Relationship Thread V.2 - Canyonero! :x

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by Finiarél » Fri Apr 13, 2018 8:38 pm

KingK wrote:I'm sorry but those of you who choose not to speak with members of your own family don't deserve happiness. Sort yourselves out. You don't know how lucky you are to have a family.

I grew up an only child due to my father dying from cancer a couple of months before, yes before, I was born. My mum has no siblings and my late father's brother lived in Australia. I grew up an only child in a single parent family through no fault of anyone. I yearned for a brother or sister for many years but my mum never met anyone else and it never happened.

I'm now married for over 10 yrs and a father of 2 Boys. My mum is still alive and I speak to her every day. Sure, she annoys me sometime but she's my mum and I'll love her and be there for her until her end. She's in her eighties now.

Embrace your family. No matter what.



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I don't speak to my half sister and I never will. If I ever see my nephew again, well, I don't know what I'd do to be honest. But it won't be good.

Family who are abusive, manipulative and just down right terrible people can get to strawberry float. I've no time for them and I'm happy to be shut of them.

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by PaperMacheMario » Sat Apr 14, 2018 8:23 am

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False wrote:My side of the family are in the process of breaking up, moving away and dying. My gfs side dont speak English.

I think if we ever had a wedding it would be a wild ride.

You’ve been back to her family’s in Poland, right? Any idea what to expect from a Polish wedding? We’re off to one next month where we’ll be the only non-Polish speaking people there, so looking forward to getting targeted with the table vodka or something.


Been there quite a few times.

My girlfriend says of Polish weddings that they are a two day affair where the custom is everyone drinks and eats as much as they please. Its very much on the hosts to ensure every guest is satisfied and plied with goodies.

She is shouting at me now to get ready and make sure you bring some money in a card as a gift as that is the custom. Apparently if its traditional it will be full of games where you have to dance with the bride or whatever. And the bar should all be paid for.

In my personal experience most Polish people Ive encountered have at least a fundamental grasp of English and they always seem to make an effort to be welcoming and get you involved. Friendliness almost bordering on the manic is something I have had a few times.

Yeah, that’s kind of what I’d heard in terms of the two day affair and paid for bar. Thanks for the money in the card tip!

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by Corazon de Leon » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:25 am

KingK wrote:I'm sorry but those of you who choose not to speak with members of your own family don't deserve happiness. Sort yourselves out. You don't know how lucky you are to have a family.

I grew up an only child due to my father dying from cancer a couple of months before, yes before, I was born. My mum has no siblings and my late father's brother lived in Australia. I grew up an only child in a single parent family through no fault of anyone. I yearned for a brother or sister for many years but my mum never met anyone else and it never happened.

I'm now married for over 10 yrs and a father of 2 Boys. My mum is still alive and I speak to her every day. Sure, she annoys me sometime but she's my mum and I'll love her and be there for her until her end. She's in her eighties now.

Embrace your family. No matter what.


I'm genuinely sorry about your dad - no child should have to grow up alone and God knows I'm lucky I had my brother as a kid. I'm glad you have a good relationship with your mum and your kids, and I agree family is an important thing. Contrary to what you seem to think it's not an easy decision to cut a parent out of your life.

I don't really like talking about personal gooseberry fool on here but I'll give you a sanitised run through of some greatest hits, to try and help you understand what kind of choice some of us have to make. Spoilered, so that no-one has to read it if they don't want.

My dad mentally abused my mum. He's lied to my face on several occasions, about a whole range of things from petty to extremely important. I asked him not to lie to me again, and asked him to get treatment for whatever problems he was going through - he told me he was going to see a psychiatrist, gave me weekly treatment reports etc. Turns out they never happened, he might not even have gone once. That was the last straw.

He had multiple affairs. On my brother's first day of high school, he was caught seeing another woman, the same woman he missed my sixteenth birthday to be with. On the day I received my MSc, he asked not to attend in order to see a different other woman(under the guise of a work event), and only did show up - late - when my mum essentially ordered him to be there. He was caught by that woman's husband on the morning of the graduation and nearly beaten up, as I recall we found out.

The poor guy came to my mum's house the next day to tell her what was happening pretty much in tears. I once watched one of the women he messed around turn up at a family dinner and punch him in the face because he'd lied to her as much as he did to us. There's a running joke between me and my brother that we'll probably get a knock on the door one day from a half sibling located anywhere between Glasgow and Blackburn.

He manipulated a lot of my mum's friends away from her, so me and my brother are really her only support network, and have been since I was 14 and he was 9. I've had to watch her depression eat her alive for 14 years - half of my life. My dad has offered no support, no encouragement. He has made little effort to contact me since I changed my name beyond a token text about Blackburn once or twice a year, and a Christmas card which he puts through my mum's door for no other reason than to remind her that he's still nearby, living in the house that she was brought up in, less than two miles away.

And do you know the worst part is that I would certainly have some form of relationship with him, if I ever received any kind of inkling that he cared about something besides himself for a second. But I never have.

