So while I'm still a porter at the hospital I have changed my shift pattern from days to the more unsociable 2-10pm shift. How has this worked for my turbulent marriage? Wonders, as it happens.
We're no longer living in each others pockets, the rotating days off has afforded me time to do stuff around the house that needs doing, taking care of the children has become a rotational thing thus giving us both some breathing space, we row less, the evenings of my days off we do stuff together as a family and when a Friday, Saturday or whole weekend drops we all do something special together, (from board games, ordering a takeaway, to days out together). We're just generally far nicer to each other. More importantly the children have responded to that as they're both so much happier.
You may not think it the most ideal of solutions and I get it, but home life is peaceful again, loving even. How will this pan out long term? I'v no idea, but as far as solutions go for saving my marriage and bringing some of the spark back goes, well it's working out thus far.
<]:^D wrote:holy moly thats some bloody good news. long may it continue
Spoke to the wife earlier (I always phone from work now to say goodnight to the girls). Molly (my eldest) is now going to a friends birthday at TGI Friday so slight change of plan for tomorrow evening. Teenagers!
The little one gets to choose our boardgame for the evening then. No doubt her favourite 'Forbidden Island'.