Relationship Thread V3 + Fade Broke Up With His Tortoise :(

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by Knoyleo » Tue Nov 19, 2019 11:28 am

As far as I'm aware, in France lunchtime is basically synonymous with 12 noon, so she probably thought that was specific enough.

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by Tafdolphin » Tue Nov 19, 2019 11:35 am

Knoyleo wrote:As far as I'm aware, in France lunchtime is basically synonymous with 12 noon, so she probably thought that was specific enough.


It wasn't the specificity really, it was a casual request for her to just say "Ok, it's done!" or something like that. I meant it as a way to show I wanted to accommodate her, she took it as me wanting her to do the work of reminding in place of me putting in any effort.

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by Moggy » Tue Nov 19, 2019 11:50 am

Knoyleo wrote:As far as I'm aware, in France lunchtime is basically synonymous with 12 noon, so she probably thought that was specific enough.


[farage]haha in France lunchtime starts at 10am on a Monday and they then take the rest of the week off and expect the British to pay for it![/farage]

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by Jenuall » Tue Nov 19, 2019 12:01 pm

Do you both work from home Taf? I believe you've said that recently you've been doing freelance stuff which I assume has you working from home?

Just curious as to whether you were actually going to be around one another at "lunch time" as that impacts the situation in a couple of way. If you are together then surely you'll see her at lunch time and therefore know when she has taken the medicine - therefore why would you need to ask for a time? Alternatively if you aren't both at home then surely it doesn't matter specifically when she takes them - just assume that the next time you see her after lunch that she has taken them. :D

That isn't meant to be an accusatory comment/question by the way - I can guarantee that in this situation I would almost certainly have made the same misstep as you did! Goodness knows I've done similar stuff enough in the past!

Similarly on that point if you are both working from home then presumably that would lead to you being around one another quite a lot each day which might be adding to any particular "prickliness" in your interactions - I don't know many couples who don't eventually wind one another up when in the sort of setup that doesn't allow each to have a bit more personal space for a certain amount of each day!

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by Tafdolphin » Tue Nov 19, 2019 1:15 pm

Jenuall wrote:Do you both work from home Taf? I believe you've said that recently you've been doing freelance stuff which I assume has you working from home?

Just curious as to whether you were actually going to be around one another at "lunch time" as that impacts the situation in a couple of way. If you are together then surely you'll see her at lunch time and therefore know when she has taken the medicine - therefore why would you need to ask for a time? Alternatively if you aren't both at home then surely it doesn't matter specifically when she takes them - just assume that the next time you see her after lunch that she has taken them. :D

That isn't meant to be an accusatory comment/question by the way - I can guarantee that in this situation I would almost certainly have made the same misstep as you did! Goodness knows I've done similar stuff enough in the past!

Similarly on that point if you are both working from home then presumably that would lead to you being around one another quite a lot each day which might be adding to any particular "prickliness" in your interactions - I don't know many couples who don't eventually wind one another up when in the sort of setup that doesn't allow each to have a bit more personal space for a certain amount of each day!


We both work from home yeah. And it's definitely affected our relationship. And yeah, in hindsight it was overkill to ask her to tell me when she was taking it. I would have seen her take it, and no doubt she would have pointed it out anyway. Like I say, it was an attempt to externalise my concern for her.

Obviously I didn't think through how it might have been interpreted.

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by Denster » Wed Nov 20, 2019 5:47 pm

I'd just give her some space but show her you care with the small gestures or kindnesses that are particular to you two. I think all you're guilty of is perhaps trying to hard to do that in the first place with the focus on the exact time.

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by Mini E » Wed Nov 27, 2019 7:06 pm

So as of Sunday evening, my 8 1/2 year relationship and 1 1/2 year marriage is over :| All very amicable but pretty strawberry floating grim. Not the best week, this. Have felt physically sick ever since, lost appetite completely, and hadn't eaten since Sunday lunch-time until a couple of hours ago, and now my body is trying to vomit the sandwich I did make myself eat out of surprise. Meh.

Quick, to Grcade etc etc.

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by False » Wed Nov 27, 2019 7:09 pm

sorry bro

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by Corazon de Leon » Wed Nov 27, 2019 8:00 pm

Mini E wrote:So as of Sunday evening, my 8 1/2 year relationship and 1 1/2 year marriage is over :| All very amicable but pretty strawberry floating grim. Not the best week, this. Have felt physically sick ever since, lost appetite completely, and hadn't eaten since Sunday lunch-time until a couple of hours ago, and now my body is trying to vomit the sandwich I did make myself eat out of surprise. Meh.

Quick, to Grcade etc etc.


Sorry to see this mate. If you need to chat, you know where I am.

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by Oblomov Boblomov » Wed Nov 27, 2019 8:00 pm

What the strawberry float man :( sorry to hear it.

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by That's not a growth » Wed Nov 27, 2019 8:18 pm

That's really gooseberry fool to hear, I'm sorry mini e.

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by Tafdolphin » Wed Nov 27, 2019 8:30 pm

Mini E wrote:So as of Sunday evening, my 8 1/2 year relationship and 1 1/2 year marriage is over :| All very amicable but pretty strawberry floating grim. Not the best week, this. Have felt physically sick ever since, lost appetite completely, and hadn't eaten since Sunday lunch-time until a couple of hours ago, and now my body is trying to vomit the sandwich I did make myself eat out of surprise. Meh.

Quick, to Grcade etc etc.


That's terrible, mate I'm sorry.

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by Drumstick » Wed Nov 27, 2019 9:52 pm

strawberry float, that's terrible.

Anything we can do?

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by Victor Mildew » Wed Nov 27, 2019 10:39 pm

Don't suffer on your own miniE, pm any time.

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by Denster » Wed Nov 27, 2019 10:44 pm

Ive been there. It's awful. Hope you're as well as can be expected mate.

That appalling feeling does ease mate. You're experiencing a terrible type of grief and huge loss.
Good luck with it.


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by Rocsteady » Wed Nov 27, 2019 10:52 pm

Sorry to hear that man.

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by Dual » Wed Nov 27, 2019 10:56 pm

gooseberry fool man. I remember you posting about getting married in this thread.

Stay safe bro xxx

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by Jenuall » Wed Nov 27, 2019 10:56 pm

Yeah really sorry to hear that Mini E. Hang in there man and use whatever support networks (including this place!) you have where possible.

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by Hypes » Wed Nov 27, 2019 11:33 pm

Really sorry to hear that.
Perhaps if you're feeling up to it, now might be the time to restart your running, think you said you'd stopped? Doing that or going for bike rides is a good way to clear your head

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by Mini E » Thu Nov 28, 2019 8:42 am

Thanks guys :wub: Some GRcade sympathy is always appreciated :wub: Just not entirely sure what to do with myself at this point until things get better. Running again is probably a good shout, Hyperion :) Thanks.


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