Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 12:50 pm
You lot are moderately more helpful than I expected
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Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 12:50 pm
Don't let your Mrs go on holiday with her friends lest she get \ /'d
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 12:54 pm
Ad7 wrote:Don't let your Mrs go on holiday with her friends lest she get \ /'d
I really want to know what that symbol means
Someone else I know's just broken up - mentioned it a really casual "Oh when you come to the bash next month you can't stay with me, I've moved out and live with parents" type of way.
I NEED MORE DETAILS/GOSSIP!
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 1:03 pm
Tafdolphin wrote:I'm engaged now. Advice?
Hide all of your feelings and never ever let her know what you are really like.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 1:21 pm
Tafdolphin wrote:I'm engaged now. Advice?
Choose a wedding budget then double it. And yes - she will want an expensive dress, even if she denies that she will before viewing them.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 1:46 pm
We just booked the venue and set the date for ours last week. It's still far too relaxed for my liking, though I'm sure it'll kick up a gear or two over the next 12 months.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 1:49 pm
Cheeky Devlin wrote:We just booked the venue and set the date for ours last week. It's still far too relaxed for my liking, though I'm sure it'll kick up a gear or two over the next 12 months.
12 1/2 weeks until mine and still haven't got a photographer or afternoon food sorted
- thankfully PPM can't come so our catering budget has halved.Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 3:08 pm
Mini E wrote:Tafdolphin wrote:I'm engaged now. Advice?
Choose a wedding budget then double it. And yes - she will want an expensive dress, even if she denies that she will before viewing them.
Ha. We're actually having a super quick hitch-up in the local Mayor's office (gratis), strictly parents and required witnesses only. No reception, no catering, just a few words, a song (which I have yet to chose but I'm bouncing between Eye of The Tiger and Africa) and maybe a meal after. We're mainly getting it done so I can stay in the country (if such proof is required after Brexit) and it'll lower her taxes. If anything, she's even less into traditional marriages than me.
My parents though...urgh. I was going to invite my brother via text (we don't get on that well) and they went apoplectic, insisting I send a proper invite. I did one in Paint. They're now kicking off at him because he can't make it, which is fine by me and the soon to be missus. I strawberry floating hate family politics and am legit surprised they're acting like this.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 3:12 pm
Tafdolphin wrote:Mini E wrote:Tafdolphin wrote:I'm engaged now. Advice?
Choose a wedding budget then double it. And yes - she will want an expensive dress, even if she denies that she will before viewing them.
My parents though...urgh. I was going to invite my brother via text (we don't get on that well) and they went apoplectic, insisting I send a proper invite. I did one in paint. They're now kicking off at him because he can't make it, which is fine by me and the soon to be missus. I strawberry floating hate family politics and am legit surprised they're acting like this.
Don't worry - if you haven't got family issues while wedding planning then you're not doing it right. My Father originally refused to accept his invitation because I refused to invite his bitch wife (one of my Mother's friends who he left my Mother for). I have barely spoken to him since Christmas - and my Sister and her husband have recently broken up, and he is still helping us organise the wedding as we're using some land owned by his friend.
Wedding planning and families are great
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 3:16 pm
strawberry float! Well I luckily it's not gotten that bad, but I'll have to call them again soon and am prepared for a 'grow up' monologue on how marriage is sacrosanct and how I should be treating it seriously.
Balls to that. In fact, strawberry float it, I'm having The Man Don't Give A strawberry float by the Super Furry Animals as the closing song.
Balls to that. In fact, strawberry float it, I'm having The Man Don't Give A strawberry float by the Super Furry Animals as the closing song.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 3:32 pm
The family politicking that took place during the planning of our wedding wasn’t even politics. The wife’s parents went into full-on manipulation mode, trying to guilt trip her into having the wedding they wanted us to have, the same behaviour they’d exhibited since I’d known them and only tolerated for my wife’s sake. Some of the lengths they went to and things they did went so far past the line that I had to pay them an unannounced visit by myself, with my wife’s blessing, to inform them in the most politically correct and polite way that their input was no longer appreciated. It also became necessary to straight-up tell them that I would be on their doorstep banging down their door if they persisted to behave in this way and repeatedly upset my wife. That seemed to work and we had no trouble.
However, it’s recently come to light that they have been trying to poison other members of their family against us and have actually tried to persuade the elderly to write us out of their wills. So, in the perhaps not so near future (complicated), I will be paying that visit. Needless to say that we have totally cut them out of our lives, they’ve not seen our daughter and they never will.
