 pm

kerr9000 wrote:A bit full of excess tension today, got threatened by an absolute dick yesterday who then went on to threaten workers in the shop I was in, it really got my flight or flight responses going and in honesty part of my brain was just screaming knock him out. I managed to stay calm and I just stayed there till he left as there was no way I was going to let him assault the people working there , luckily all he did was mouth off, they called the police and he left. Its left me with a sort of anxiety energy and anger though. I thought I'd share this partly to get it off my chest and also as I'm sure I'm not the only one who deals with sort of angry anxiety at times.

Sorry to hear that. I had a similar experience in store except it was a member of staff threatening me! I had to go to a nearby play field and broken down to cry with my partner :/

Some people just shouldn't be allowed out in public nevermind put in a position of customer care!

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tafdolphin » Tue Sep 17, 2019 5:00 pm

Big old brain dump below:

I'm back at my parents for a few weeks. It was something both me and my wife thought might be good for both of us as we're constantly under each other's feet at home and I needed some breathing space. Got home late last night and, tired and responding to queries, ended up just unloading all my current worries on my mum and dad, thoroughly freaking them out in the process. It was half cathartic and half depressing as I realised just how lost I am.

My life in France isn't working. There are zero salaried roles available to people with my level of French and due to self-confidence issues far more serious than I previously thought I am unable to effectively pursue freelance writing roles. Every positive step I've made I downplay and handwave as luck or pity and every failure is like a gut punch that lingers. I'v been generally unable to accept the changes that come with French culture and combined with my paranoia about not yet knowing the language this has led to me feeling incredibly isolated. This then cycles back to my self confidence issues and it makes everything worse and worse.

If I would I'd come back here, get a job doing...strawberry floating something and go from there but because of Brexit I can't as I have no idea if my wife could ever join me. But at the same time I can't stay in France with things like they are. I am utterly lost and have no strawberry floating idea what to do or what my future will look like. I'm 35, have no solid career behind me, have never been less financially viable and genuinely can't see any way forward.


So yeah. Not feeling so hot.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Victor Mildew » Tue Sep 17, 2019 5:11 pm

As you're freelance, can you not just get UK based jobs but working out of France?

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Tafdolphin » Tue Sep 17, 2019 5:14 pm

I don't think I worded that bit particularly well: it's my own lack of self confidence, and equally debilitating fear of rejection that's keeping me from even applying to such jobs. We're trying to see if the state will provide a psychiatrist course (as it did for my wife) because at the moment I've no strawberry floating idea how to get past any of these feelings.

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PostRe: Depression, Anxiety, or other Mental Health Conditions
by Victor Mildew » Tue Sep 17, 2019 5:20 pm

Ah I see. Is there someone who could help you find the work? I was always gooseberry fool at getting things myself, or rather looking outside of the circles I knew I'd find freelance work in. My Mrs was great at just finding somewhere I'd not thought of and then I'd have an approach.

You may also find a way in to work by pitching yourself as a France based writer to the US market. They love that French gooseberry fool, just bill yourself as 'Paris based writer' or something and I bet thsst would help.

Confidence is a front anyway. Nobody is really confident, they're just great at making people think they are.

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