Getting a vasectomy

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PostGetting a vasectomy
by Rocsteady » Sat Jan 11, 2020 10:13 am

Has anyone undergone this here?

I’ve been thinking of it lately. I’m in my late 20s and I always thought maybe the desire to have kids would come on but more and more the thought of having a child fills me with utter dread. I’m getting quite paranoid about getting my gf pregnant and we’re not in a country where abortions are available.

There is, of course, the worry that in 5-10 years all of a sudden I’ll get some strong paternal instinct and regret it. Would look into sperm storage to mitigate this but it doesn’t look particularly cheap.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by ianfianf » Sat Jan 11, 2020 10:55 am

Just use protection. You dont seem overly committed one way or another.

I've got a 3 year old and I can tell you that I shat myself when I found out it was happening. Genuinely cant imagine life without her now.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Preezy » Sat Jan 11, 2020 11:04 am

Get your bird to get the coil - they last for 5 years so if after that you still don't want a kid - then think about the snip.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Lagamorph » Sat Jan 11, 2020 11:35 am

Isnt a Vasectomy reversible these days anyway?

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Chocolate-Milk » Sat Jan 11, 2020 11:46 am

Lagamorph wrote:Isnt a Vasectomy reversible these days anyway?

Roughly 60% are reversible, if memory serves.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Dual » Sat Jan 11, 2020 11:51 am

You're too young for the snip.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Moggy » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:10 pm

From your post history it doesn’t sound like you are going to settle down with one woman, so I’m not sure what the point of the snip would be?

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Rocsteady » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:12 pm

Partridge Iciclebubbles wrote:From your post history it doesn’t sound like you are going to settle down with one woman, so I’m not sure what the point of the snip would be?

Surely that would give it more of a point to prevent unplanned pregnancies with brief flings?

I obviously take precautions but mistakes happen.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Moggy » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:13 pm

Rocsteady wrote:
Partridge Iciclebubbles wrote:From your post history it doesn’t sound like you are going to settle down with one woman, so I’m not sure what the point of the snip would be?

Surely that would give it more of a point to prevent unplanned pregnancies with brief flings?

I obviously take precautions but mistakes happen.


If your being careful then mistakes are extremely unlikely to happen.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Parksey » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:16 pm

Yeah, the overwhelmingly obviously advice is what Proto has said - use protection. Save the heavy decision for later, unless you absolutely desperate to be constantly splurging inside her, just use a condom and you five yourself at least the option of having kids. Vasectomies are reversible, but it's not guaranteed, right? Surely it's best to just keep the option available and rubbering up.

Especially as you say you thought the desire would come eventually. Probably best to keep those tubes flowing.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Zilnad » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:48 pm

I don't think you'd even be granted a vasectomy at your age. I once knew a bloke with three kids who was denied the procedure purely because of his age. He was 29.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Rocsteady » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:50 pm

I think it was more the social conditioning of thinking I'd possibly like kids one day rather than any strong internal inclination.

Condoms are gooseberry fool tbh. I mean, I have managed to avoid any serious pregnancy scare for the last 12 years so should theoretically manage another 12 in a similar manner but I felt as though I'm getting to the age where if any child-rearing feelings are going to surface then they should be doing so already.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Rocsteady » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:52 pm

Zilnad wrote:I don't think you'd even be granted a vasectomy at your age. I once knew a bloke with three kids who was denied the procedure purely because of his age. He was 29.

That's ridiculous.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Rocsteady » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:53 pm

Partridge Iciclebubbles wrote:
Rocsteady wrote:
Partridge Iciclebubbles wrote:From your post history it doesn’t sound like you are going to settle down with one woman, so I’m not sure what the point of the snip would be?

Surely that would give it more of a point to prevent unplanned pregnancies with brief flings?

I obviously take precautions but mistakes happen.


If your being careful then mistakes are extremely unlikely to happen.

Condoms have a 98% success rate, realistically that 2% is far from inconsequential.

And actually that's not real world data, real world is 85%

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by RichardUK » Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:54 pm

I would be concerned that if you had it done you could one day meet someone you wanted to settle down with and start a family and it wouldn’t be possible, I am gay so it’s not really an issue for me but just don’t rush into any decisions you may regret in the future

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Return_of_the_STAR » Sat Jan 11, 2020 1:08 pm

I wouldn’t get one done personally. Life can take some drastic unexpected changes, you never know what could happen.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Somebody Else's Problem » Sat Jan 11, 2020 1:10 pm

Lagamorph wrote:Isnt a Vasectomy reversible these days anyway?


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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Dowbocop » Sat Jan 11, 2020 1:28 pm

I had a discussion with my GP yesterday about the old tadpole tie-off. I'm 34 and have a son. My wife only ever wanted one and since having him I've decided I'm done as well! They wouldn't be keen on you having one sure to your age and lack of kids. Reversals aren't very effective and usually aren't on the NHS.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Moggy » Sat Jan 11, 2020 1:35 pm

Rocsteady wrote:
Partridge Iciclebubbles wrote:
Rocsteady wrote:
Partridge Iciclebubbles wrote:From your post history it doesn’t sound like you are going to settle down with one woman, so I’m not sure what the point of the snip would be?

Surely that would give it more of a point to prevent unplanned pregnancies with brief flings?

I obviously take precautions but mistakes happen.


If your being careful then mistakes are extremely unlikely to happen.

Condoms have a 98% success rate, realistically that 2% is far from inconsequential.

And actually that's not real world data, real world is 85%


Rocsteady wrote:
Condoms are gooseberry fool tbh


It sounds more like you hate wearing a condom than some actual concern over a condom failing.

With your history of casual sex, pregnancy will be the least of your worries if you start going bareback.

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PostRe: Getting a vasectomy
by Jenuall » Sat Jan 11, 2020 1:41 pm

Yeah a condom is not just about preventing pregnancy!

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