However, it’s recently come to light that they have been trying to poison other members of their family against us and have actually tried to persuade the elderly to write us out of their wills. So, in the perhaps not so near future (complicated), I will be paying that visit. Needless to say that we have totally cut them out of our lives, they’ve not seen our daughter and they never will.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 3:33 pm
Oh and by the way, good luck, Taf.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 4:41 pm
Family politics are mental, my side is pretty sedate, my Dad and my Uuncle dont really talk to their older brother but then thats cos hes a dick, theyre civil to each other but not friendly. My wifes family on the other hand is a minefield of broken relationships, sisters who moved to the same town but no longer speak, another one who doesnt talk to half the family, others who dont talk to their Dad, step siblings who dont get on, grandparents who are conniving little gooseberry fools, its like a soap opera sometimes, it really is.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 5:38 pm
My side of the family are in the process of breaking up, moving away and dying. My gfs side dont speak English.
I think if we ever had a wedding it would be a wild ride.
I think if we ever had a wedding it would be a wild ride.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 6:14 pm
Having a dead family and not having to worry about that stuff for our wedding 
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2018 6:40 pm
You're doing it right af. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2018 1:12 am
Can I come to your wedding Ad7?
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2018 6:38 am
Tafdolphin wrote:Mini E wrote:Tafdolphin wrote:I'm engaged now. Advice?
Choose a wedding budget then double it. And yes - she will want an expensive dress, even if she denies that she will before viewing them.
Ha. We're actually having a super quick hitch-up in the local Mayor's office (gratis), strictly parents and required witnesses only. No reception, no catering, just a few words, a song (which I have yet to chose but I'm bouncing between Eye of The Tiger and Africa) and maybe a meal after. We're mainly getting it done so I can stay in the country (if such proof is required after Brexit) and it'll lower her taxes. If anything, she's even less into traditional marriages than me.
My parents though...urgh. I was going to invite my brother via text (we don't get on that well) and they went apoplectic, insisting I send a proper invite. I did one in Paint. They're now kicking off at him because he can't make it, which is fine by me and the soon to be missus. I strawberry floating hate family politics and am legit surprised they're acting like this.
Good stuff Taf.
My first wedding was like that. Registrars office, two witnesses. Off to the pub afterwards for a few drinks then back to the flat. My sister popped over later and we ordered a Chinese takeaway.
I’d phoned up my mum the week before to tell her I was getting married and no one was invited.
Her response
“Who are you marrying?”
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2018 9:23 am
Ad7 wrote:Having a dead family and not having to worry about that stuff for our wedding
Re: Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x
Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2018 1:32 pm
Ah family relationships, the best kind of disaster. My dad's committed some absolutely despicable acts to the family, to the point where I severed ties with him in 2014, took my mum's maiden name as my legal surname and have no real urge to ever have any contact with him.
My brother still is relatively friendly with him, but also doesn't really give a strawberry float if he speaks to him or not. Recently he seems to be trying to build bridges at the behest of his new partner - we both keep getting texts inviting us/our partners to his girlfriend's house to have lunch with her and her young kids. I recently received a text congratulating me on my uni stuff - something that he's never been made aware of and that's only been broadcast on my private social media accounts. I don't know how he knows, probably through my aunt who has stopped interacting with me since I changed my surname(she sees it as an affront to my grandparents I think).
He also keeps posting occasion cards for me, and more recently my mum, through her door when I haven't lived there for three years and he's not supposed to have any contact with her(let alone come to the door and upset the damn dog), it's pure manipulation as far as I'm concerned. The point is coming in the next couple of weeks where I'll need to meet him and tell him to back off, but I don't look forward to that.
Can't say I envy my future kids, who will have a tiny family - will most likely be putting a ring on it at the end of the year, but my GF's family are mostly estranged(and in Brisbane) and obviously I don't speak to my dad, so there's only the two of us, my mum and my brother/his fiancee and their future kids to pick from. I never had much contact with my cousins growing up - the ones who live in this country are all much, much older than I am, almost like additional aunts and uncles, so it was only ever really the two of us. It's tough as well, not having that extended family around.
My brother still is relatively friendly with him, but also doesn't really give a strawberry float if he speaks to him or not. Recently he seems to be trying to build bridges at the behest of his new partner - we both keep getting texts inviting us/our partners to his girlfriend's house to have lunch with her and her young kids. I recently received a text congratulating me on my uni stuff - something that he's never been made aware of and that's only been broadcast on my private social media accounts. I don't know how he knows, probably through my aunt who has stopped interacting with me since I changed my surname(she sees it as an affront to my grandparents I think).
He also keeps posting occasion cards for me, and more recently my mum, through her door when I haven't lived there for three years and he's not supposed to have any contact with her(let alone come to the door and upset the damn dog), it's pure manipulation as far as I'm concerned. The point is coming in the next couple of weeks where I'll need to meet him and tell him to back off, but I don't look forward to that.
Can't say I envy my future kids, who will have a tiny family - will most likely be putting a ring on it at the end of the year, but my GF's family are mostly estranged(and in Brisbane) and obviously I don't speak to my dad, so there's only the two of us, my mum and my brother/his fiancee and their future kids to pick from. I never had much contact with my cousins growing up - the ones who live in this country are all much, much older than I am, almost like additional aunts and uncles, so it was only ever really the two of us. It's tough as well, not having that extended family around.