I love my mum, and I love my brother. They're my family, and they're the two people I'm closest to in the world outside of my partner and Loki. That will never change. But I was absolutely right to cut my dad out of my life for my continuing mental health and it's not your right to tell me that I don't deserve happiness for prioritising my own health over somebody else's manipulations.

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by more heat than light » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:29 am

My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.

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by Corazon de Leon » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:29 am

False wrote:
PaperMacheMario wrote:
False wrote:My side of the family are in the process of breaking up, moving away and dying. My gfs side dont speak English.

I think if we ever had a wedding it would be a wild ride.

You’ve been back to her family’s in Poland, right? Any idea what to expect from a Polish wedding? We’re off to one next month where we’ll be the only non-Polish speaking people there, so looking forward to getting targeted with the table vodka or something.


Been there quite a few times.

My girlfriend says of Polish weddings that they are a two day affair where the custom is everyone drinks and eats as much as they please. Its very much on the hosts to ensure every guest is satisfied and plied with goodies.

She is shouting at me now to get ready and make sure you bring some money in a card as a gift as that is the custom. Apparently if its traditional it will be full of games where you have to dance with the bride or whatever. And the bar should all be paid for.

In my personal experience most Polish people Ive encountered have at least a fundamental grasp of English and they always seem to make an effort to be welcoming and get you involved. Friendliness almost bordering on the manic is something I have had a few times.


A bloke in my team's brother got married to a Polish woman a few months back. He went over to her small village for the wedding and said everyone was amazing, but he came back absolutely ruined off the unbelievable amounts of free booze. :lol:

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by Squinty » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:38 am

more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


WTF why?

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by Somebody Else's Problem » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:43 am

Squinty wrote:
more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


WTF why?


His cousin wanted to see if his username was accurate.

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by Moggy » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:48 am

more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


You don't deserve happiness. Sort yourself out. You don't know how lucky you are to have a cousin.

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by Victor Mildew » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:48 am

Remember people, NO MATTER WHAT

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by more heat than light » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:49 am

Squinty wrote:
more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


WTF why?


Long story, but we went to a gig and on the drive back he got aggressive with my brother who was driving and started punching him in the back of the head. My bro kicked him out of the car and made him walk home, but as he got out he said "you're going to die tonight". My bro obviously laughed it off, but then we woke up in the early hours of the morning with the house full of smoke. He's broken into our adjoining garage and set it on fire. We all escaped safely but it was pretty scary.

Police were involved but could find no evidence so no case was ever made. He's never admitted it so he's still accepted by our wider family but yeah we don't have anything to do with him. He does have some mental issues but that's hardly an excuse.

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by Victor Mildew » Sat Apr 14, 2018 9:51 am

When KingK gets back from picketing that abortion clinic he's going to be pissed off with these pathetic reasons.

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by more heat than light » Sat Apr 14, 2018 10:03 am

Somebody Else's Problem wrote:
Squinty wrote:
more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


WTF why?


His cousin wanted to see if his username was accurate.


:lol:

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by Corazon de Leon » Sat Apr 14, 2018 10:33 am

more heat than light wrote:
Somebody Else's Problem wrote:
Squinty wrote:
more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


WTF why?


His cousin wanted to see if his username was accurate.


:lol:


Jesus :lol:

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by PaperMacheMario » Sat Apr 14, 2018 10:57 am

Corazon de Leon wrote:
KingK wrote:I'm sorry but those of you who choose not to speak with members of your own family don't deserve happiness. Sort yourselves out. You don't know how lucky you are to have a family.

I grew up an only child due to my father dying from cancer a couple of months before, yes before, I was born. My mum has no siblings and my late father's brother lived in Australia. I grew up an only child in a single parent family through no fault of anyone. I yearned for a brother or sister for many years but my mum never met anyone else and it never happened.

I'm now married for over 10 yrs and a father of 2 Boys. My mum is still alive and I speak to her every day. Sure, she annoys me sometime but she's my mum and I'll love her and be there for her until her end. She's in her eighties now.

Embrace your family. No matter what.


I'm genuinely sorry about your dad - no child should have to grow up alone and God knows I'm lucky I had my brother as a kid. I'm glad you have a good relationship with your mum and your kids, and I agree family is an important thing. Contrary to what you seem to think it's not an easy decision to cut a parent out of your life.

I don't really like talking about personal gooseberry fool on here but I'll give you a sanitised run through of some greatest hits, to try and help you understand what kind of choice some of us have to make. Spoilered, so that no-one has to read it if they don't want.

My dad mentally abused my mum. He's lied to my face on several occasions, about a whole range of things from petty to extremely important. I asked him not to lie to me again, and asked him to get treatment for whatever problems he was going through - he told me he was going to see a psychiatrist, gave me weekly treatment reports etc. Turns out they never happened, he might not even have gone once. That was the last straw.

He had multiple affairs. On my brother's first day of high school, he was caught seeing another woman, the same woman he missed my sixteenth birthday to be with. On the day I received my MSc, he asked not to attend in order to see a different other woman(under the guise of a work event), and only did show up - late - when my mum essentially ordered him to be there. He was caught by that woman's husband on the morning of the graduation and nearly beaten up, as I recall we found out.

