Zilnad, Cora, posh, Outrunner, Jezo... I too have felt disconnected from my "usual" - or even "traditional" - social circles since Covid first hit (I had also moved to a new area only a few months before the first pandemic lockdown and had been so busy with work I hadn't built up any local contacts before the point came that I legally couldn't see them anyway). Like Qikz says, making friends as an adult is difficult without shared interests. If you're not lucky enough to make friends through work (and in some cases it isn't appropriate to try, depending on your role and position within your organisational hierarchy!) then you basically have to go out and find them. So it's like... dating
but without the romantic element.
This place generally serves as my primary social output, aside from my immediate family. I chat to you lot more than the friends I'd consider to be my closest. Maybe ten years ago, I might have thought that was an odd thing to say. But I'm quite comfortable with it now... to the extent that this page of this thread has made me wonder, why don't
we all just
be friends?I only really keep touch with my IRL friends remotely nowadays - WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, the occasional group Skype call. Very rarely we might arrange to meet in person but inevitably only a small proportion of the group can make it.
Pretty sure we could just replicate that if we wanted to? (Maybe apart from the meeting in person. Unless it turns out we all live closer than we realise) We have the same interests after all. The only thing preventing us from deciding we're
not friends is centuries of social convention.
Am I misreading the mood here? Anyone wanna be friends?