The poor guy came to my mum's house the next day to tell her what was happening pretty much in tears. I once watched one of the women he messed around turn up at a family dinner and punch him in the face because he'd lied to her as much as he did to us. There's a running joke between me and my brother that we'll probably get a knock on the door one day from a half sibling located anywhere between Glasgow and Blackburn.

He manipulated a lot of my mum's friends away from her, so me and my brother are really her only support network, and have been since I was 14 and he was 9. I've had to watch her depression eat her alive for 14 years - half of my life. My dad has offered no support, no encouragement. He has made little effort to contact me since I changed my name beyond a token text about Blackburn once or twice a year, and a Christmas card which he puts through my mum's door for no other reason than to remind her that he's still nearby, living in the house that she was brought up in, less than two miles away.

And do you know the worst part is that I would certainly have some form of relationship with him, if I ever received any kind of inkling that he cared about something besides himself for a second. But I never have.

I love my mum, and I love my brother. They're my family, and they're the two people I'm closest to in the world outside of my partner and Loki. That will never change. But I was absolutely right to cut my dad out of my life for my continuing mental health and it's not your right to tell me that I don't deserve happiness for prioritising my own health over somebody else's manipulations.

Yeah but DNA!1

Corazon de Leon wrote:A bloke in my team's brother got married to a Polish woman a few months back. He went over to her small village for the wedding and said everyone was amazing, but he came back absolutely ruined off the unbelievable amounts of free booze. :lol:

This is pretty much what I’m expecting. :lol:

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by <]:^D » Sat Apr 14, 2018 11:10 am

Corazon de Leon wrote:
more heat than light wrote:
Somebody Else's Problem wrote:
Squinty wrote:
more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


WTF why?


His cousin wanted to see if his username was accurate.


:lol:


Jesus :lol:


very good :lol:

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by Banjo » Sat Apr 14, 2018 11:54 am

Corazon de Leon wrote:I love my mum, and I love my brother. They're my family, and they're the two people I'm closest to in the world outside of my partner and Loki. That will never change.


Well strawberry float you too. :|

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I think I occupy a bit of a weird space with my family, and am probably an example of the kind of thing I'm sure KingK meant in his post. They're all pretty much fine people, caring and will generally be there to help each other out when needed. And I feel almost no connection or attachment to them. I can easily go weeks if not months without speaking to my parents, and have gone years without speaking to cousins I essentially grew up with. My parents separated when I was young and neither has been in a committed relationship since, and I have no siblings. I mostly spent my formative years feeling detached from other people and it's carried through to this day (most times when I contact my parents it's more because I feel I should than because of any innate desire to). I still get on with them, love them even, but they don't particularly factor into my life in any meaningful way. I am far closer to friends than I ever have been to family.

Anyone who's met my parents will likely find it strange to hear me talk about them that way, as when I'm with either my mum or my dad we get along fine. But now we only tend to see each other around twice a year, and I am absolutely fine with that.

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by Squinty » Sat Apr 14, 2018 12:45 pm

Somebody Else's Problem wrote:
Squinty wrote:
more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


WTF why?


His cousin wanted to see if his username was accurate.


:lol:

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by Tafdolphin » Sat Apr 14, 2018 6:50 pm

KingK wrote:I'm sorry but those of you who choose not to speak with members of your own family don't deserve happiness. Sort yourselves out. You don't know how lucky you are to have a family.

I grew up an only child due to my father dying from cancer a couple of months before, yes before, I was born. My mum has no siblings and my late father's brother lived in Australia. I grew up an only child in a single parent family through no fault of anyone. I yearned for a brother or sister for many years but my mum never met anyone else and it never happened.

I'm now married for over 10 yrs and a father of 2 Boys. My mum is still alive and I speak to her every day. Sure, she annoys me sometime but she's my mum and I'll love her and be there for her until her end. She's in her eighties now.

Embrace your family. No matter what.


Can we have a new category in the End of Year awards? It's just this post. No context. Just "Best Insulting Post of the Generation" and this post.

I'm sorry about your dad though. That can't have been easy.

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by Rightey » Mon Apr 16, 2018 7:03 am

more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


+1 for murderous cousins. Two of my second cousins tried to poison my great uncle to get his inheritance, he survived luckily.

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by Mini E » Mon Apr 16, 2018 8:18 am

Rightey wrote:
more heat than light wrote:My cousin tried to kill me and my family by setting fire to our house. We don't really speak any more.


+1 for murderous cousins. Two of my second cousins tried to poison my great uncle to get his inheritance, he survived luckily.


+1 for murderous cousins except mine was successful. Incarcerated in 2003 when I was 12. I wrote to him for the first few years but dropped out of touch as I learned to be disgusted at what he'd done. Must be up for parole in the next few years.

For what it's worth KingK, if I "don't deserve happiness" as I choose not to speak to my father now for myriad reasons (including long-term issues after a death in the immediate family as you had - but a sister rather than a parent) - then so be it. Thank you for opening my eyes to this.

At least this talk of murdering cousins is taking some of heat from KingK's original post. What a happy few pages :lol:

Anyway - 89 days until my wedding!


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